Big Turk Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Pretty interesting insights and from.what we have seen a lot of times, he is saying what nobody wanted to say. https://www.yahoo.com/sports/martellus-bennett-twitter-rant-dark-side-nfl-dangerous-jon-kitna-041609652.html 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jpsredemption Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 This guy is odd. Always has been. He and his brother are toxic figures and have a history of odd behavior and flat out lying. 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H2o Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 He's not lying though. Look at Seau. He killed himself because he couldn't adjust to life after the game. I'm sure a lot of the things he talks about are legit struggles many of these athletes go through. Others have talked about the physical toll the game takes on your body, addictions to prescription drugs, money problems, and numerous other situations. It's something I think about often because my youngest son says this is what he wants to do, play football. He's extremely good at it and loves to hit people. From the beginning, starting at 8 years old, it's like a switch flips when he puts the pads on and buckles that chin strap. I'm not saying I know for certain he will make it to the NFL, but when you look at the bigger picture the question I ask myself is whether I really want him to or not. 5 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 You have to have a dark side to want to play a game where you knock the ***** out of other people? Wow, that's some real insight Marty. 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint Doug Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Unfortunately, people are going to kill themselves. Mathematically speaking, I’m surprised there aren’t more suicides of former players. Doesn’t mean it was caused by playing football in the NFL. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerBill Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 As someone whose dad was a professional soccer player, though not at the top level, I recognise some of what he says. My old man took like 10 years out of soccer in his 40s after playing from 16 to 35 and then coaching for 5 years and he basically was as lonely as ***** because his whole social circle came through soccer. Eventually he went back in age almost 50 to coach at a lower level just because he needed the involvement. It's a real thing for athletes the inability to adjust post career. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beast Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Welcome to the real world. People in almost every profession have a hard time leaving close friends and the bonds behind, as well as their self-worth starts to be questioned. 5 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lagoon Blues Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 minute ago, Beast said: Welcome to the real world. People in almost every profession have a hard time leaving close friends and the bonds behind, as well as their self-worth starts to be questioned. Absolutely! It is just not sports. It happens all the time to people in many different professions. Just part of growing older. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark80 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 28 minutes ago, H2o said: He's not lying though. Look at Seau. He killed himself because he couldn't adjust to life after the game. I'm sure a lot of the things he talks about are legit struggles many of these athletes go through. Others have talked about the physical toll the game takes on your body, addictions to prescription drugs, money problems, and numerous other situations. It's something I think about often because my youngest son says this is what he wants to do, play football. He's extremely good at it and loves to hit people. From the beginning, starting at 8 years old, it's like a switch flips when he puts the pads on and buckles that chin strap. I'm not saying I know for certain he will make it to the NFL, but when you look at the bigger picture the question I ask myself is whether I really want him to or not. He killed himself because of CTE, not because he couldn't adjust after the game but because his brain was so damaged that it was torturing his thoughts to the point he couldn't take it anymore. 2 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
machine gun kelly Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 It’s not that far off. Those brothers are a little odd, but the friends I’ve had who end up in my industry who played pro ball, have articulated similar points. I didn’t read into his comments as he was trashing football, just what it can do to some guys. As much as I love football, payed, and coached, I was a little happy both my sons after a lot of years in football, lacrosse took over their youth sports. It went from all football, to football and lax, to just lax 12 months a year. My oldest had a full ride in lax, but was funny in FL, the team that won the state championships approached my son as their second string QB after watching him throwing with his friends. He had a cannon for an arm, and as accurate as you can imagine, but he lost the passion for football. Part of that was due to the coaches when not me. Bennett’s comments on coaches is partially true. You can tell who is in it for the kids, amd who is in it for themselves. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Noggin Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 "Most of them (coaches) are egotistical small dick heroes." lol 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1st Ammendment NoMas Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 There's a dark side of every job. Some people just don't see it or haven't risen to the level where it is most prevalent. It's your choice to embrace darkness or embrace the light. Using a child's game as an excuse when you make millions is sad and pathetic. I've seen much worse in my industry but choose to avoid it. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thenorthremembers Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 So stop playing. Go get a real job that pays 50 to 100k a year and see how fast you run back to the dark world of football. 5 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H2o Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 20 minutes ago, Mark80 said: He killed himself because of CTE, not because he couldn't adjust after the game but because his brain was so damaged that it was torturing his thoughts to the point he couldn't take it anymore. No, it wasn't just CTE. That almost certainly played a part of it, but there was more to the entire story. https://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/9410051/a-year-later-one-junior-seau-close-friends-comes-forward-recount-version-descent 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Over 29 years of fanhood Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 3 minutes ago, BillsRdue said: There's a dark side of every job. Some people just don't see it or haven't risen to the level where it is most prevalent. It's your choice to embrace darkness or embrace the light. Using a child's game as an excuse when you make millions is sad and pathetic. I've seen much worse in my industry but choose to avoid it. good point. While a lot of what he says is self aware and introspective, as you say, any business formed and run with people has a dark side. I would bet because the amount of money at stake in the nfl and the nature of the business lends to some raw darkness moments, it exists everywhere. consider the military complex. They are in the business of knowingly sending people to risk their lives, not just their health. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 The more that money and/or fame and/or power is involved, the darker things get. Throw in drug/steroid use and a life of constantly being favored because of what you can do/for people and it only gets worse. And the problem with post-career life is that the excitement of the money and/or fame and/or power is gone or mostly gone and that's tough for people to deal with. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 42 minutes ago, Mark80 said: He killed himself because of CTE, not because he couldn't adjust after the game but because his brain was so damaged that it was torturing his thoughts to the point he couldn't take it anymore. It wasnt all CTE. CTE often becomes the convenient excuse/scapegoat because we have such a warped view of mental illness and emotional struggle in this country. These guys would rather blame it on a brain injury than admit they have issues that are not so physical and far more abstract, nuanced, and therefore trickier to treat. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teef Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 i've mentioned it before, but my brother in law played pro sports for a decade plus. he retired a few years ago, and it has been an issue. why? boredom. they're bored out of their minds. they came back "home" to live, but everyone here works during the day, has a schedule with kids at night, etc. it's a sitting around all day, waiting for something to happen scenario. it's a strange thing to be young, wealthy, retired, and unsatisfied. having purpose is a thing. it seems hard to feel sorry for someone in that situation, but it adds an odd stress to their family. 10 minutes ago, DrDawkinstein said: It wasnt all CTE. CTE often becomes the convenient excuse/scapegoat because we have such a warped view of mental illness and emotional struggle in this country. These guys would rather blame it on a brain injury than admit they have issues that are not so physical and far more abstract, nuanced, and therefore trickier to treat. agreed. i'd assume, (and i know it's dangerous to assume) that seau was dealing with mental health issues for some time. i'm sure cte did contribute, but there's likely more there. 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hapless Bills Fan Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, GunnerBill said: As someone whose dad was a professional soccer player, though not at the top level, I recognise some of what he says. My old man took like 10 years out of soccer in his 40s after playing from 16 to 35 and then coaching for 5 years and he basically was as lonely as ***** because his whole social circle came through soccer. Eventually he went back in age almost 50 to coach at a lower level just because he needed the involvement. It's a real thing for athletes the inability to adjust post career. It's not just that, but the social maladjustment starts for a lot of these kids in grade school. They're the best athlete in the school, by a lot. Especially football players get all kinds of adulation from that. Everybody wants to be the star running back's friend. So if you're not the star running back, who are you, and who are your friends? Their personalities and their sports identity sometimes get so intertwined. It doesn't seem to happen to kids who put equivalent effort into success at different endeavors that don't win so much adulation, music or dance, say. Some of these guys have an answer. Some of them don't. It's a main thing that gets missed by the guys here who are like "if I were a star athlete and could pick from 18 hot chicks every night, I'd never get married", missing that what guys like Jerry Hughes or Vince Wilfork get from having a wife who came up with them is the emotional and psychological grounding from someone who believes in them/loves them apart from football. That also becomes the core of the answer how they cope post-career. Starting in grade school, a lot of these kids also get a "free pass" from peers and adults for maladjusted behavior because they're a star athlete. So instead of learning to "throw a switch" on the field and channel their anger, they get away with antisocial behavior until it goes too far, or until they no longer have their football-star status to shield them from consequences. Some of the other stuff, though, it's just normal. I've had different jobs or activities where I got to where I felt close to and socialized with a group of people, then when I moved on, I never saw most of them again. There have been a handful that I've stayed connected with. Partly it's that maintaining a social connection with people you no longer see often is a skill, and not one I'm good at. Part of it is that a lot of the connections were more proximity than "brotha by anotha motha", and over time the friendships where I had more in common than proximity sorted themselves out. 4 2 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
major Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 When I read this my mind went back to a book that I would encourage you all to read called “the dark side of the game” by Tim green. It was published in 1996 and exposes a lot of this and more. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 8 minutes ago, teef said: agreed. i'd assume, (and i know it's dangerous to assume) that seau was dealing with mental health issues for some time. i'm sure cte did contribute, but there's likely more there. He always seemed... off, to me. Even in his younger playing days. That big smile was almost too big. Very Robin Williams-esque, where they are over-doing the smiling and laughing to hide the struggles. I was not surprised that he did not handle retirement well. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerBill Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 5 minutes ago, Hapless Bills Fan said: It's not just that, but the social maladjustment starts for a lot of these kids in grade school. They're the best athlete in the school, by a lot. Especially football players get all kinds of adulation from that. Everybody wants to be the star running back's friend. So if you're not the star running back, who are you, and who are your friends? Their personalities and their sports identity sometimes get so intertwined. It doesn't seem to happen to kids who put equivalent effort into success at different endeavors that don't win so much adulation, music or dance, say. Some of these guys have an answer. Some of them don't. It's a main thing that gets missed by the guys here who are like "if I were a star athlete and could pick from 18 hot chicks every night, I'd never get married", missing that what guys like Jerry Hughes or Vince Wilfork get from having a wife who came up with them is the emotional and psychological grounding from someone who believes in them/loves them apart from football. That also becomes the core of the answer how they cope post-career. Starting in grade school, a lot of these kids also get a "free pass" from peers and adults for maladjusted behavior because they're a star athlete. So instead of learning to "throw a switch" on the field and channel their anger, they get away with antisocial behavior until it goes too far, or until they no longer have their football-star status to shield them from consequences. Some of the other stuff, though, it's just normal. I've had different jobs or activities where I got to where I felt close to and socialized with a group of people, then when I moved on, I never saw most of them again. There have been a handful that I've stayed connected with. Partly it's that maintaining a social connection with people you no longer see often is a skill, and not one I'm good at. Part of it is that a lot of the connections were more proximity than "brotha by anotha motha", and over time the friendships where I had more in common than proximity sorted themselves out. Outstanding post Hap. And you are dead right on the mal adjusted from an early age stuff. Seen that in so many soccer players I have coached too. The ones who were at the top clubs as teenagers and had everything then have slid down are as a rule much more screwed up than the guys who were never the star player as a kid and have just worked at it and worked at and are playing at the best level they will ever play at. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 12 minutes ago, teef said: i've mentioned it before, but my brother in law played pro sports for a decade plus. he retired a few years ago, and it has been an issue. why? boredom. they're bored out of their minds. they came back "home" to live, but everyone here works during the day, has a schedule with kids at night, etc. it's a sitting around all day, waiting for something to happen scenario. it's a strange thing to be young, wealthy, retired, and unsatisfied. having purpose is a thing. it seems hard to feel sorry for someone in that situation, but it adds an odd stress to their family. Great insights, thanks for sharing. And not just that, but lonely, shut out (not allowed in the facility), and no longer "the man". All those years of having folks following you around, telling you how great you are, just disappear. And now no one even wants you around. It's absolutely a difficult transition, and deserves empathy, regardless of how much fame/money they've acquired. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Long Suffering Fan Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Teef and Hap, Just excellent posts. You both said everything that I would have said, except you said it better. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsShredder83 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Mark80 said: He killed himself because of CTE, not because he couldn't adjust after the game but because his brain was so damaged that it was torturing his thoughts to the point he couldn't take it anymore. You think a permanently injured brain (from football) wouldn't make it hard to adjust back? Nobody is saying you need to donate money, it doesn't cost anything to try and put yourself in their shoes. It's a different set of problems than us with 9-5s, doesn't make it less valid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victory Formation Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Not sure if this is a new revelation for him or if he’s had these feelings for awhile now but I think COVID is partially to blame for what many people are going through mentally right now. Could be football, could be the fact that we’ve all been locked inside for a year now and it doesn’t help that we’re going through a brutal winter right now on top of that. I’m a very introverted kind of guy. I don’t need an entourage of 10 different people to follow me around wherever I go, I like being by myself, but gosh darn I do need some human contact. Cant just say this is just football or CTE or depression, I think many normal everyday people are struggling right now, just the way it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsShredder83 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) 35 minutes ago, Hapless Bills Fan said: It's not just that, but the social maladjustment starts for a lot of these kids in grade school. They're the best athlete in the school, by a lot. Especially football players get all kinds of adulation from that. Everybody wants to be the star running back's friend. So if you're not the star running back, who are you, and who are your friends? Their personalities and their sports identity sometimes get so intertwined. It doesn't seem to happen to kids who put equivalent effort into success at different endeavors that don't win so much adulation, music or dance, say. Some of these guys have an answer. Some of them don't. It's a main thing that gets missed by the guys here who are like "if I were a star athlete and could pick from 18 hot chicks every night, I'd never get married", missing that what guys like Jerry Hughes or Vince Wilfork get from having a wife who came up with them is the emotional and psychological grounding from someone who believes in them/loves them apart from football. That also becomes the core of the answer how they cope post-career. Starting in grade school, a lot of these kids also get a "free pass" from peers and adults for maladjusted behavior because they're a star athlete. So instead of learning to "throw a switch" on the field and channel their anger, they get away with antisocial behavior until it goes too far, or until they no longer have their football-star status to shield them from consequences. Some of the other stuff, though, it's just normal. I've had different jobs or activities where I got to where I felt close to and socialized with a group of people, then when I moved on, I never saw most of them again. There have been a handful that I've stayed connected with. Partly it's that maintaining a social connection with people you no longer see often is a skill, and not one I'm good at. Part of it is that a lot of the connections were more proximity than "brotha by anotha motha", and over time the friendships where I had more in common than proximity sorted themselves out. Enjoyed reading that post. I know it took me a few years to find my footing after h.s. school sports ended. It was my personal identity, and I didn't know what to channel that new free time into. I cant imagine how exponentially harder that would've been had I added college or made it to the pros before having that yanked from under me. Seems like the nfl makes a decent effort to help these guys prepare for it, but in that warrior mindset, they don't believe its ever going to happen to THEM. Edited February 3, 2021 by BillsShredder83 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dave mcbride Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) 41 minutes ago, teef said: i've mentioned it before, but my brother in law played pro sports for a decade plus. he retired a few years ago, and it has been an issue. why? boredom. they're bored out of their minds. they came back "home" to live, but everyone here works during the day, has a schedule with kids at night, etc. it's a sitting around all day, waiting for something to happen scenario. it's a strange thing to be young, wealthy, retired, and unsatisfied. having purpose is a thing. it seems hard to feel sorry for someone in that situation, but it adds an odd stress to their family. My closest friend is a lawyer, and after he finished law school he clerked for a federal judge in LA. One of the other clerks was a woman who swam at Stanford and made the Olympic trials. She got close but didn't make it, and then went to Stanford Law School. My friend told me that for her, everything after the high-level college competition she participated in and the serious attempt to make the Olympic team was uninteresting and a letdown. Again, after all of this she graduated from Stanford Law School and was clerking for a federal judge -- hardly someone who was just sitting around the house moping! It's hard to feel bad for someone like that, but my friend felt (and still feels) bad for her because in his view she'd basically concluded that the true high in her life had already happened and would never be replicated. Edited February 3, 2021 by dave mcbride 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaLoko Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Saint Doug said: Unfortunately, people are going to kill themselves. Mathematically speaking, I’m surprised there aren’t more suicides of former players. Doesn’t mean it was caused by playing football in the NFL. Kind of semi related, so I still beg your excuse if it seems it is not, but ourworldindata.com, (btw, a good site to get info about Global economy, education and other social issues, and which I follow for CV19 data), reports near to 800,000 deaths as a yearly rate for suicide, which is (shockingly) even greater (by at least a 100 K) than homicide yearly rate... 1 hour ago, thenorthremembers said: So stop playing. Go get a real job that pays 50 to 100k a year and see how fast you run back to the dark world of football. My company has some openings....🙃 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. WEO Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 I don't see where he's "saying what nobody wanted to say". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teef Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, dave mcbride said: My closest friend is a lawyer, and after he finished law school he clerked for a federal judge in LA. One of the other clerks was a woman who swam at Stanford and made the Olympic trials. She got close but didn't make it, and then went to Stanford Law School. My friend told me that for her, everything after the high-level college competition she participated in and the serious attempt to make the Olympic team was uninteresting and a letdown. Again, after all of this she graduated from Stanford Law School and was clerking for a federal judge -- hardly someone who was just sitting around the house moping! It's hard to feel bad for someone like that, but my friend felt (and still feels) bad for her because in his view she'd basically concluded that the true high in her life had already happened and would never be replicated. this is a definite element that i've seen. my brother in law is always chasing something. it's either a new project, new business venture, new place to live, etc. it's constant, and almost always has let to dissatisfaction. they recently lived in a warm, very wealthy area that they loved at first. after about a year it began to sour. not many people worked due to wealth, day drinking, constant golf and country club parties. it got old when the drinking began at noon every day, so they made the move home. now boredom set in, and guess who's going back to the south? they even bought a cottage last spring as a project. put around $800,000 into it, and it will soon be up for sale. i'm just putting out a few examples here. there are many, many more. Edited February 3, 2021 by teef 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsShredder83 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 8 minutes ago, dave mcbride said: My closest friend is a lawyer, and after he finished law school he clerked for a federal judge in LA. One of the other clerks was a woman who swam at Stanford and made the Olympic trials. She got close but didn't make it, and then went to Stanford Law School. My friend told me that for her, everything after the high-level college competition she participated in and the serious attempt to make the Olympic team was uninteresting and a letdown. Again, after all of this she graduated from Stanford Law School and was clerking for a federal judge -- hardly someone who was just sitting around the house moping! It's hard to feel bad for someone like that, but my friend felt (and still feels) bad for her because in his view she'd basically concluded that the true high in her life had already happened and would never be replicated. Man so spot on. Sports can give you that fire to push yourself past what others can do and what you thought you could ever do, but this is the flip side to it. I could see how this effect would be extra potent to a retired millionaire in his mid 30s. Trying to find something that hits as hard as your career did has got to be a part of the solution, easier said than done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsShredder83 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 5 minutes ago, teef said: this is a definitely element that i've seen. my brother in law is always chasing something. it's either a new project, new business venture, new place to live, etc. it's constant, and almost always has let to dissatisfaction. they recently lived in a warm, very wealthy area that they loved at first. after about a year it began to sour. not many people worked due to wealth, day drinking, constant golf and country club parties. it got old when the drinking began at noon every day, so they made the move home. now boredom set in, and guess who's going back to the south? they even bought a cottage last spring as a project. put around $800,000 into it, and it will soon be up for sale. i'm just putting out a few examples here. there are many, many more. Some type of spirituality, volunteering in a project that interests you, and family seems like the ticket for a lot of folks. Something to give them a strong sense of purpose back. Likely why so many wind up coaching HS ranks or lower, a little bit of all that wrapped into one. Hope your bro finds what hes looking for! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Noggin Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, thenorthremembers said: So stop playing. Go get a real job that pays 50 to 100k a year and see how fast you run back to the dark world of football. Why would you react like this? He wasn't complaining. He was EXplaining. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsShredder83 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, major said: When I read this my mind went back to a book that I would encourage you all to read called “the dark side of the game” by Tim green. It was published in 1996 and exposes a lot of this and more. I met Tim Green in high school under the MOST BIZZARE SITUATION of all time lol!!!! really cool guy, and i was completely star struck. His son bit me in a wrestling match, and Tim was the teams coach. SUs all time sack leader, unless Freeney yanked that record from him 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJS Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Well that's his perspective, but I guarantee you not everyone feels the way he does. Each player's path to the NFL is different. We can't just say that all of them experienced it the same. Absolutely there are some dark things about football, and any other billion dollar industry. Making money often requires exploiting people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 2 hours ago, Beast said: Welcome to the real world. People in almost every profession have a hard time leaving close friends and the bonds behind, as well as their self-worth starts to be questioned. Especially those in a line of work where they lose friends..... I do get what Bennett is saying but as you say, it's the real world. After I stopped playing in college, I keep in touch with about 2 people. So my social circle has changed. 99.99% of the people in the world have to go through adjustments through out life. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tipster19 Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 Wow, I was never a fan of Bennett but he makes a lot sense of what he’s saying. Signing over the permission slip is signing over their identity is very thought provoking. Careful what you wish for. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hapless Bills Fan Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, dave mcbride said: My closest friend is a lawyer, and after he finished law school he clerked for a federal judge in LA. One of the other clerks was a woman who swam at Stanford and made the Olympic trials. She got close but didn't make it, and then went to Stanford Law School. My friend told me that for her, everything after the high-level college competition she participated in and the serious attempt to make the Olympic team was uninteresting and a letdown. Again, after all of this she graduated from Stanford Law School and was clerking for a federal judge -- hardly someone who was just sitting around the house moping! It's hard to feel bad for someone like that, but my friend felt (and still feels) bad for her because in his view she'd basically concluded that the true high in her life had already happened and would never be replicated. That is, IMO, a "self fulfilling prophecy" on her part. The saying is "Follow Your Bliss" and in this case, clearly law school and clerking for a federal judge weren't "her bliss". There's a good chance that something else could be - a different type of athletic endeavor that amateurs continue into middle age such as Iron Man or endurance bicycling? a different sport? coaching youth? using her legal education to help people? switching professions? Lots of choices. A lot of people lead "lives of quiet desperation" because as a young person, they chose a profession that turned out not to really interest or fulfil them that much, then they have bills to pay and family to care for, and either need to suck it up and figure out a career change, or find an avocation that fulfills them. It's not limited to athletes, though I think having tapped into the endorphin/adrenaline rush of high level competition may create a need to find something that continues the same rush. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted February 3, 2021 Share Posted February 3, 2021 3 hours ago, GunnerBill said: As someone whose dad was a professional soccer player, though not at the top level, I recognise some of what he says. My old man took like 10 years out of soccer in his 40s after playing from 16 to 35 and then coaching for 5 years and he basically was as lonely as ***** because his whole social circle came through soccer. Eventually he went back in age almost 50 to coach at a lower level just because he needed the involvement. It's a real thing for athletes the inability to adjust post career. How upset would he be if he saw/heard you referring to it as soccer? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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