Anyone ever get bullied in school?

[Another Fan]

I’m out of touch with today’s generation of kids but sometimes I think about kids who might relish virtual learning.  I probably woulda been one, being bullied that is.

 

In high school I got stuffed in a locker a few times and had it bad on bus rides home from school.  Enough so I’d hide out in the library/bathroom for hours.  Eventually I somewhat confronted it though.  
 

 

Sorry if this thread comes off depressing.  Go Bills 

 

 

 

 

[Gugny]

My son dealt with bullying every year from 4th grade through 11th grade.

 

He is a senior now and actually prefers to go into school.  They are on an every other day schedule at this time.

 

But he has hated school for most of his life and can't wait to put it behind him.

 

A-hole parents raise a-hole kids.  Lots of a-holes where we live, unfortunately.

[Mark Vader]

I was never physically bullied, but I was made fun of a lot.

 

I hated elementary school a lot and I was very naive. Thought that if I treated kids the way I wanted to be treated, they would do so in return.

Boy, was I wrong. It didn't dawn on me until years later that my "friends" during that time were not my friends at all. Real friends do not treat you the way I was treated.

 

When I got to Junior High, things changed a lot for the better. A new school, new kids that I met, and they were so much better than the jerks I had to deal with from elementary.

[Halloween Land]

I was bullied in middle school. I was called Satan by this group of older kids. One kid actually got down on his knees to pray to me. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

I only recall getting bullied once in kindergarten.  This girl who was much larger than I used to make me walk her home or she would punch me in the stomach (she usually punched me regardless).  Went on for at least two weeks before I got the courage to tell my parents and got help.

 

When I got older I was usually much bigger and tougher (humble brag) than most kids in my school.  I tended to be the one who stood up for kids who were being mistreated/bullied.

[Buffalo716]

@Another Fan I'm sorry to hear that

 

Somebody, who had any sort of moral compass should have stood up for you

 

Nobody needs to go through that

[Teddy KGB]

17 minutes ago, Johnny Hammersticks said:

I only recall getting bullied once in kindergarten.  This girl who was much larger than I used to make me walk her home or she would punch me in the stomach (she usually punched me regardless).  Went on for at least two weeks before I got the courage to tell my parents and got help.

 

When I got older I was usually much bigger and tougher (humble brag) than most kids in my school.  I tended to be the one who stood up for kids who were being mistreated/bullied.

like Robin Hood for Nerds ? 

[Augie]

1 hour ago, Johnny Hammersticks said:

I only recall getting bullied once in kindergarten.  This girl who was much larger than I used to make me walk her home or she would punch me in the stomach (she usually punched me regardless).  Went on for at least two weeks before I got the courage to tell my parents and got help.

 

When I got older I was usually much bigger and tougher (humble brag) than most kids in my school.  I tended to be the one who stood up for kids who were being mistreated/bullied.

 

Most of my friends were a year ahead of me, and I was bigger and stronger than them. (I just got there early, then quit.) I’m not sure if I was the bully in middle school, or just hated one jerk of a kid who was messing with others. Some friends were playing “hockey” with 3 pennies on the cafeteria table. A penny went on the floor and A-hole Ron stepped on the penny and refused to let them have it back. That was solved easily enough as I removed Ron from the penny, knocking over a bunch of stuff and causing a ruckus! 

 

Same jerk was blocking the entry to French class causing a backup in the hallway. The teacher wasn’t there yet, so once again I “removed” Ron, knocking over a bunch of desks and chairs. Another teacher heard it and came running. That was my only trip ever to the principals office (in middle school, anyway, funny story about HS). It was probably his 4th trip of the week. They knew who the problem was.

 

I was definitely bullied once as a freshman in HS. A BIG senior from the football team punched me in the shoulder. It would not have been too bad, but he had some giant ring on and it hit a bone. I think this turd wore that ring for a reason. 

 

In HS our son was on the basketball team and an older kid was bullying a big freshman who could really play and made the varsity.  The older kid was losing minutes and giving him a really hard time. My son got in the kids face and told him to stop it. He’d even block the bad kids shots in practice, when they were on the same team!  Legendary stories! The freshman’s parents have gushed over how our son protected their son. Even a decade later, they will cross the room to come talk to us and thank us. I’ve never had the heart to tell them “yeah, my son just really HATED that kid and was looking for any reason to punch him in the face. We were afraid he’d get in big trouble for how much he hated that kid!” 

 

Maybe the apple didn’t fall far from the tree? 

 

 

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Edited November 11, 2020 by Augie

[Johnny Hammersticks]

57 minutes ago, Teddy KGB said:

like Robin Hood for Nerds ? 

 

I guess...lol.  I just always thought picking on kids who couldn’t or wouldn’t defend themselves was lame.  I’m not saying I was a saint, but I would usually at least speak up for those kids.

[EmotionallyUnstable]

2 hours ago, Another Fan said:

I’m out of touch with today’s generation of kids but sometimes I think about kids who might relish virtual learning.  I probably woulda been one, being bullied that is.

 

In high school I got stuffed in a locker a few times and had it bad on bus rides home from school.  Enough so I’d hide out in the library/bathroom for hours.  Eventually I somewhat confronted it though.  
 

 

Sorry if this thread comes off depressing.  Go Bills 

 

 

 

 

virtual learning has its own set of unique psychological dilemmas. There is tons on research on this but one area which I found very interesting: 

 

Kids today see the digital world through Instagram, Twitter, tik tok, etc which provides an altered reality. Photoshop, filters, animations, etc create a sense of perfection within the digital world. Students in today’s world are MUCH more conscious and concerned with their image during virtual learning and fear to make errors or take risks, or look silly and not project themselves in the mirror image of those they see online. Kids even worry about what people can hear/see in the background of their screens.

 

it may be different for some, in the sense that it removes any physical bullying. The digital age has opened a can of worms for children, platforms and parents/educators everywhere that we are still learning to navigate

[Miyagi-Do Karate]

3 minutes ago, EmotionallyUnstable said:

virtual learning has its own set of unique psychological dilemmas. There is tons on research on this but one area which I found very interesting: 

 

Kids today see the digital world through Instagram, Twitter, tik tok, etc which provides an altered reality. Photoshop, filters, animations, etc create a sense of perfection within the digital world. Students in today’s world are MUCH more conscious and concerned with their image during virtual learning and fear to make errors or take risks, or look silly and not project themselves in the mirror image of those they see online. Kids even worry about what people can hear/see in the background of their screens.

 

it may be different for some, in the sense that it removes any physical bullying. The digital age has opened a can of worms for children, platforms and parents/educators everywhere that we are still learning to navigate

good points. 
 

I recommend that all parents read Coddling of the American Mind. It not only talks about the rise of cancel culture on college campuses, but talks a lot about the harms of social media and cyber bullying (as those are linked as the cause of a lot of what we are seeing on campuses with fear and anxiety over speech that is offensive).

The stats are alarming— for girls, there is a direct correlation between screen time and suicide rates. 
 

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/09/the-coddling-of-the-american-mind/399356/

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

School? I got a brother 4 years my senior.  Whatya think?

 

Yeah.  Look at me I am fine!

 

It's like the Army.  Tear you down to build you up! 😉 😜 😘 

[Punching Bag]

In high school I was extremely non-violent and I would let myself be pushed around rather than fight back.  I had very think glasses and was what people thought as a nerd not knowing I played street ball football with adults.

 

I broken my arm playing that street football and finished game without knowing I broke both bones in forearm.  I was nicked named "Como" in high school for Kamikaze.  When my muscles relaxed my lower arm went Z shaped.  I went home, went to doctor, got a cast and was bitched at by my mother not necessarily in same order.

 

Since I had a broken arm I was given 5 extra minutes between classes and I went to my locker to switch books.  While my left arm was in locker a school bully came out, pinned arm in locker and asked me what I was going to do about it so I hit his head with my arm in cast.  He is stunned and I picked him up with left hand around neck and I held him with it over the railing.  We had an open area between school rooms on either side of corridor with sun roof maybe 10-15 feet apart.  My five minutes were gone and corridors were filled with students and they all saw me holding the bully over the railing by the neck.  Assistant principal came out and I was told "Do not drop him!".  The bully is not saying anything for he is turning blue for lack of oxygen.   I said "I am tired of being bullied and will not put up with it anymore." and dropped him on floor - 2nd floor not 1st floor below.  

 

I was suspended for a week (bully was too but not remember how long) and was bitched at by my mother for I broke my cast and it needed to be replaced.  I never was bullied again.  I did hear a conversation once told to one guy who was new to school "Whatever you do here do not mess with him."

[WhoTom]

1 hour ago, Limeaid said:

I did hear a conversation once told to one guy who was new to school "Whatever you do here do not mess with him."

 

Duly noted.  ✌️

 

 

[Patrick Duffy]

Yeah I did get bullied a few times, but then one day I beat that ass. Didn't get bullied any longer. Sometimes unfortunately that's what it takes. Some people just need a good ol fashioned ass whoopin.

[Figster]

20 minutes ago, Patrick_Duffy said:

Yeah I did get bullied a few times, but then one day I beat that ass. Didn't get bullied any longer. Sometimes unfortunately that's what it takes. Some people just need a good ol fashioned ass whoopin.

Or just standing up to them worked for me. After giving up my lunch money so long I said enough is enough

 

Kid needs to eat...

[TBBills]

I used to beat the ***** out of the bullies, football playing, DnD playing,  and a highschool drinking mother *****. I did everything with anyone and my favorite thing to do was fight also. Anyone had a problem with someone obviously weaker than them I would just fight their battle for them. Man I missed highschool back when responsibility only went as far as your parents saw. Did I forget to say I loved to fight back then?  I never understood bullying someone weaker than you, always wanted to challenge the bully. That was back when you couldn't really get in trouble for stuff, knock some kids teeth out and all you got was a two day suspension and a dental bill back then. Now you would probably get kicked out of school...

 

[Figster]

2 minutes ago, TBBills said:

I used to beat the ***** out of the bullies, football playing, DnD playing,  and a highschool drinking mother *****. I did everything with anyone and my favorite thing to do was fight also. Anyone had a problem with someone obviously weaker than them I would just fight their battle for them. Man I missed highschool back when responsibility only went as far as your parents saw. Did I forget to say I loved to fight back then?  I never understood bullying someone weaker than you, always wanted to challenge the bully. That was back when you couldn't really get in trouble for stuff, knock some kids teeth out and all you got was a two day suspension and a dental bill back then. Now you would probably get kicked out of school...

 

Where I went to school the principal had a 3 inches thick,  5 inches wide, 24 inches long wooden paddle with holes drilled through it for maximum velocity. You bent over the principals desk. Stand on your toes and pray all the toilet paper helps. It doesn't.  It would lift you up off the ground.

 

Trust me when I say it hurt way, way more then any pain I could ever dish out or take fighting.

 

The good old days... 

[RaoulDuke79]

Minor stuff because I was alway small until my junior year. It wasn't like it was the same kid or group of kids where I dreaded going to school every day. It was random incidents usually by upperclassmen when I was a freshman and sophomore. 

[JerseyBills]

I was the guy that hated bullies and stuck up for kids who would get bullied. 

It disgusted me,  even though I didn't feel it first hand...

[Irv]

My school was loaded with jerks.  I think I first fought every one of them usually with good results.   You get good with practice and not caring about getting hurt.  

[Doc]

No.  Had these evil twins who were a year ahead of me who tried but they never truly wanted a piece of me.

[Royale with Cheese]

Yep.  I actually looked him up on Facebook and yep....he's in a "motorcycle" gang and gives the middle finger in his pics.  

 

I got tired of him bullying me so I fought him on the bus.  He was much bigger and 3 years older so he whooped me.  He put his knee on the back of my neck and then the bus driver pulled over and got him off of me.  She sent us directly to the Principals office.  

 

He was getting all over us and that's when I knew I wasn't afraid of him anymore.  He was crying like a baby being yelled at.  I was cool, my dad yelled at me all the time so I was used to it.

After that he then became my "friend" and stopped bullying me.  Then a little bit later when the neighborhood kids were playing with squirt guns, he filled his up with pee.  I quit hanging out with him after that.

[BillsFan4]

I got along pretty well with everyone in School. But I did have one kid who tried bullying me, and eventually got a few of his friends to join in. 

Then I got into a fight with the kid that was bullying me. That ended it. The kid never came back to school (dropped out) after our 1 week suspension (for fighting in school) and the other few kids stopped calling me names after that.

 

I found out about 5 years ago that the kid who bullied me is gay, but still mostly in the closet (afaik).

[Jauronimo]

I was bullied in school once.  Some kid called me obtuse one day in math class because I had problems with geometry.  So what if I didn't know what an angle greater than 90 degrees was called? Thats no excuse for insults. 

 

Every day for the next 8 years I made his life hell for it.  Spit balls, pantsings, atomic wedgies, threw all his clothes in the toilet during gym class so he had to wear school issued overalls like a loser.  He wound up switching schools in shame.  Point is, you gotta stand up to bullies!

[Gordio]

I graduated in 91.  My one friend went to St Joes, told me this story of this kid always picking on this weaker kid.  This went on for awhile I guess.  One of the teachers found out about and told the bully he is waiting for him out in the parking lot after school and he is going to kick his a**.  Said lets see how you do fighting against someone your own size.  After school my told me the teacher was waiting for the kid out in the parking lot, word got around school what was going down & there was quite a crowd there too.  The teacher even got on a megaphone and was calling the kid out,  the bully refuse to leave the school.  & guess what, my friend said the bully never picked on the other kid again.

 

IToday's society coddles kids.  I fear for the future.  

[DaBillsFanSince1973]

the school bully was much different in the 60's and 70's. in my case, I was bullied by some brothers, three in all, while on the walk home from school. most of the time a bloody lip or bloody nose was the gist of it and it wasn't long before I started to grow up and they eased up as they didn't take kindly to an ass kicking and eventually the bullying was out grown.

 

today, for some odd reason, kids are committing suicide from posts on the internet, internet bullying. crazy. 

 

too bad those kids today couldn't take to heart the old saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me".

 

instead, they allow some coward of a kid who hides behind the internet to hurt them to the point of no return, again, crazy.

 

this is a crazy world we live in today. 

[US Egg]

I've never told anyone this before, the lunch lady monitors in Jr. High use to gang up on me.

 

Man, I feel so much better sharing that here.

[Gugny]

5 minutes ago, I am the egg man said:

I've never told anyone this before, the lunch lady monitors in Jr. High use to gang up on me.

 

Man, I feel so much better sharing that here.

 

Pic?

[Westside]

I had this kid in grade school try to bully me once. I shivved the mofo.

[BarleyNY]

On 11/11/2020 at 1:08 PM, Another Fan said:

I’m out of touch with today’s generation of kids but sometimes I think about kids who might relish virtual learning.  I probably woulda been one, being bullied that is.

 

In high school I got stuffed in a locker a few times and had it bad on bus rides home from school.  Enough so I’d hide out in the library/bathroom for hours.  Eventually I somewhat confronted it though.  
 

 

Sorry if this thread comes off depressing.  Go Bills 

 

 

 

 

I dealt with bullying up until 8th grade.  I was raised by a single mom (prior to that being so common) and was basically told we’d lose everything we owned if I got into a fight and we got sued.  I was often the smartest boy in class, had curly hair and wouldn’t fight.  You couldn’t draw up a better mark.  Oddly the result of her efforts was to ensure that I was bullied constantly and in fights increasingly.  Also oddly I was a surprisingly good fighter when it came to that.

 

In 7th grade a little ***** got into it and it took forever for me to finally grab him and drive him into the ground, cracking his rib.  Then part 2, which I knew was coming, happened.  Bigger kids went after me because I hurt a smaller kid.  Why really didn’t matter.  Finally I lost my ***** on my mom in 8th grade.  Nothing physical, I just screamed at her and told her all of my problems with fights were her fault. She said “Do what you need to do.”

 

So what precipitated that was a 7th grader getting in my face that day.  Our school was only 7th and 8th grades and even though he was a grade behind me he was the biggest kid in that school.  But thank god he was slow.  I literally ducked his punches they were so slow and I hit him in the face after just about every one.  A teacher finally pulled me off of him.  I really don’t think I actually hurt him all that much, but it looked really one sided.  And that was pretty much it.  I had some occasional issues come up but nothing I didn’t handle.

 

Epilogue:  I took up tae kwon do in college and would up taking third in my state in full contact USTU fighting (lightweight).  Prior to that, just before I got my black belt, I took third fighting collegiate full contact.  So it eventually worked out for me. 

[Nextmanup]

This is just a reminder that children, generally speaking, are evil little demons.

 

I think back to growing up mostly through grade school and how we all behaved and treated one another.

 

A bunch of Catholic kids, too, at a private school.