Are you friends with your neighbors?

[Another Fan]

So I saw on some commercial only 1 in 3 Americans really "know" their neighbors nowadays so to speak.  I forgot what company that was.  

 

Growing up I lived in a working/middle class Italian neighborhood where for the most part people all knew each other and looked out for each other.  One time I remember in high school I forgot my keys to get in the house and one of the neighbors let me stay with her and fed me for a few hours until my mom got home.  

 

It's a bit more of a suburban neighborhood I'm in now where the phone lines are all underground.  For the most part though people don't really socialize like that anymore in my experiences.  I rarely see the neighbors.  I'll say hello but I really don't "know" them.  

 

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

Yes.  They are older, both sides.  60s & 70s.  Have each other's keys, codes... To watch pets, get mail, emergency, etc... When gone.

[Pine Barrens Mafia]

Know them on a first name basis. 

[Seasons1992]

I know some of them, yes. 

[RaoulDuke79]

For the most part. Some of our kids hang out. Know all their names. Definitely on good terms with everyone, but it's not like were having dinner at their houses or anything . I've heard some really bad stories with people having feuds with the neighbors. I'm thankful I'm not in that boat.

Edited July 21, 2019 by RaoulDuke79

[Keukasmallies]

We live in an HOA  community of sixty-seven townhomes.  Almost all owned by retirees.  It appears that most know the names of their neighbors, but even more so know the names of their pets to the extent that they refer to each other as, "Rover's mother" for example.  I know neither the names of the people nor their pets.  However, I can dispense smiles and waves with the best of them. ( I specialize in the Queen Elizabeth vertical palm waggle wave.)

[ExiledInIllinois]

I mow my neighbor's lawn he mows mine... Both sides.  Same with shoveling... They both have blowers.  They blow me.  I shovel them... I get off a lot... So I bring their cans in on Wednesday...

1 minute ago, Keukasmallies said:

We live in an HOA  community of sixty-seven townhomes.  Almost all owned by retirees.  It appears that most know the names of their neighbors, but even more so know the names of their pets to the extent that they refer to each other as, "Rover's mother" for example.  I know neither the names of the people nor their pets.  However, I can dispense smiles and waves with the best of them. ( I specialize in the Queen Elizabeth vertical palm waggle wave.)

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

3 minutes ago, Keukasmallies said:

We live in an HOA  community of sixty-seven townhomes.  Almost all owned by retirees.  It appears that most know the names of their neighbors, but even more so know the names of their pets to the extent that they refer to each other as, "Rover's mother" for example.  I know neither the names of the people nor their pets.  However, I can dispense smiles and waves with the best of them. ( I specialize in the Queen Elizabeth vertical palm waggle wave.)

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

 

Ooops... Sorry for x2 post.  I am like "Visa"... "Everywhere."

[Gugny]

I'm on a corner lot, so I technically have four next door neighbors.  I'm on a first name basis with all of them.  I consider myself friends with one of them - mostly because I've known them for over 20 years, due to working with the wife from the late 90s- 2014.  The other three are a mixed bag.  All nice - on the surface.  One is a whacko (and a kindergarten teacher, SMH).  The neighbors to my right are busy bodies and, what I like to call, "fake rich people."  Pretentious *****.  The neighbors behind me ... hubby is pretty cool.  Can be a pain in the ass at times with poorly timed small talk.  Wife is a smokeshow, but a weird b-word.  They are part of one of those cult churches.  When their daughter and my son were 5, she told him that he was going to hell because we didn't go to church.  Cute, eh?

 

There are 84 houses in our subdivision.  I'm on a first name basis with over 20 of the families.  But I've only been to others' houses a handful of times.  So I would not consider them "friends," per se.  We are, however, friendly.

[ExiledInIllinois]

4 minutes ago, Gugny said:

I'm on a corner lot, so I technically have four next door neighbors.  I'm on a first name basis with all of them.  I consider myself friends with one of them - mostly because I've known them for over 20 years, due to working with the wife from the late 90s- 2014.  The other three are a mixed bag.  All nice - on the surface.  One is a whacko (and a kindergarten teacher, SMH).  The neighbors to my right are busy bodies and, what I like to call, "fake rich people."  Pretentious *****.  The neighbors behind me ... hubby is pretty cool.  Can be a pain in the ass at times with poorly timed small talk.  Wife is a smokeshow, but a weird b-word.  They are part of one of those cult churches.  When their daughter and my son were 5, she told him that he was going to hell because we didn't go to church.  Cute, eh?

 

There are 84 houses in our subdivision.  I'm on a first name basis with over 20 of the families.  But I've only been to others' houses a handful of times.  So I would not consider them "friends," per se.  We are, however, friendly.

The problem sounds like it's you.  LoL... Who on God's Flat Earth has an assessment of their neighbors like this?

 

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[Nextmanup]

13 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

I mow my neighbor's lawn he mows mine... Both sides.  Same with shoveling... They both have blowers.  They blow me.  I shovel them... I get off a lot... So I bring their cans in on Wednesday...

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

 

Ooops... Sorry for x2 post.  I am like "Visa"... "Everywhere."

 

The highlighted is definitely more than we needed to know, though they do sound like particularly courteous neighbors.

 

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

I wonder what @BringBackFergy @Cripple Creek & @mead107 think of @Gugny 's exact numbers & neighborhood assessment?  How many unattended smokers & grills are there?

 

If only @\GoBillsInDallas/ could help! 

Edited July 21, 2019 by ExiledInIllinois

[DaBillsFanSince1973]

Hatfield's to the left of me, McCoy's to the right. I find myself hollering...

 

 

 

[Gugny]

2 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

The problem sounds like it's you.  LoL... Who on God's Flat Earth has an assessment of their neighbors like this?

 

?

 

I honestly can't stand the town I live in.  I grew up here.  It's worse as an adult than it was as a child.  A bunch of snobby a-holes who raise other snobby a-holes.  I keep to myself and that makes everything better.

[Gray Beard]

I will make small talk with neighbors while walking the dog, doing yard work, etc. Mostly we talk about harmless things like the weather, growing plants, pruning trees, dogs, etc.  We have been neighbors for 20 or more years, and have only been inside each other’s houses once or twice.

[Rocket94]

5 minutes ago, Gugny said:

 

I honestly can't stand the town I live in.  I grew up here.  It's worse as an adult than it was as a child.  A bunch of snobby a-holes who raise other snobby a-holes.  I keep to myself and that makes everything better.

I grew up in a village like that. Visitors tell me that it is so wonderful and the people are so nice! Well guess what...you only went there for lunch!

Edited July 21, 2019 by Rocket94

[RaoulDuke79]

29 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

I mow my neighbor's lawn he mows mine... Both sides.  Same with shoveling... They both have blowers.  They blow me.  I shovel them... I get off a lot... So I bring their cans in on Wednesday...

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

You sound like my FiL... He "speaks" to his neighbors... Which means a terse flick of wrist, wave and nod of head.

 

Ooops... Sorry for x2 post.  I am like "Visa"... "Everywhere."

Sounds like a very open minded community.  

Edited July 21, 2019 by RaoulDuke79

[ExiledInIllinois]

1 minute ago, RaoulDuke79 said:

Sounds like a very open community.  

LoL... Only my two neighbors... The rest of da hood really blows!

 

 

[K-9]

36 minutes ago, Keukasmallies said:

We live in an HOA  community of sixty-seven townhomes.  Almost all owned by retirees.  It appears that most know the names of their neighbors, but even more so know the names of their pets to the extent that they refer to each other as, "Rover's mother" for example.  I know neither the names of the people nor their pets.  However, I can dispense smiles and waves with the best of them. ( I specialize in the Queen Elizabeth vertical palm waggle wave.)

[CookieG]

We know most of our immediate neighbors, those adjacent and across the street. Most are nice people.

 

Its nothing like where I grew up though. Everyone knew everyone. Even today, I can go back to my mom's house and remember the name of everyone who lived on our street, five houses either way, everyone on the street behind us, 90% of those who lived on the street connected to the street behind us, and half of the people who lived on the street beyond that one. Hell, there was a mafia kingpin on the last street mentioned.

 

We'd have a neighborhood block party every year with about 100-150 people who attended. Times were different in suburbia back in the60's and 70s

 

 

[mead107]

I know my neighbors. 

I mow the 2 lawns next to me. 

Neighbors on right side of us at getting close to 85 and he has been up at the rehabilitation place for the last 8 months.  (Not sure he will ever get back home.) his wife goes up and sees him every day. 

Been our neighbor since we moved in back in early 80s. 

Left side of us are young couple 3 kids - boy 4, twin girls 1 and a half. 

Across the street on each corner one couple moved in mid 80s other couple 12 years ago. 

Lot of new young couples with kids under 8 have moved in last 3-4 years. Probably 8 house in our neighborhood (48 houses) 

lot of good neighbors 

 

 

I can’t wait to move in with Gugny next year so he can feed me and change my diaper. 

[Cripple Creek]

52 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

 

If only @\GoBillsInDallas/ could help! 

So close.

[ExiledInIllinois]

18 minutes ago, mead107 said:

I know my neighbors. 

I mow the 2 lawns next to me. 

Neighbors on right side of us at getting close to 85 and he has been up at the rehabilitation place for the last 8 months.  (Not sure he will ever get back home.) his wife goes up and sees him every day. 

Been our neighbor since we moved in back in early 80s. 

Left side of us are young couple 3 kids - boy 4, twin girls 1 and a half. 

Across the street on each corner one couple moved in mid 80s other couple 12 years ago. 

Lot of new young couples with kids under 8 have moved in last 3-4 years. Probably 8 house in our neighborhood (48 houses) 

lot of good neighbors 

 

 

I can’t wait to move in with Gugny next year so he can feed me and change my diaper. 

+1,0000 how a society should be set up!

 

@Gugny will contract out that diaper changing... Hope you like Jesus!

 

Now... Especially, stay put for 30 years.  All this flipping shiest is what causes problems... Skyrocketing housing costs...

 

"...And the thing that you're hearing is only the sound of
The low spark of high-heeled boys
The percentage you're paying is too high a price
While you're living beyond all your means
And the man in the suit has just bought a new car 
From the profit he's made on your dreams
But today you just read that the man was shot dead 
By a gun that didn't make any noise
But it wasn't the bullet that laid him to rest was 
The low spark of high-heeled boys..."

2 minutes ago, Cripple Creek said:

So close.

ESSAYONS!

[Patrick Duffy]

I had a hot mid-upper 20 something yr old neighbor where I used to live a few years ago. And of course her bathroom window was facing my bedroom window. Her bathroom windows blinds were always up and bathroom window curtain always open. Maybe she was giving me one of the "porn scenario" signs to come on over. ?

Edited July 21, 2019 by Patrick_Duffy

[Augie]

There are about 75 houses in our neighborhood, but only ONE with a kid. A bunch of old farts, about half retired....so I fit right in. (We are actually about 10-15 years younger than average, I’d say.) Once or twice a year they will throw a bash open to everybody at someone’s house. The lady next door is from Buffalo and helped us out A LOT early as we bought the house a year before moving here full time 9 years ago. Furniture deliveries, workers, etc. 

 

There are maybe a half dozen families we’ll do things with....maybe an occasional dinner or go to an event, but it’s far too rare. In fact, we are going to look at a house in another neighborhood at 4:30. Half to decide if we keep pumping money into this house, or just put it into a house where it’s already done. We are the real live love it or list it couple. 

[stony]

4 minutes ago, Patrick_Duffy said:

I had a hot mid-upper 20 something yr old neighbor where I used to live a few years ago. And of course her bathroom window was facing my bedroom window. Her bathroom window was always open. Maybe she was giving me one of the "porn scenario" signs to come on over.

I think I’ve seen that one. 

[Marv's Neighbor]

Always try to be but have had our share of losers over the years.  Right now, one side is a youngish couple with 2 pre-schoolers, and they are very nice.  the other side is a nutcase and has at least 15 cats.  We love cats, just not his!  Hope he'll move but we've been here 15 years and he was here when we bought.  His wife left him a few years ago because he was abusive, so now it's just him and the cats.  The inside must smell delightful!

[RaoulDuke79]

13 minutes ago, Patrick_Duffy said:

I had a hot mid-upper 20 something yr old neighbor where I used to live a few years ago. And of course her bathroom window was facing my bedroom window. Her bathroom windows blinds were always up and bathroom window curtain always open. Maybe she was giving me one of the "porn scenario" signs to come on over. ?

She's probably on a message board somewhere telling everyone how her neighbor always had hand lotion and a box of tissues on his bedroom windowsill. 

[Marv's Neighbor]

1 minute ago, Marv's Neighbor said:

Always try to be but have had our share of losers over the years.  Right now, one side is a youngish couple with 2 pre-schoolers, and they are very nice.  the other side is a nutcase and has at least 15 cats.  We love cats, just not his!  Hope he'll move but we've been here 15 years and he was here when we bought.  His wife left him a few years ago because he was abusive, so now it's just him and the cats.  The inside must smell delightful!

Forgot to mention, he's a Miami fan.

[RaoulDuke79]

3 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said:

Always try to be but have had our share of losers over the years.  Right now, one side is a youngish couple with 2 pre-schoolers, and they are very nice.  the other side is a nutcase and has at least 15 cats.  We love cats, just not his!  Hope he'll move but we've been here 15 years and he was here when we bought.  His wife left him a few years ago because he was abusive, so now it's just him and the cats.  The inside must smell delightful!

Anyone with more than 2 cats cant be trusted.  I'm surprised Marv decided to go that direction.

Edited July 21, 2019 by RaoulDuke79

[BUFFALOKIE]

I an friends with my neighbor on my right...very sweet Zimbabwen family. Now, my last house (my first as a mid thirties single dad) yeah, I had three single mother  "friends" within a stone's throw. They all liked to compare notes, no *****.

 

Edit: Actually one was married. I still feel ***** about that one.

Edited July 21, 2019 by BUFFALOKIE

[Marv's Neighbor]

28 minutes ago, RaoulDuke79 said:

Anyone with more than 2 cats cant be trusted.  I'm surprised Marv decided to go that direction.

Did not say we had them.

[Misterbluesky]

I've spent a lot of money on white vinyl fencing..6 feet.

My bride talks to the neighbors because she walks the dog and loves to bull#### with people.

I smile and wave to them..when they start to gab and ask stupid questions..I simply tell them I'm busy with something.

A few years ago..the woman across the street would actually come over into my garage if she saw me out...

I shut that down..luckily split.

[Marv's Neighbor]

1 hour ago, Misterbluesky said:

I've spent a lot of money on white vinyl fencing..6 feet.

My bride talks to the neighbors because she walks the dog and loves to bull#### with people.

I smile and wave to them..when they start to gab and ask stupid questions..I simply tell them I'm busy with something.

A few years ago..the woman across the street would actually come over into my garage if she saw me out...

I shut that down..luckily split.

It's OK to use the "Buffalo brush off" with neighbors, when applicable.

[Buffalo_Gal]

The BEST thing about my neighborhood is since Gladys Kravitz next door (and her BFF down the street) moved out no one knows anyone anymore!

I know the names of two of my neighbors, and couldn't pick the rest of 'em out of a police lineup.  However, due to good ole Gladys, I do know what my neighbor's medical practices specializes in... having a heart attack or a stroke? My street (assuming anyone is home) is a better place to have it than a hospital! 

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

1 hour ago, Misterbluesky said:

I've spent a lot of money on white vinyl fencing..6 feet.

My bride talks to the neighbors because she walks the dog and loves to bull#### with people.

I smile and wave to them..when they start to gab and ask stupid questions..I simply tell them I'm busy with something.

A few years ago..the woman across the street would actually come over into my garage if she saw me out...

I shut that down..luckily split.

You've become OLD!  LoL...

[SinceThe70s]

Friendly, yes. Friends, no. We know most of the neighbors and there were attempts to socialize years ago, but it just never clicked for us.

 

My wife is pretty friendly with a mother across the street. They go walking together and text regularly - our kids are the same age but they have girls and we have boys.

 

I do the wave and exchange pleasantries but that's about it.

[Teddy KGB]

Hell no.     Those bastards never say hi 

[Misterbluesky]

25 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

You've become OLD!  LoL...

Mentally..I feel comfortable.

Physically..my last fight was against your brother's friend (Warner Kubanik),I dropped him.that was over 20 years ago.

Life is what Christ decides to give you.

Challenges never bothered me..that's why I left for the Marines.I 

When I came back home.mom was ill..I stayed.I was there for her death.

Old...yes sir

seasoned..yes sir

[Misterbluesky]

1 hour ago, Marv's Neighbor said:

It's OK to use the "Buffalo brush off" with neighbors, when applicable.

Do you see the difference?

If you lived next to me here in B-low..we would see each other out front on a Monday morning..getting the,paper, mail,garbage cans etc

You want whiskey or coffee..both?

We talk about the game/s....and then we eat sandwiches together..you leave by 1 after getting into my home around noon.

Within ONE HOUR..

Belly is full

We talked football..maybe some politics

Then you go back home to sit alone

 

We could have spent 3 hours talking about the game and most likely described it better than the national/local media did.

[Whatnot78]

Yup...fish with one neighbor and hang out often.  Hunt with another. A third is moving soon.  Most of the other neighbors are acquaintances, not such much friends.