Another Fan Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I’m definitely more an introvert. I like time to myself and view social stuff as things I have to plow my way through. I can be nervous being around people I even know well. If if you met me irl there’s a good chance you’d think I’m quiet. Of course that’s just me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Introvert, alone time recharges me You would open up if you felt it was worthwhile or had to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 extrovert with a small group of friends. introvert with a large group of friends. I do get a little uncomfortable with larger groups of people. Seinfield is the perfect amount of friends that I feel most comfortable in. 5 minutes ago, row_33 said: Introvert, alone time recharges me You would open up if you felt it was worthwhile or had to. I got divorced 3 months ago. I actually love being alone right now. Feels really good. I'll eventually date again but not in any rush....I like the peace. I had a friend go through a divorce just 2 weeks ago and started dating even before it was official. He just can't be alone, it kills him. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeGOATski Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I feel like "introvert" has been a trendy phrase lately. A lot of people using it to describe themselves shouldn't be. I'm not accusing the OP of this. It's just something I've noticed. 2 of the more outspoken people I know have called themselves introverts and I just roll my eyes. Like how calling yourself a nerd became trendy. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Info Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 There is a general consensus that introvert/extrovert are not black & white. Rather, there is an ambivert. For example, someone who behaves as an extrovert in social situations but an introvert otherwise. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201711/are-you-extravert-introvert-or-ambivert%3famp Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 36 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: I got divorced 3 months ago. I actually love being alone right now. Feels really good. I'll eventually date again but not in any rush....I like the peace. I had a friend go through a divorce just 2 weeks ago and started dating even before it was official. He just can't be alone, it kills him. I like my alone time too but I started dating five months before my divorce was final. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 (edited) you finally get home on a Friday after a horrible week of work and you are exhausted. your phone is buzzing, your friend is calling in a chit and you are going to have to fill in for a cancellation at his dinner party in one hour, you can't back out of it you: 1) Think "this is great", a chance to get over the pain by talking and chatting with small talk galore, I love meeting new people!! or 2) you stare at your straight razor and wonder what the minimal cut you can do to yourself to get admitted to emerg so you have an excuse to get out of this hell. 38 minutes ago, LeGOATski said: I feel like "introvert" has been a trendy phrase lately. A lot of people using it to describe themselves shouldn't be. I'm not accusing the OP of this. It's just something I've noticed. 2 of the more outspoken people I know have called themselves introverts and I just roll my eyes. Like how calling yourself a nerd became trendy. Introvert means given your wishes you would like to recharge the batteries on your own. Introverts can yak it up when they are up to it. Edited January 31, 2019 by row_33 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, KD in CA said: I like my alone time too but I started dating five months before my divorce was final. Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BringBackOrton Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 7 minutes ago, Mr Info said: There is a general consensus that introvert/extrovert are not black & white. Rather, there is an ambivert. For example, someone who behaves as an extrovert in social situations but an introvert otherwise. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201711/are-you-extravert-introvert-or-ambivert%3famp Being social in social situations while also being able to enjoy alone time used to just be called normal. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Generally speaking, the smaller the crowd, the more extroverted I am. I'm okay in larger crowds, as long as I know at least a few people. Large crowds where I don't know anyone - I get out of that situation as quickly as possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloBud Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 42 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: I got divorced 3 months ago. I actually love being alone right now. Feels really good. I'll eventually date again but not in any rush....I like the peace. Fully understand where you are coming from. You'll find the time / place / person. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Augie Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I’m more of an innie than an outie. I have a date tonight. With my wife. It’s the other thousand people who will be at the event that annoy me. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, Gugny said: Generally speaking, the smaller the crowd, the more extroverted I am. I'm okay in larger crowds, as long as I know at least a few people. Large crowds where I don't know anyone - I get out of that situation as quickly as possible. You sound exactly like me. In large crowds, I usually stay by at least a few people I know really well. I'm not a mingler all across the area. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Royale with Cheese said: You sound exactly like me. In large crowds, I usually stay by at least a few people I know really well. I'm not a mingler all across the area. Me, neither. I went to a wedding last fall without a date. Only people I knew were the bride and her family ... so they were all in the wedding party. I was seated at the reception with a bunch of people I didn't know - all about 20 years younger than me. I left about 10 minutes after I ate. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Augie Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Gugny said: Generally speaking, the smaller the crowd, the more extroverted I am. I'm okay in larger crowds, as long as I know at least a few people. Large crowds where I don't know anyone - I get out of that situation as quickly as possible. Over the years we’ve attended countless (mostly work related) events. I generally sit at my table of eight and have a nice conversation with the folks around me, while my wife is out working the rest of the room and meeting the other 400 people. She often doesn’t return until after dessert is served, so I’m basically alone and need to make friends with the people next to me. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, Gugny said: Me, neither. I went to a wedding last fall without a date. Only people I knew were the bride and her family ... so they were all in the wedding party. I was seated at the reception with a bunch of people I didn't know - all about 20 years younger than me. I left about 10 minutes after I ate. We have a bunch of Public Accountants that come over all the time to our work...it's usually people in the mid 20's. I make chit chat with almost anyone at work but I usually never do with them. Not that I dislike them, I just think of myself as the old guy that doesn't have anything in common with them so the conversation would be awkward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buffalo_Gal Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I am a misanthrope who can function well in large or small groups. I am not an introvert really, I simply avoid people because I generally hate them. ? 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teef Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 when i'm out i typically prefer to be left alone, but for the love of god, i'm the guy that every weirdo wants to get into a conversation with. if i go away for continuing education, i love to sit and the bar and eat my myself. sure enough i get into long, random conversations with other customers or bartenders. last week at the gym a guy kept showing me pictures on his phone because i look like on of his friends. do this guy think i really give a *****? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plenzmd1 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 (edited) I prefer to stay home and not socialize!!!!? Man, no one wants to claim they are an extrovert? @Augie is full of poop, he is the most extroverted person on this board. I am still the guy who sits at the bar without my cell phone out if I am by myself cause i want to start a conversation with the person next to me. Afetr the Sabres-Hurricanes game, had no issue going into the nearby bar and meeting new folks/Sabre fans..and I was by myself that night. Ended up meeting the sister of a dude i went to high school with in the Falls! 21 minutes ago, Gugny said: Me, neither. I went to a wedding last fall without a date. to absolutely no one's surprise!? Edited January 31, 2019 by plenzmd1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeGOATski Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 26 minutes ago, row_33 said: Introvert means given your wishes you would like to recharge the batteries on your own. Introverts can yak it up when they are up to it. No. That's way too basic, my dude. You're describing most people. Most people prefer to "recharge their batteries" on their own. Introverts prefer to be by themselves or with only close friends pretty much always. Even when fully "charged." But, it's more of a mental tendency than a social tendency. Just inwardly focused instead of outwardly. Not talking is a product of that, because there's no need to talk. The introvert is simply working it out by themselves, in their mind. Not seeking other's opinion or needing any sound board. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, plenzmd1 said: I prefer to stay home and not socialize!!!! Man, no one wants to claim they are an extrovert? @Augie is full of poop, he is the most extroverted person on this board. I am still the guy who sits at the bar without my cell phone out if I am by myself cause i want to start a conversation with the person next to me. Afetr the Sabres-Hurricanes game, had no issue going into the nearby bar and meeting new folks/Sabre fans..and I was by myself that night. Ended up meeting the sister of a dude i went to high school within the Falls! to absolutely no ones surprise! It's the initiating of conversations that I'm uncomfortable with. If someone engages me, I'll talk no problem. I'm just not one to get the ball rolling. And you ... you're a prick! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plenzmd1 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Gugny said: It's the initiating of conversations that I'm uncomfortable with. If someone engages me, I'll talk no problem. I'm just not one to get the ball rolling. And you ... you're a prick! My coach always uses to say..you are a real prince, spelled p-r-i-c-k!!!! Its funny when you say it out loud and slow 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bdutton Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 43 minutes ago, Mr Info said: There is a general consensus that introvert/extrovert are not black & white. Rather, there is an ambivert. For example, someone who behaves as an extrovert in social situations but an introvert otherwise. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201711/are-you-extravert-introvert-or-ambivert%3famp I am definitely an ambivert. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 21 minutes ago, LeGOATski said: No. That's way too basic, my dude. You're describing most people. Most people prefer to "recharge their batteries" on their own. Introverts prefer to be by themselves or with only close friends pretty much always. Even when fully "charged." But, it's more of a mental tendency than a social tendency. Just inwardly focused instead of outwardly. Not talking is a product of that, because there's no need to talk. The introvert is simply working it out by themselves, in their mind. Not seeking other's opinion or needing any sound board. no they don't, most people have a relationship and DO THINGS with other people, they PUT UP WITH their in-laws for half their weekends you have some real bug up your kiester over being an introvert, let it go, relax and unclench... sorry, you want a "scientific" answer to all this..... good freakin luck, sport.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teef Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 10 minutes ago, teef said: i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself. most roommates and people in my life have been apoplectic that I could sit on the couch watching sports all afternoon to recharge there's various levels of sitting on the Intro/Extro scale if one feels they are sick or outside the boundaries of healthy existence, then read up on this stuff, try the Briggs-Meyer, find out the strengths and weaknesses of your worldview and try to work on both of them. don't listen to the extroverts wanting you to join them in their boredom, when they have no real useful thing to do with your precious time... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 10 minutes ago, KD in CA said: 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank. each person is different and takes their own path extrovert have trouble grasping this quite often Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, KD in CA said: 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank. I've been told that it can be tough to get a date online because girls get their inbox filled up every day. You're like a needle in a haystack. Have you heard the same? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marv's Neighbor Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 30 minutes ago, teef said: i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself. Kind of like an older Kevin McCallister? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teef Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 4 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said: Kind of like an older Kevin McCallister? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpberr Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I'm an introvert and a "professional" extrovert, trained in public speaking, the country club chit-chat and the uncomfortable times sitting at a table with strangers. It's on a level of professional acting. I look like I belong but I'd love nothing more than to run for the exits and find a forest without a soul in it. Public speaking/events exhaust me. It's a 2:1 ratio. For every event I have to present or glad hand, I need twice the amount of alone time to recover. Besides being a podiatrist, the job in hell for me is a car salesman. Couldn't handle people all day, every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RochesterRob Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. I did the old fashioned dating service before my wife came along. Online dating can't be any worse. It's not like people were intensely screened for character years ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Augie Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, plenzmd1 said: I prefer to stay home and not socialize!!!!? Man, no one wants to claim they are an extrovert? @Augie is full of poop, he is the most extroverted person on this board. I am still the guy who sits at the bar without my cell phone out if I am by myself cause i want to start a conversation with the person next to me. Afetr the Sabres-Hurricanes game, had no issue going into the nearby bar and meeting new folks/Sabre fans..and I was by myself that night. Ended up meeting the sister of a dude i went to high school with in the Falls! to absolutely no one's surprise!? I am indeed full of poop, but thanks to you I know there is an app telling me where to get rid of it! As for the rest of us, we are the people sitting at the bar who spot you immediately and do everything in our power to avoid eye contact. We know your type! ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Fan Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Gugny said: Me, neither. I went to a wedding last fall without a date. Only people I knew were the bride and her family ... so they were all in the wedding party. I was seated at the reception with a bunch of people I didn't know - all about 20 years younger than me. I left about 10 minutes after I ate. This sort of thing happened at a wedding I went to a couple months ago. Most people there I didn’t know and the few people I knew were getting a bit drunk/aggressive/overly obnoxious for my liking. I’d of left early but unfortunately I had to wait for a bus to bring us back to the hotel I was staying in. Wedding was 4 hours away so I didn’t know the area at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 3 minutes ago, Another Fan said: This sort of thing happened at a wedding I went to a couple months ago. Most people there I didn’t know and the few people I knew were getting a bit drunk/aggressive/overly obnoxious for my liking. I’d of left early but unfortunately I had to wait for a bus to bring us back to the hotel I was staying in. Wedding was 4 hours away so I didn’t know the area at all Damn, that stinks. I was 15 minutes from home. I had a couple beers during cocktail hour. Another couple between dinner and watching the "important" dances (father/daughter, first dance, etc.). Then I disappeared. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Hammersticks Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Extrovert here. The more people the better. Love parties and can carry on a conversation with just about anyone. Although, as mentioned earlier in this thread, as I have grown older (and there is less opportunity for it) I do enjoy time by myself or just with my family. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 hours ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. You should ask @Boyst62 for online dating advice, like what apps to try, what interests get the most attention, should you post dick pics, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 5 minutes ago, Just Jack said: You should ask @Boyst62 for online dating advice, like what apps to try, what interests get the most attention, should you post dick pics, etc. Do you think SDS would be open to that here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: Do you think SDS would be open to that here? Well, this is not a dating site, so probably not. But if you're interested, @Gugny is single if you're into that type. Edited January 31, 2019 by Just Jack Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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