leh-nerd skin-erd Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 16 hours ago, Wacka said: I have mentioned my elderly mom on this board before. She lost her battle with dementia this afternoon. She had turned 95 on 9/1. She was a widow since 1990 when my dad died at 60. She had shown slight signs in her late 80s, but her mobility was greatly reduced when she broke a foot about 4 years ago. She was able to be by herself until almost 3 years ago, when she caught pneumonia and then needed constant supervision. She declined slowly and her doctor referred her to Hospice (angels on earth) in April. They were coming every 2 weeks and then weekly, and after her birthday, she quickly went downhill. We called them Sunday and had them check her vitals that were OK. They were scheduled to come today, but we asked them to come earlier in the day if possible. They did and provided her oxygen at 3 or 4. She passed about 6:50. At home and in bed like she wanted. If you are younger, cherish every moment with your parents. We only have so much . She helped me when I has in trouble and I was glad to help her out now in this part of her life. God Bless Wacka. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExWNYer Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 Sorry for your loss and my sincere condolences. I lost my mom in 2008 at the all too young age of 66 and my dad in 2019 a month shy of his 77th birthday. There is not a day that goes by where I don't miss them. Losing your parents, or anyone you love for that matter, is the hardest thing in life. Peace. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BringBackFergy Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 Very sorry Wacka. She lived a long life and glad you were able to share so many of those years with her. God bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RaoulDuke79 Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 So sorry for your loss. May she find peace. As I get older I often reflect on where the time went. 95 years may seem like a long time, I'm happy you got to enjoy her company for as long as you did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wacka Posted September 22, 2021 Author Share Posted September 22, 2021 Today just after my sis and BIL go to the funeral home to make arrangements(My mom, bro, and me are COVID Positive but sis negative). They call us with the arrangements and minutes later, I get THREE calls from my mom's phone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TSNBDSC Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 Thoughts and prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zona Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 I am very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dhg Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 So sorry for your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Fan Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 15 hours ago, Wacka said: Today just after my sis and BIL go to the funeral home to make arrangements(My mom, bro, and me are COVID Positive but sis negative). They call us with the arrangements and minutes later, I get THREE calls from my mom's phone! My grandmother died earlier in the year and my dad got Covid along with his brother and sister. He tested positive before the funeral and didn’t attend service. I’m still not sure the whole time line of events. Condolences. Sorry it sounds you can’t attend as well? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wacka Posted September 23, 2021 Author Share Posted September 23, 2021 We are going to have the wake on October 1 and bury her on October 2. My sis is negative but me and my bro will be out of quarrentine. October 1 is the 31st anniversary of my dad's death. My mom was also positive so according to state laws, we have to have a closed casket and she has to be in a bag in the casket. We will have a nice picture of her that my sister had taken when they took her on a cruise about 10 years ago displayed. The funeral director says you can provide up to 40-50 pictures and he makes a video montage he runs in the room. I saw that at my aunts's (her sister) wake about 7 years ago. We are including a very nice picture of her and my dad of them out at a nightclub at least 65 years ago (when they were dating). We were showing her that photo in the mornings to try to jump start her memory as the dementia took its toll. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldmanfan Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 On 9/21/2021 at 10:33 PM, Wacka said: I have mentioned my elderly mom on this board before. She lost her battle with dementia this afternoon. She had turned 95 on 9/1. She was a widow since 1990 when my dad died at 60. She had shown slight signs in her late 80s, but her mobility was greatly reduced when she broke a foot about 4 years ago. She was able to be by herself until almost 3 years ago, when she caught pneumonia and then needed constant supervision. She declined slowly and her doctor referred her to Hospice (angels on earth) in April. They were coming every 2 weeks and then weekly, and after her birthday, she quickly went downhill. We called them Sunday and had them check her vitals that were OK. They were scheduled to come today, but we asked them to come earlier in the day if possible. They did and provided her oxygen at 3 or 4. She passed about 6:50. At home and in bed like she wanted. If you are younger, cherish every moment with your parents. We only have so much . She helped me when I has in trouble and I was glad to help her out now in this part of her life. Damn. Sorry to hear and my sympathies to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wacka Posted September 23, 2021 Author Share Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) I don't think mom died of COVId. She was going downhill and wouldn't have made it to Thanksgiving or Christmas anyway. People who work in nursing homes etc say that there is a statistical uptick in deaths within a week or so of people's birthdays. They just want yto make it to the next one. Maybe COVID just advanced it by a day or two. Edited September 23, 2021 by Wacka Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 Very sad to hear this, Wacka. All the best to you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlimShady'sSpaceForce Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 Condolences Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CowgirlsFan Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 My heartfelt condolences to you and everyone. Best wishes for everyone's health to improve soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsPride12 Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 My deepest condolences...although I haven't crossed that road yet I can imagine that being just as tough as anything you are going to deal with during your lifetime. 95 is a life well-lived though..cherish all the memories! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChevyVanMiller Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 My condolences. I lost my mom two years ago next month at the age of 73. We hadn’t heard from her in two days and I was calling both her home and her cell phone with no results. She had moved into a senior apartment complex a couple of years before. I drove out there pounding on her door and got no response. One of the worst moments came when I then called her cell phone and could hear it ringing from inside the apartment. She had died in her sleep the day before. I don’t know what’s worse, having a sudden death like my mom or a lingering one like yours. I only know that both leave a hole that will never be filled. May your mom live on forever in your heart and may the memories that the two of you shared always bring you comfort and joy. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Augie Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 5 hours ago, Wacka said: I don't think mom died of COVId. She was going downhill and wouldn't have made it to Thanksgiving or Christmas anyway. People who work in nursing homes etc say that there is a statistical uptick in deaths within a week or so of people's birthdays. They just want yto make it to the next one. Maybe COVID just advanced it by a day or two. My father-in-law battled cancer for 13 years. He was at deaths door in December, 1993. My wife was with him Christmas Eve, then flew home to be with me and the kids for Christmas Day. Yeah, rough Christmas. He was barely coherent, but kept saying “I can’t do it, I can’t do it.” My wife coaxed out of him that he didn’t want to die on Christmas and forever “ruin” that day. He fought until the 29th before passing. It was one helluva fight. They raised some amazing kids. That are all at peace now, so I take comfort in that and hope in time you can too. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wacka Posted September 23, 2021 Author Share Posted September 23, 2021 (edited) We were looking through photos this afternoon for the video collage at the wake. Found a professional photo of mom from 1948 that must have belonged to my aunt. Said on the back that it was her sister (my mom's name) and she was 21 and it was from 1948. My mom was a stunner! This was years before she met my dad. Edited September 23, 2021 by Wacka 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B-Man Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 I am very sorry for your loss sir. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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