The Dean Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 I am simply posting this for those who know me for real, or who have known me for years on this board. My father died yesterday, peacefully in his home, in his bed, of congestive heart failure. He was 86. I took my Dad to the doctor early Monday morning because he wasn't feeling well. They gave him an oxygen treatment, a shot of lasix and a shot of antibiotics. I took him to get a chest X-Ray and blood work and then home. I rescheduled all my calls to stay with him and suggested we go to the hospital when it seemed like he was having some breathing trouble. He didn't want to go, and asked me to call the doctor. The doctor's office said they would call to get the X-Ray results and when I went to his bedroom to tell my Dad he was in his bed, not breathing. I gave him CPR and called 911. They responded immediately (less than 2 minutes, I estimate). They worked on him for quite a while but it was obvious to me he was gone. He died very peacefully. I asked the doctor at the hospital if things would have been different if I had forced him to go to the hospital earlier (yeah, right...try forcing an old Italian man to do anything he doesn't want to do). She thinks he would have died in the Emergency waiting room. Even if his regular doctor had sent him to the hospital, I think he might be clinging to "life" on tubes and machines. All in all, he died as well as one can ask for. (Well, for me I'd prefer to have a drink in my hand, or die mid-coitus. But my Dad didn't drink and was 86, so neither of those conditions apply.) He will be cremated and buried in Jacksonville National Cemetery which is a VA cemetery. As he is a disabled WWII vet, he will have an honor guard at his burial. We will have a celebration of his life sometime this summer in Niagara Falls. My mother is a rock and taking this quite well (dementia has an upside!). My brother is in the hospital clinging to what little life he still has. My sister (and her husband) and I are handling all the arrangements. Everyone is fine and thankful for the great life he had. As I recently lost one of my best friends, I am a bit numb, but doing fine. Both of them went quickly and suffered very little. I am thankful for that. The next few years look to hold more of the same, unfortunately. But we must tread on. I will be fine, please don't shed a tear for me. I am happy I got to spend the last day with my Dad. Just give an extra hug to your loved ones tonight or tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeanbe Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 As a lurker here I just wanted to send my condolences to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 I am simply posting this for those who know me for real, or who have known me for years on this board. My father died yesterday, peacefully in his home, in his bed, of congestive heart failure. He was 86. I took my Dad to the doctor early Monday morning because he wasn't feeling well. They gave him an oxygen treatment, a shot of lasix and a shot of antibiotics. I took him to get a chest X-Ray and blood work and then home. I rescheduled all my calls to stay with him and suggested we go to the hospital when it seemed like he was having some breathing trouble. He didn't want to go, and asked me to call the doctor. The doctor's office said they would call to get the X-Ray results and when I went to his bedroom to tell my Dad he was in his bed, not breathing. I gave him CPR and called 911. They responded immediately (less than 2 minutes, I estimate). They worked on him for quite a while but it was obvious to me he was gone. He died very peacefully. I asked the doctor at the hospital if things would have been different if I had forced him to go to the hospital earlier (yeah, right...try forcing an old Italian man to do anything he doesn't want to do). She thinks he would have died in the Emergency waiting room. Even if his regular doctor had sent him to the hospital, I think he might be clinging to "life" on tubes and machines. All in all, he died as well as one can ask for. (Well, for me I'd prefer to have a drink in my hand, or die mid-coitus. But my Dad didn't drink and was 86, so neither of those conditions apply.) He will be cremated and buried in Jacksonville National Cemetery which is a VA cemetery. As he is a disabled WWII vet, he will have an honor guard at his burial. We will have a celebration of his life sometime this summer in Niagara Falls. My mother is a rock and taking this quite well (dementia has an upside!). My brother is in the hospital clinging to what little life he still has. My sister (and her husband) and I are handling all the arrangements. Everyone is fine and thankful for the great life he had. As I recently lost one of my best friends, I am a bit numb, but doing fine. Both of them went quickly and suffered very little. I am thankful for that. The next few years look to hold more of the same, unfortunately. But we must tread on. I will be fine, please don't shed a tear for me. I am happy I got to spend the last day with my Dad. Just give an extra hug to your loved ones tonight or tomorrow. I know you said "friends"...but I'll post my sympathies too. Long life, peaceful death. Everyone's time comes...there's a lot to be said for it coming late and easily. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
el Tigre Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 I'm sorry to hear this bro. Sounds like he had a good,long life and a loving family. You can take comfort in knowing he's in a better place now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magox Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Sorry about that man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JinVA Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Sorry for your loss Dean. Hang in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chef Jim Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 My condolences to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Sorry to hear this Dean. I will be fine, please don't shed a tear for me. I am happy I got to spend the last day with my Dad. Just give an extra hug to your loved ones tonight or tomorrow. I'm sure he was happy to spend his last day with you as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
/dev/null Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Sorry to hear that Dean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erynthered Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Losing my Father was one of the most difficult times in my life. While we have a history, I'm terribly sorry for your loss. God's speed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Booster4324 Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 You have my utmost sympathies brother. I know this must be a hard time for you, but you seem to be holding up well. It seems your father lead a a long life and passed easily, so if it was even a moderately happy one, he was a success. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Dean, I am so sorry for the news. Best wishes to you and your family. Stay strong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HopsGuy Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 It's because life is not eternal is what makes it so special. Be good, and know there's lots of folks here that will have good thoughts for you tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WVUFootball29 Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Dean, sorry to hear my friend. My heart goes out to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 sorry for your loss, deano. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous Guy Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean my most sincere condolences, be thankful for all the years you had with him, you are truly blessed to have had as much time as you did with him...celebrate his life and all you shared with him. Sounds like you've had more than your fair share to deal with, know that your friends are here for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My condolences on your father, best friend, and I suppose your brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsidethebox Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Dean. Only time heals wounds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewin Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Thoughts, prayers and condolences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazed and Amuzed Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I'm sorry to hear about that Brian, I hope you're doing alright bro. My condolences Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloBud Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean - My heart goes out to you and your family. May your dad rest in peace and I believe that he is grateful that he spent his last day with you. A big OH hug to you. Godspeed Dean Sr and thank you for your service. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phlegm Alley Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Deepest, sincere condolences Dean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guffalo Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean, My most sincere condolences to you and yours, hang tough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My condolences Dean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BB27 Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Deepest sympathies for the loss of your father. I'll say a prayer tonight for you and your family. So sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SageAgainstTheMachine Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean, I'm very sorry to hear the news. My best wishes to you and yours. There's not much more you can ask for than to die peacefully after 86 years. I've seen/read about enough tragedy to know that. Hang in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike In Illinois Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My condolences to you Dean and your family. This has been a rough stretch for many on this wall and I cannot fathom the heartache they have gone through. My thoughts and prayers to each of you. Stay strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebug Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Sorry for your loss Dean. Sounds like you were very lucky to have him as a father and he was very lucky to have you as a son. This is a day we all know will come, but never want it to, hang in there. Best of luck to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fezmid Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that, Dean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steely Dan Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Wow Deano, that's rough. Keep the happy memories alive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bills_fan Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean My condolences to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BLZFAN4LIFE Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My most sincere condolences to you Dean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VABills Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 It is my honor to salute a hero. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duey Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My thoughts and prayers to you and your family...hang in there dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Congratulations to your father for raising an outstanding human being. Cheers, B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeF Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Dean--I read this before I went to Dinner at my favorite grandma and grandpa's home made pasta and sauce restaurant tonight. I raised a man's martini to your dad before dinner and a grappa post meal...you and family are in my thoughts and prayers. Here is to the life of service to country and family your dad lived. May he rest in peace and bring many warm memories and smiles to your face. God bless.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WellDressed Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Hey it's only been a few years that we've communicated, but you've definitely left a very positive impression with me. Your cool and the gang!! I'm really sorry to hear this. It sounds like you've done every possible thing you could have. Go watch a good Cronenberg film to take your mind off of things. Love You mannnnnn. -Chuck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MattyT Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I'm very sorry Dean. Sounds like you've got a good perspective on it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JÂy RÛßeÒ Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 So sorry to hear it, B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meazza Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 My condolences. Eterno Riposo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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