SWATeam Posted August 19, 2017 Share Posted August 19, 2017 My theory is that you should always go for the goodnight kiss if you're interested. I see no reason not to. If she's with it you just took the next step. If not you've lost nothing. At least she knows you're man enough to go for it. If she's put off by it to the point of it negatively affecting the relationship it wasn't going to happen anyway. And taking rejection unfazed with a sly smile is about as attractive as anything you can do. It's a lot more attractive than an awkward side hug. I like to take that strategy a step further and whip it out at the first opportunity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boyst Posted August 19, 2017 Share Posted August 19, 2017 My theory is that you should always go for the goodnight kiss if you're interested. I see no reason not to. If she's with it you just took the next step. If not you've lost nothing. At least she knows you're man enough to go for it. If she's put off by it to the point of it negatively affecting the relationship it wasn't going to happen anyway. And taking rejection unfazed with a sly smile is about as attractive as anything you can do. It's a lot more attractive than an awkward side hug. side gig is only when youeet for first time. Especially from social dating apps Also, be a man. Don't ask her opinion or what she wants to do; do what you want. Make her comply or go with. Let her say no if she must Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted August 19, 2017 Share Posted August 19, 2017 he's actually engaged. I'm not engaged yet lol Dear Jebby, I'm in a committed relationship, but my farmer friend is a man whore. He hints at all his exploits but won't share the intimate details, and pictures. I'd like to know more so I can feel like I'm young again, like when I was dating that 18 year old when I was 43. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fansince88 Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 John, make the best of it all. Enjoy life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Side hug was the right move; that woman must have major issues. Color me intrigued... What is a "side hug?" LoL... Be fair with me-I can trust you JR! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Haha. You can execute the side hug in a number of ways but the basic idea is to hug the person so you're not pressing your frontal bodies against each other. Basically trying to avoid being too intimate on the hug. I see... "Is that a pencil in your pocket or are you just happy to see me" never comes up! LoL... I kinda thought thought that. As I chuckle. Thank God I am married, all these rules... John, If I were you, I'd move up into the mountains and become Grizzly Adams with the internet! ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Color me intrigued... What is a "side hug?" LoL... Be fair with me-I can trust you JR! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Side_hug Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John from Riverside Posted August 20, 2017 Author Share Posted August 20, 2017 Learned something new tonight I have this new strategy of trying to figure out women....I pick someone out that i have no intention of doing anything with but dates a lot (who knows...it might end up in a date but not thinking about that right now) and letting them talk me through the process. Some things I actually have learned that I did not know that she was kind enough to let me in on - "Going out for coffee" is not actually a "date"......it is a meet and greet and lets a female decided if they actually want to go out on a date. I have been out on about 5 coffee things and I thought they were dates. Plans to do something with some and some no. - While "getting to know each other" dont give out too much information.....for instance my divorce papework is filed but not completed. She told me to just tell them its finalized....and that it really isnt a woman's business but for some reason it goes into the evaluation. - As permission for any body contact at least the first 2 times you meet (I of course screwed this up on my first "coffee meet and greet" and the girl never wanted to hear from me again) - keep the eyes up during the "meet and greet" yes I am very bad about letting my eyes wonder especially if there are some nice assets - Dont try to hard....if she offers to pay half....LET HER PAY IT. The first meet and greet I had that turned into dinner offered to actually pay for all of it. My new friend says I should have let her do it because she basically acted like a judgemental ass and I paid for the privilage of that. Oh and regarding the woman over which the thread was origianally started.....my new freind says I should just not even bother calling or returning calls....she sounded like she has major issues and would just make me miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John from Riverside Posted August 20, 2017 Author Share Posted August 20, 2017 Learned something new tonight I have this new strategy of trying to figure out women....I pick someone out that i have no intention of doing anything with but dates a lot (who knows...it might end up in a date but not thinking about that right now) and letting them talk me through the process. Some things I actually have learned that I did not know that she was kind enough to let me in on - "Going out for coffee" is not actually a "date"......it is a meet and greet and lets a female decided if they actually want to go out on a date. I have been out on about 5 coffee things and I thought they were dates. Plans to do something with some and some no. - While "getting to know each other" dont give out too much information.....for instance my divorce papework is filed but not completed. She told me to just tell them its finalized....and that it really isnt a woman's business but for some reason it goes into the evaluation. - As permission for any body contact at least the first 2 times you meet (I of course screwed this up on my first "coffee meet and greet" and the girl never wanted to hear from me again) - keep the eyes up during the "meet and greet" yes I am very bad about letting my eyes wonder especially if there are some nice assets - Dont try to hard....if she offers to pay half....LET HER PAY IT. The first meet and greet I had that turned into dinner offered to actually pay for all of it. My new friend says I should have let her do it because she basically acted like a judgemental ass and I paid for the privilage of that. Oh and regarding the woman over which the thread was origianally started.....my new freind says I should just not even bother calling or returning calls....she sounded like she has major issues and would just make me miserable. And then after giving me all this advice SHE WANTS TO GO OUT WITH ME I cant Win! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 And then after giving me all this advice SHE WANTS TO GO OUT WITH ME I cant Win! You're griping that a woman wants to go out with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GaryPinC Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 And then after giving me all this advice SHE WANTS TO GO OUT WITH ME I cant Win! Sounds like you just did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4merper4mer Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 And then after giving me all this advice SHE WANTS TO GO OUT WITH ME I cant Win! Are you at all concerned that she may want to "Joe" you which means chop you into little bits? Because you might want to think this one through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 What did you mean you had "no intention of doing anything with" her? Is she unattractive? Or was it a way for you to prevent getting rejected because in essence rejected her first? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlimShady'sSpaceForce Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 And then after giving me all this advice SHE WANTS TO GO OUT WITH ME I cant Win! That conversation was her test. Seems you passed. Now when you picked a random woman (sorry) did you pick an ugly one? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 We need some pics Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 We need some pics Yes...!!! I mastered getting under site limit (200kb)... Download: "Image Compress" App on your phone. We need .png files accepted, though! That, way easier with screenshots! 0kay... This ain't FB... But as close as I venture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boyst Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Learned something new tonight I have this new strategy of trying to figure out women....I pick someone out that i have no intention of doing anything with but dates a lot (who knows...it might end up in a date but not thinking about that right now) and letting them talk me through the process. Some things I actually have learned that I did not know that she was kind enough to let me in on - "Going out for coffee" is not actually a "date"......it is a meet and greet and lets a female decided if they actually want to go out on a date. I have been out on about 5 coffee things and I thought they were dates. Plans to do something with some and some no. - While "getting to know each other" dont give out too much information.....for instance my divorce papework is filed but not completed. She told me to just tell them its finalized....and that it really isnt a woman's business but for some reason it goes into the evaluation. - As permission for any body contact at least the first 2 times you meet (I of course screwed this up on my first "coffee meet and greet" and the girl never wanted to hear from me again) - keep the eyes up during the "meet and greet" yes I am very bad about letting my eyes wonder especially if there are some nice assets - Dont try to hard....if she offers to pay half....LET HER PAY IT. The first meet and greet I had that turned into dinner offered to actually pay for all of it. My new friend says I should have let her do it because she basically acted like a judgemental ass and I paid for the privilage of that. Oh and regarding the woman over which the thread was origianally started.....my new freind says I should just not even bother calling or returning calls....she sounded like she has major issues and would just make me miserable. I stopped at trying to figure women out. Figure yourself out first. Let them figure themselves out. They're crazy af Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John from Riverside Posted August 20, 2017 Author Share Posted August 20, 2017 You're griping that a woman wants to go out with you? No im just trying to get a little better at this. No the girl is not ugly.....but I was hoping more for friendship here because she seemed really good at giving me insight into female species and I dont have anyone else to give me that. Guys can talk about this stuff all day long but we are not females.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 I stopped at trying to figure women out. Figure yourself out first. Let them figure themselves out. They're crazy af They are crazy "af"... What does that mean? You mean they put bandanas on their face and protest against fascists? I thought they were on the other side? ;-) No im just trying to get a little better at this. No the girl is not ugly.....but I was hoping more for friendship here because she seemed really good at giving me insight into female species and I dont have anyone else to give me that. Guys can talk about this stuff all day long but we are not females.... You have us here! Well, CGF and sometimes a few of the others (not that there is anything wrong w/that). :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Even women don't understand other women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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