stevestojan Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 I dated a girl for 2 years from 4 hours away. Then I married her. My point? If she's a keeper, you don't need to ask. Youll figure it out. That was my point, but you relayed it with much less of a prick factor than I now realize my response contained. If youre having doubts AND its long distance, good night. If she's really a keeper, a long car drive doesn't mean ****. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted March 4, 2012 Author Share Posted March 4, 2012 Thanks for all the advice guys. Really you guys said what I've been doing so far so I'm glad I'm doing the right thing. Thanks guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevestojan Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 (edited) Thanks for all the advice guys. Really you guys said what I've been doing so far so I'm glad I'm doing the right thing. Thanks guys Guys at home (or like myself at a bar but sadly checking TBD on my cell) on a Saturday night posting on a sports website have historically been the best guys to take relationship advice from. You're welcome. Edited March 4, 2012 by stevestojan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 You're Captain Hindsight, you'll know what to do...... eventually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted March 4, 2012 Author Share Posted March 4, 2012 Guys at home (or like myself at a bar but sadly checking TBD on my cell) on a Saturday night posting on a sports website have historically been the best guys to take relationship advice from. You're welcome. I figured i couldn't find a better cross section anywhere else Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 Zackly...next to impossible makes the end result that much more worth it But...my sister met a guy one New Year's Eve who had to fly back home to London two days later. They dated trans-oceanically for one or two years...been married five years now. "Next to impossible" does not mean "impossible". IF anything, it's probably easier with the internet now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Adams Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 (edited) Pre Internet and cells, my wife of 16'years and I dated long distance for 4 years due to college choices. It sucked but it can be done. This distance was between 5-7 hours depending on the year. I guess we did have Internet. Had to convince her to get a Vax account to exchange emails. The compsci people did not get why an Econ student wanted a Vax account. Edited March 4, 2012 by John Adams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pilsner Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 As some have already said, if she's a keeper then do what you need to do to keep her. I've seen friends and family go thru the long distant thing and it worked out for them. Distance is an obstacle but does not necessarily discount the chance of something special occuring. If you think a girl is worth it and u believe the feeling is mutual then you can never let distance deter you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Cincinnati Kid Posted March 4, 2012 Share Posted March 4, 2012 I say dump the BUM! Lol. I'm just kidding Captain. Be strong. It'll all work out, no matter what that means, everything will work out. Oh, and uh, maybe you should text your brother once in a while in addition to posting on the Wall... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted August 26, 2012 Author Share Posted August 26, 2012 Hit our first rough patch. Distance was getting to be to hard for her so she asked for break. She is starting senior year tomorrow, has a new job a bunch of new friends and trying to finish up two majors. I firmly beleive tho that the door isnt closed and its just taking a step back and evaulating what we want because were both in such different places right now. Since facebook tells all, she hasnt changed our status as a couple (this happened yesterday afternoon) She gave me all the usual lines, still love you, I dont expect you to wait for me ect. We havent spoken since. I told her I needed to take time to get used to this. I dont want to give up on her becuase I still see a future with her. I'm trying to figure out the best way to give her space and still be in the picture and at least be talking to her but frankly this is new territory for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 The grass may be greener on the other side. Stay off her facebook page. You may not like what pops up. Give her a few weeks then send her a message asking how everything is going. Tell her you miss her more than anything. See how she responds and if she is stand offish you will want to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 Hit our first rough patch. Distance was getting to be to hard for her so she asked for break. She is starting senior year tomorrow, has a new job a bunch of new friends and trying to finish up two majors. I firmly beleive tho that the door isnt closed and its just taking a step back and evaulating what we want because were both in such different places right now. Since facebook tells all, she hasnt changed our status as a couple (this happened yesterday afternoon) She gave me all the usual lines, still love you, I dont expect you to wait for me ect. We havent spoken since. I told her I needed to take time to get used to this. I dont want to give up on her becuase I still see a future with her. I'm trying to figure out the best way to give her space and still be in the picture and at least be talking to her but frankly this is new territory for me. Very simple: 1) ask for MDP's advice. 2) do the exact opposite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Optometric Insight Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 The grass may be greener on the other side. Stay off her facebook page. You may not like what pops up. Give her a few weeks then send her a message asking how everything is going. Tell her you miss her more than anything. See how she responds and if she is stand offish you will want to move on. *Clears throat* Actually, its greener where you water it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 *Clears throat* Actually, its greener where you water it. That was brilliant. You can't possibly be a teenager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted August 26, 2012 Share Posted August 26, 2012 That was brilliant. You can't possibly be a teenager. Or maybe his Dad made him water the lawn today. As for the captain, it might be a good idea to take the opportunity to date others. Don't just assume she's a 'keeper' or it'll work out, etc. Instead, put it to the test. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Optometric Insight Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 Or maybe his Dad made him water the lawn today. As for the captain, it might be a good idea to take the opportunity to date others. Don't just assume she's a 'keeper' or it'll work out, etc. Instead, put it to the test. Phshh, water the lawn? Its so humid down here the ground takes the water from the air. Also, there's a hurricane. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 Phshh, water the lawn? Its so humid down here the ground takes the water from the air. Also, there's a hurricane. In that case, don't you have sandbags to fill? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
section122 Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 Sorry it's over but that's the norm (which doesn't make it suck any less). I would have recommended letting go myself and having fun. If she is a keeper your paths will cross again (sometimes you may have to "make" that happen). Meanwhile your in your 20's!!! Go buck wild! Live it up as much as you can and when you find your keeper it'll all work itself out. Mean time have fun trying to find ms. Right(now) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 !@#$ a lot of women, kid. I have no reason to lie to you. Not one woman. A lot of women. You heard what I said? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ramius Posted August 27, 2012 Share Posted August 27, 2012 Hit our first rough patch. Distance was getting to be to hard for her so she asked for break. She is starting senior year tomorrow, has a new job a bunch of new friends and trying to finish up two majors. I firmly beleive tho that the door isnt closed and its just taking a step back and evaulating what we want because were both in such different places right now. Since facebook tells all, she hasnt changed our status as a couple (this happened yesterday afternoon) She gave me all the usual lines, still love you, I dont expect you to wait for me ect. We havent spoken since. I told her I needed to take time to get used to this. I dont want to give up on her becuase I still see a future with her. I'm trying to figure out the best way to give her space and still be in the picture and at least be talking to her but frankly this is new territory for me. Given the bolded, (and i'm going to flat out give you the harsh truth), it sounds like she wants to ride as much pole as she can before she enters the real world. Go out and meet new girls. Have fun. If you and the ex end up back together, great, and if not, there's always another girl just around the corner. I know i'm only 30, but i look back at myself 10 years ago and the girls i "couldn't live without" and just laugh at how wrong i was. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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