Just Jack Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 I have a degree in Environmental Policy and a Degree in Psychology. Im planning on going back to grad school. Im currently interning for NYS DEC as an educator/ researcher about marshes and eels specifically. So you get eels onto your couch and have them talk about their feelings? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 So you get eels onto your couch and have them talk about their feelings? Trees too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 So you get eels onto your couch and have them talk about their feelings? There's far too many puns to be made on "eels", and they all suck really, really badly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Optometric Insight Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 There's far too many puns to be made on "eels", and they all suck really, really badly. Do they r-ELL-y suck that bad? Yeah, I guess you're right. I guess I'm st-ELL learning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 Do they r-ELL-y suck that bad? Yeah, I guess you're right. I guess I'm st-ELL learning You are but an elver... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodBye Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 I have a degree in Environmental Policy and a Degree in Psychology. Im planning on going back to grad school. Im currently interning for NYS DEC as an educator/ researcher about marshes and eels specifically. Ive been offered to come back, at the same salary of 10 grand... but honestly this isnt what I want to be doing so I doubt Ill take it Im working near poughkeepsie You sure there are no jobs in the PacNW for this type of degree? Prob not your first place to live though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Optometric Insight Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 You are but an elver... Thought you were calling me an elf but then I googled it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 Thought you were calling me an elf but then I googled it. The only good eel pun you'll eve see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
realtruelove Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 I started dating my wife when we were both juniors in college (2000-2001). In 2002 she moved to NYC and I stayed in Buffalo to continue with grad school. In 2007 she moved to Milwaukee. During this time we maintained our relationship. In 2009 I moved to Milwaukee and in with her. Long distance relationships aren't for everyone, but if you love each other you end up figuring out the logistics. She's a keeper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bowery4 Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 (edited) Wow just read this all, I had a 2 year relationship with a woman once in Korea, I ended up moving there and it didn't work out, so I feel for you. I have some advice. Dude, you have 2 useless degrees, go to Korea and teach English (2000$ a month or more, have to be careful about the jobs there but it can be good) and stop going to school. Or do what my friend in Korea did and move to NYC and start a rooftop garden business, stop being so freaking poor and experience the world a bit. Best to you and don't worry about losing one, there are billions of women in the world. Basic math says you have a chance to get your willy wet again. BTW I also had a woman friend once who said that once a long distance relationship crossed a state line, she was doing who and whatever she wanted. I kind of like that in hindsight. Edited August 30, 2012 by bowery4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SageAgainstTheMachine Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 Wow just read this all, I had a 2 year relationship with a woman once in Korea, I ended up moving there and it didn't work out, so I feel for you. I have some advice. Dude, you have 2 useless degrees, go to Korea and teach English (2000$ a month or more, have to be careful about the jobs there but it can be good) and stop going to school. Or do what my friend in Korea did and move to NYC and start a rooftop garden business, stop being so freaking poor and experience the world a bit. Best to you and don't worry about losing one, there are billions of women in the world. Basic math says you have a chance to get your willy wet again. BTW I also had a woman friend once who said that once a long distance relationship crossed a state line, she was doing who and whatever she wanted. I kind of like that in hindsight. Life must be a big party for my Connecticut friends who work in NYC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bowery4 Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 Life must be a big party for my Connecticut friends who work in NYC. Ha no doubt it is lol, it was for me when I lived there, wait .... I should of stayed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICanSleepWhenI'mDead Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 I kind of like that in hindsight. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but give the guy a little time, huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 Life must be a big party for my Connecticut friends who work in NYC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted August 30, 2012 Author Share Posted August 30, 2012 Wow just read this all, I had a 2 year relationship with a woman once in Korea, I ended up moving there and it didn't work out, so I feel for you. I have some advice. Dude, you have 2 useless degrees, go to Korea and teach English (2000$ a month or more, have to be careful about the jobs there but it can be good) and stop going to school. Or do what my friend in Korea did and move to NYC and start a rooftop garden business, stop being so freaking poor and experience the world a bit. Best to you and don't worry about losing one, there are billions of women in the world. Basic math says you have a chance to get your willy wet again. BTW I also had a woman friend once who said that once a long distance relationship crossed a state line, she was doing who and whatever she wanted. I kind of like that in hindsight. I have thought about doing the teach english abroad. Ive herad more negative than positive with that program which makes me a little wary. Im looking to go out west again (I worked in Yosemite National Park a few years ago) also considering getting back into school. Lots of things in the air right now. Honestly after taking a few days removed from her, I feel this is the right thing for us as indivuduals. We still love each other, that was made clear to me last night. But where we are in life right now (and especially her) It isnt going to work right now. I actually respect her for recognizing that and doing what she did to make herself happy. I think we will both be better people because of this. In a few years it might all be different, but for now, this is the right move for both of us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Optometric Insight Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 BTW I also had a woman friend once who said that once a long distance relationship crossed a state line, she was doing who and whatever she wanted. I kind of like that in hindsight. That would suck if you lived in Rhode Island or by any state line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drinkTHEkoolaid Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 I have thought about doing the teach english abroad. Ive herad more negative than positive with that program which makes me a little wary. Im looking to go out west again (I worked in Yosemite National Park a few years ago) also considering getting back into school. Lots of things in the air right now. Honestly after taking a few days removed from her, I feel this is the right thing for us as indivuduals. We still love each other, that was made clear to me last night. But where we are in life right now (and especially her) It isnt going to work right now. I actually respect her for recognizing that and doing what she did to make herself happy. I think we will both be better people because of this. In a few years it might all be different, but for now, this is the right move for both of us Sounds like you have your head on straight. Follow your own advice and do what makes you happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted August 31, 2012 Author Share Posted August 31, 2012 Sounds like you have your head on straight. Follow your own advice and do what makes you happy Still sucks tho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Still sucks tho (We will return to DC Tom's typical internet asshattery after this brief public service announcement.) That which begins, eventually ends. The real trick to life isn't fighting the endings, but realizing they're natural and accepting them with dignity and respect for yourself and others. (We now continue with our regular programming...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 Sounds like you have your head on straight. Follow your own advice and do what makes you happy Don't follow your own advice, look where it got you. Just kidding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shrader Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 That would suck if you lived in Rhode Island or by any state line. What about crossing international borders. A Canada-US relationship seems very doable for anyone living in Buffalo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bowery4 Posted August 31, 2012 Share Posted August 31, 2012 What about crossing international borders. A Canada-US relationship seems very doable for anyone living in Buffalo. Boarders in NiagraFalls? I have been there, is it still there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 Home this weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted September 2, 2012 Author Share Posted September 2, 2012 were talking again.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Do not ask what or who she did last week. Did you call her or did she call you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoSaint Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 were talking again.... I hate to chime in on these - as we don't know jack about your relationship, despite everyone in this thread claiming otherwise but on a global level.... You're young, have fun. Be happy. If that's with her - go for it. If it's not (and this back and forth doesn't sound like it) then go find something that will keep you happy. The last thing you want to do is look back and think "wow- wasted that year." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 were talking again.... After you got the new car? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted September 2, 2012 Author Share Posted September 2, 2012 After you got the new car? Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that Oh man friends This is getting too close to home. Do not, repeat do not bite. insist on man/woman relationship.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that Tell her you can be BF-GF, friends...with benefits, or nothing. That is, unless you're okay with being "just friends," which I've found to be impossible when one of the two still has a torch for the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fan in San Diego Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 O contraire. These eels were going for 2000 bucks a pound earlier this year. if it werent for that whole ethic thing id be on easy street Eels are too salty, I prefer leaches. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Still only wants to be friends? Seems like she wants to string you along. That's ok as long as you have the knife to cut that string when the time comes. It will come, bet on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fan in San Diego Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 (We will return to DC Tom's typical internet asshattery after this brief public service announcement.) That which begins, eventually ends. The real trick to life isn't fighting the endings, but realizing they're natural and accepting them with dignity and respect for yourself and others. (We now continue with our regular programming...) There is hope for you yet DC! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kegtapr Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that 2-1 odds the other guy she was eyeballing rejected her. Sounds to me like she can't/doesn't want to be alone. But of course thats only based on my experience, not your relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoSaint Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) 2-1 odds the other guy she was eyeballing rejected her. Sounds to me like she can't/doesn't want to be alone. But of course thats only based on my experience, not your relationship. Or was seen flirting elsewhere over the weekend Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that If it starts to hurt you or you find things you don't like..... You mean like when she broke up with you? The one foot out, one foot in game that she's playing is the one route I'd very confidently tell you to not pursue, regardless of the fact that we know very little here. It does not work. If you genuinely want to be friends you need space now. If you want to be together, you can't be just friend. Edited September 2, 2012 by NoSaint Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted September 2, 2012 Author Share Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) Still only wants to be friends? Seems like she wants to string you along. That's ok as long as you have the knife to cut that string when the time comes. It will come, bet on it. I'm a little worried about that. I mean its only been a week I'm willing to let this run its course for a bit. I really truely believe this isnt forever. I may not have mentioned this in the thread but im her first boyfriend. She has a lot of stuff she needs to work out. We are just at two totally different points in our lives right now. Love isnt the problem between us. Talking to her last night and her roommate earlier in the week have confirmed that. I have no one else I want to be with right now, if taking a break from "us" is what lets me have her in a year for the next 50 years, I'm willing to do that. I know that makes me sound lame and like im letting her have the power but when you know, you know. Its not like im waiting around either. I was cruising on a boat on Canadaigua Lake last night drinking beers with a few buddies and some girls we met. Edited September 2, 2012 by Captain Hindsight Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 I have seen this with my own son. Falls hard and takes long time to find the next one. Let her go. If you are her first boyfriend she will want to find out what some other dude has to offer. If not now, down the road it will only make it harder to let go. Should have done one of the girls in the boat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted September 3, 2012 Author Share Posted September 3, 2012 I have seen this with my own son. Falls hard and takes long time to find the next one. Let her go. If you are her first boyfriend she will want to find out what some other dude has to offer. If not now, down the road it will only make it harder to let go. Should have done one of the girls in the boat I tried haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoSaint Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 I tried haha Ahhh so you're both going half way, until one of you finds an opportunity and ends up hurting the other one. I'll maintain- there's almost no good end to the "just talking" after a long term relationship just busted up. I won't say whether you should chase the relationship or head for the hills, but this one certainly has the biggest potential for disaster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 She heard you have a new car, that's why she called. Talking to her last night and her roommate earlier in the week have confirmed that. Wait, what?! You're talking with the roomate also? Why? (and if she really wants to keep you around, suggest a threesome with the roomate) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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