EmotionallyUnstable Posted August 15, 2021 Share Posted August 15, 2021 On 8/9/2021 at 9:17 PM, Buffalo716 said: I'm sure for some but not all.. that's just generalization I know some millennials who work 80-100 hour weeks so there wifes don't have to work Interesting. Im in that generation, with two working parents and children. Out of curiosity, do they stay home to take care of kids? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buffalo716 Posted August 15, 2021 Share Posted August 15, 2021 2 minutes ago, EmotionallyUnstable said: Interesting. Im in that generation, with two working parents and children. Out of curiosity, do they stay home to take care of kids? My friends who work 100 hour weeks? No, they work that much.. so their wife could be a stay-at-home mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmotionallyUnstable Posted August 15, 2021 Share Posted August 15, 2021 1 minute ago, Buffalo716 said: My friends who work 100 hour weeks? No, they work that much.. so their wife could be a stay-at-home mom Right, that’s what I meant. I think that’s a pretty common occurrence, considering the costs of child care in our country. We’ve discussed it, but it doesn’t make sense for us right now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buffalo716 Posted August 15, 2021 Share Posted August 15, 2021 Just now, EmotionallyUnstable said: Right, that’s what I meant. I think that’s a pretty common occurrence, considering the costs of child care in our country. We’ve discussed it, but it doesn’t make sense for us right now But the cost of living a pride doesn't make sense for many people But if you have a paid off mortgage or a cheap one.. it's something that might be possible Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jauronimo Posted August 15, 2021 Share Posted August 15, 2021 On 8/9/2021 at 8:17 PM, Buffalo716 said: I'm sure for some but not all.. that's just generalization I know some millennials who work 80-100 hour weeks so there wifes don't have to work Mormons have a notoriously strong work ethic. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 11 hours ago, Buffalo716 said: My friends who work 100 hour weeks? No, they work that much.. so their wife could be a stay-at-home mom If my son ever tries to marry this kind of a lazy slut, I'll punch him in the face. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buffalo716 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Gugny said: If my son ever tries to marry this kind of a lazy slut, I'll punch him in the face. It's not even about laziness to them .. my friends are the boss and tell them to not work and raise the kids They make enough money and want their wife to be full time stay at home moms.. it's my friends call , not the wives.. especially when you have 3-4 children in a row and prefer not to use child care It might be different when the kids are older Edited August 16, 2021 by Buffalo716 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 3 hours ago, Buffalo716 said: It's not even about laziness to them .. my friends are the boss and tell them to not work and raise the kids They make enough money and want their wife to be full time stay at home moms.. it's my friends call , not the wives.. especially when you have 3-4 children in a row and prefer not to use child care It might be different when the kids are older Oh, well in that case, I totally get it. I mean, as long as she's got dinner ready every night, never lets hubby's beer get empty and only speaks when spoken to. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eball Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 I’m confused about one thing — FMLA has nothing to do with pay. It’s a protection in place to keep your job when you’re out for a medical/health reason. If you’re getting paid during your paternity leave that’s either a specific company policy, your PTO, or a supplemental insurance plan. Anyway, ignore the Neanderthals telling you taking paternity leave will make female management downgrade you. My rules about employment decisions: be up front, be ethical, think long term, and don’t apologize for doing what’s best for you. 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Back2Buff Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 59 minutes ago, eball said: I’m confused about one thing — FMLA has nothing to do with pay. It’s a protection in place to keep your job when you’re out for a medical/health reason. If you’re getting paid during your paternity leave that’s either a specific company policy, your PTO, or a supplemental insurance plan. Anyway, ignore the Neanderthals telling you taking paternity leave will make female management downgrade you. My rules about employment decisions: be up front, be ethical, think long term, and don’t apologize for doing what’s best for you. NYS has Paid FMLA. Its pretty substantial too. Many dads have been taking advantage of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eball Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 12 minutes ago, Back2Buff said: NYS has Paid FMLA. Its pretty substantial too. Many dads have been taking advantage of it. Ahh, did not know that! Thx. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhoTom Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 17 hours ago, Buffalo716 said: My friends who work 100 hour weeks? No, they work that much.. so their wife could be a stay-at-home mom 6 hours ago, Gugny said: If my son ever tries to marry this kind of a lazy slut, I'll punch him in the face. 6 hours ago, Buffalo716 said: It's not even about laziness to them .. my friends are the boss and tell them to not work and raise the kids They make enough money and want their wife to be full time stay at home moms.. it's my friends call , not the wives. If my son ever tries to marry a woman who doesn't think for herself, I'll punch him in the face. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 3 minutes ago, WhoTom said: If my son ever tries to marry a woman who doesn't think for herself, I'll punch him in the face. We are good dads. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeviF Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 lmao some really hot takes about stay-at-home moms here. I retired my wife. If she wants to sell ***** on Etsy or go get a cute little part time job when my kid(s) are older she can feel free. She wants to be a mom and by good fortune and hard work I have the ability to make that a reality for her. It's criminal that most families in this country can't pay a mortgage and put food on the table on one income. But to send her back to the salon six weeks after giving birth so we can take $1500 a month out of her take-home to pay for full time daycare is the epitome of stupid. Not to mention the dozens of reports about daycares I had to handle in my time at CPS. I guess that's the price I pay for marrying a stupid, lazy slut, huh guys? I'm sure my dad will love to hear about the ways he failed me from you titans of virility. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhoTom Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 27 minutes ago, LeviF said: lmao some really hot takes about stay-at-home moms here. I have no problem with stay-at-home moms. My wife did it, but it was by mutual choice, not because "I said so." Show me a marriage where one person always dictates and the other always complies, and I'll show you two insecure people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeviF Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 4 minutes ago, WhoTom said: I have no problem with stay-at-home moms. My wife did it, but it was by mutual choice, not because "I said so." Show me a marriage where one person always dictates and the other always complies, and I'll show you two insecure people. lol with the way marriage and divorce works in the US there is no woman who doesn't have the option to just take the kids, half his income, and the house. She made the choice whether you (or her husband) think she did or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YoloinOhio Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 I work in HR. You won’t “burn a bridge” if you resign in a professional manner. You will need to consider the timing needs of the future employer in terms of whether you start prior to or after your 8 weeks is up. We have numerous new mothers who use their full 16 weeks and then say they aren’t returning. It’s common and not that unexpected tbh. We have tons of new dad who take the full paternity leave (it is 6 weeks for us). In the end, the more notice you give your current employer, the better, so they can replace you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buffalo716 Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, Gugny said: Oh, well in that case, I totally get it. I mean, as long as she's got dinner ready every night, never lets hubby's beer get empty and only speaks when spoken to. 5 hours ago, LeviF said: lol with the way marriage and divorce works in the US there is no woman who doesn't have the option to just take the kids, half his income, and the house. She made the choice whether you (or her husband) think she did or not. I think you're underestimating that there are still some really conservative, submissive women Who want a man, to be the man of the house.. the classic 1950s Man of the House.. there were tons of mothers who didn't work back then They're still some women like that.. Can she leave and take half his stuff, absolutely, but my friend is absolutely in charge of the family 8 hours ago, Gugny said: Oh, well in that case, I totally get it. I mean, as long as she's got dinner ready every night, never lets hubby's beer get empty and only speaks when spoken to. If you saw their relationship, dichotomy is not far off She's a classic 1950s stay-at-home mom.. and if people think that doesn't exist anymore their mistaken Their relationship definitely isn't perfect, but he's definitely the man of the house, and in charge Edited August 16, 2021 by Buffalo716 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoSaint Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 8 hours ago, eball said: I’m confused about one thing — FMLA has nothing to do with pay. It’s a protection in place to keep your job when you’re out for a medical/health reason. If you’re getting paid during your paternity leave that’s either a specific company policy, your PTO, or a supplemental insurance plan. Anyway, ignore the Neanderthals telling you taking paternity leave will make female management downgrade you. My rules about employment decisions: be up front, be ethical, think long term, and don’t apologize for doing what’s best for you. and don’t always be up front. because HR is not your advocate by design. Don’t be an ass, but look out for yourself across these transitions and know hr is there to generally protect the company and not you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eball Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 12 minutes ago, NoSaint said: and don’t always be up front. because HR is not your advocate by design. Don’t be an ass, but look out for yourself across these transitions and know hr is there to generally protect the company and not you. I'm really speaking with regard to one's boss, not HR. And "up front" doesn't mean telling them everything, but it does mean not hiding something material. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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