Nervous Guy Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 As someone already said, this is one side of the story, and you already left another school for room mate problems. but giving you the benefit of the doubt... i know its easier said than done, but who gives a **** about these guys? dont let them make you feel uncomfortable. YOURE the one with the car. YOURE the one with your own fridge. who cares what happens to or with these other dudes? what was singapore's plan for getting around in America when he decided to come with no car and no meal plan? These dudes would have had to figure something out if you werent around, so dont feel bad about not letting them use your car or being their personal chauffeur. man up and live in your place like you want to. dont let them make you scared to go take a shower because walking by them will be uncomfortable. boo hoo. thats some girl sounding drama. get over it. they will too. doesnt sound like you guys are a group of close friends anyways so who gives a ****? i personally probably would have left them at target just to prove a point. good advice above about giving them a scheduled time if they want to go to wegmans with you. but be clear that you have something to do at a certain time and youre leaving the store at X time. if they give you grief about that, fug em. let them fend for themselves, theyre supposed to be adults. especially the 5th year senior. what if they beat him up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 what if they beat him up? lol dude (OP), this is partly what college is all about and one of its greatest "subjects", learning to deal with other people when youre forced to. just like getting stuck with coworkers later on. deal with it. dont leave school again. dont move to another place. MAKE IT WORK. or dont care. you have 2 real options. but either way, time to be a man, not a teenager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John from Riverside Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I'd shiv the mo fo's God am I old..... I would have went after Singapore for crying about beign disrespected and made an example of him....then maybe 6th year senior degenerate might have thought twice about threatening to kick my @ss (which he would have had to do the minute he suggested it) Bottom line.....you are allowing this to happen to you....... - dont drive them anywhere......for any reason - make your own food - go ANYWHERE you want in that house and make a point of doing it weekly and make sure they see it....you are paying for it Dont let them walk on you. They are mistaking respect for weakness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ramius Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 what if they beat him up? Retaliate. Magnets and hard drives make a cute couple. So do sweaty testicles and roommates dishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 agreed with John. take control of the situation and YOUR life in whatever way you can. ok, i think this has been enough of an internet pep talk. go get em tiger. (report back after the senior beats you into a pulp, i want a good laugh) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR Roommate problems? Welcome to college, kid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tcali Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 You just aren't going to change them, so I suggest you take the offensive. There are plenty of ways to drive rommates crazy...goggle it...my favorite is: Buy a Jack-in-the-box. Every day, turn the handle until the clown pops out. Scream continuously for twenty minutes. http://chainletters.net/chainletters/25-wa...roommate-crazy/ lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chef Jim Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR Welcome to the result of the pussification of the US. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tcali Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR Dear God: I promise to never bellyache about getting old again.Thank you for allowing me to get old. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SageAgainstTheMachine Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR I'd be interested in hearing the other side(s) of the story. Not saying that you're lying, but it isn't usually the case that people act like complete !@#$s for no reason whatsoever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LongLiveRalph Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Listen Skolnik, everyone here is giving you bad advice. I'm telling you, drive the crew to Target, get some black clothes, have the Asian kid set up cameras at the hot local sorority, and then it's on- PANTY RAID!! It will really bring you closer together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hb123 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I'd be interested in hearing the other side(s) of the story. Not saying that you're lying, but it isn't usually the case that people act like complete !@#$s for no reason whatsoever. If you have your own room go to the hardware store and buy a lock for the door. Keep your fridge in your room along w/ any other food/beer. Don't drive these d*cks anywhere either like people have suggested. If these guys can't show some class/respect to you and chip in for gas money, screw them. They aren't your friends. Locate some people who are your friends and try to find a way to room with them next semester/year. Life is too short to worry about making everyone around you happy...... You can never do it either. Someone will B word no matter what. And who cares if they don't like it, you or give you dirty looks.....sounds like you are living with a punch of pampered babies. I understand you are trying to make it work, but its a two way street. I'm sure they would complain if it were there car and you demanded to use it and or be driven around at a moments notice. A true friend or someone that was considerate would understand why you feel "used" and would throw in a few bucks for gas. Lots of people in college never have any money and alligator arms when it comes time to spend any Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 anyone else get the feeling that the OP is the nerd that we used to all take advantage of and when he finally got pissed about it we were like "stop being a dick" and shunned him? lock yourself in your room, poindexter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Adams Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Roommate problems? Welcome to college, kid. Really. Good god, who hasn't had 1000 variants of this. Living with it, dealing with it, and hating at least some of your roommates is part of the college process. If you don't like your roommates, you need to make enough money to live alone. Even the roommates you choose can suck ass. I roomed with great friends for a couple years and we had our brawls too. We're still friends but living with poor selfish kids just out of their homes blows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billfan63 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 From your side of the story the obvious asnswer is, man up, grow a pair, etc, etc. In as short a story as possible what caused the transfer? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Adams Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 From your side of the story the obvious asnswer is, man up, grow a pair, etc, etc. In as short a story as possible what caused the transfer? Gossip and not enough rah rah siss boom ba. He aired this earlier. http://forums.twobillsdrive.com/index.php?...t&p=1382693 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stuckincincy Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Welcome to the result of the pussification of the US. Yup. The birds are coming home and roosting all over. The indoctrination worked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billfan63 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Gossip and not enough rah rah siss boom ba. He aired this earlier. http://forums.twobillsdrive.com/index.php?...t&p=1382693 I'm just baiting ths singapore dude, I hear he lurks on TBD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theesir Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR Why do people keep quoting the original post? Its so annoying to have to scroll through it over and over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phlegm Alley Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I'd be interested in hearing the other side(s) of the story. Not saying that you're lying, but it isn't usually the case that people act like complete !@#$s for no reason whatsoever. I agree. There's always two sides to the story. Do you crap in the toilet and never flush? Do you smell like a dead hooker? Are you not neat in common areas? Do you burst out in random song and dance? Do you vomit in the house then forget about it? These are all problems that I've had with roommates in the past and it was circumvented by being the alpha male and standing up for myself. It's one thing to help people when in need, like providing them rides, but don't let them take advantage of you. Overstand your ground. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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