GoBills808 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 21 hours ago, Another Fan said: Tried to confront a manager at work. It just came all bad/stuttered. SA played a part. Might have made things worse if anything Workplace issues are a can of worms imo. Throws the intrapersonal interaction into a different light, and if you've got an anxiety problem it's bound to be exacerbated. My nonprofessional advice is to work on your communication skills. Having a conversation or discussion with another person, be it a negotiation or a matter of resolving differences, is really a necessary skill in getting on with life. Especially if you've got a partner. I'm not sure I'd be so quick to chalk it up to a disorder (of which I acknowledge are very real and very difficult to deal with, the point being that in today's society we by and large tend to absolve an individual of responsibility for myriad disorders, which is IMO dubious but medically convenient) rather than something you may need to address head-on. My $0.02 Good luck. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 21 minutes ago, GoBills808 said: Workplace issues are a can of worms imo. Throws the intrapersonal interaction into a different light, and if you've got an anxiety problem it's bound to be exacerbated. My nonprofessional advice is to work on your communication skills. Having a conversation or discussion with another person, be it a negotiation or a matter of resolving differences, is really a necessary skill in getting on with life. Especially if you've got a partner. I'm not sure I'd be so quick to chalk it up to a disorder (of which I acknowledge are very real and very difficult to deal with, the point being that in today's society we by and large tend to absolve an individual of responsibility for myriad disorders, which is IMO dubious but medically convenient) rather than something you may need to address head-on. My $0.02 Good luck. Yep! +1. Work, there is the whole boss-subordinate issues... Power that is wielded over another, etc... Throws a wrench in everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Fan Posted July 27, 2018 Author Share Posted July 27, 2018 Thanks a lot guys. Working on understanding the cause of the black out/panic attack to try to ensure it doesn’t happen going forward. Advise here was helpful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 2 hours ago, Another Fan said: Thanks a lot guys. Working on understanding the cause of the black out/panic attack to try to ensure it doesn’t happen going forward. Advise here was helpful Honestly, I'm not sure what you're view on cannabis is but that really helps me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
row_33 Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 36 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: Honestly, I'm not sure what you're view on cannabis is but that really helps me. sitting alone doing drugs will cure your social problems 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, row_33 said: sitting alone doing drugs will cure your social problems It does. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 22 hours ago, Johnny Hammersticks said: I guess it boils down to a couple things. Are you functional in your everyday life, and are you content with your social competence/experience? This is actually a key point that too many people do not understand. The difference between "behavior" and "mental illness" frequently boils down to asking "are you functional?" If I miss a day of work because I'm upset my grandma died, that's behavior. If, two weeks later, I still can't out of bed because I'm upset my grandma died...that's a clinical problem. So if you're asking yourself "Do I have social anxiety disorder," you might be asking the wrong question. It might be better to ask "I have social anxiety...but is it a disorder?" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinceThe70s Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 22 hours ago, Johnny Hammersticks said: I guess it boils down to a couple things. Are you functional in your everyday life, and are you content with your social competence/experience? Often times I will be consulting with a parent who has concerns over their child’s social skills/shyness. If I don’t see very obvious signs/symptoms of anxiety I will ask the parent “How does Johnny feel about this?” Parents are often shocked by this line of questioning. Some kids are completely content with only having one or two friends, and are completely functional in most other facets of their life. It is the parents who want to change them. Again, getting back to the notion of a “range of normalcy” with respect to an individual’s desire for social interactions. I know I’m viewing this through my narrow lenses as a school mental health practitioners, but I see parallels with SOME adults I know who are being treated for social anxiety disorder. You sound like a great advocate for the kids. One of my sons falls out of the "range of normalcy” socially. I think it bothers/worries his Mom and I but not him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fetou Posted July 28, 2018 Share Posted July 28, 2018 14 hours ago, Royale with Cheese said: It does. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Fan Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 Lol sometimes the bathroom can be your friend in social gatherings to get away. Like me right now, I’m feel anxiety coming on but escape here for deep breaths without doing a number 2. ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 Just now, Another Fan said: Lol sometimes the bathroom can be your friend in social gatherings to get away. Like me right now, I’m feel anxiety coming on but escape here for deep breaths without doing a number 2. ? Are you in a position where you can step out and maybe take like a 5-10 minute walk? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 You are trusting the process. ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Fan Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 24 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: Are you in a position where you can step out and maybe take like a 5-10 minute walk? Nah, just at lunch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PromoTheRobot Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 On 7/25/2018 at 3:59 PM, Another Fan said: Anyone ever gone through this here/have elements of it. I’ve beaten it in the past but today was a little rough. I experience bouts of it. Hard to pin it down. Just feel out of place in certain situations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 16 minutes ago, Another Fan said: Nah, just at lunch My wife does have anxiety and she generally just puts ear buds in and listens to calming music. If you have that availability, I would give it a try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 On 7/25/2018 at 7:16 PM, /dev/null said: This. When it comes to companionship/friendship, dogs are superior to human beings EVERY day. They love unconditionally and are eternally loyal. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 41 minutes ago, joesixpack said: This. When it comes to companionship/friendship, dogs are superior to human beings EVERY day. They love unconditionally and are eternally loyal. Yep. It does bother me when people just don't like dogs. I understand if you don't love them but I know people who straight up don't want to be around them or touch them. Dogs are absolutely the best. I just lost mine a few weeks ago and it still hurts. I watched an old video of my son cooking smores for the first time a little while back and our dog was in the shot....got chocked up a little bit. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 1 hour ago, Royale with Cheese said: Yep. It does bother me when people just don't like dogs. I understand if you don't love them but I know people who straight up don't want to be around them or touch them. Dogs are absolutely the best. I just lost mine a few weeks ago and it still hurts. I watched an old video of my son cooking smores for the first time a little while back and our dog was in the shot....got chocked up a little bit. Why would it bother you? Maybe they have issues with dogs, were attacked as a youth...etc... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royale with Cheese Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 (edited) 39 minutes ago, ExiledInIllinois said: Why would it bother you? Maybe they have issues with dogs, were attacked as a youth...etc... I can understand if it's a big dog that looks intimating but the dog we had was a little King Charles Cavalier. Sweetest little dog ever...about 14 lbs. I married into that dog as my wife had it before we met. I normally don't like (not to say dislike) dogs like that but this one was precious (can a straight man say that? I promise I'm straight). When I lived in an apartment before my house, the family next door was just terrified of her. When my dog was on a leash and waggling her tail as we were walking up the stairs, the mother was walking down. She pressed herself against the railing and said "please get this thing away from me". I was just like "okay?". My dog didn't even touch her, she just got the wiggles when seeing another person. Edited August 1, 2018 by Royale with Cheese Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 This story doesn't bode well for the dog haters: https://amp.usatoday.com/amp/877895002 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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