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My 11 year old bull dog is in his last days. I've personally never had to take a pet to be put to sleep. The thing is, I don't believe he's currently suffering, but taking care of him is becoming a big chore. When he was 7, the glaucoma in his eyes got so bad, I had to have one of his eyes removed. Shortly after that, he lost his vision in his other eye. So for the last 4 years I've had a blind dog. That alone is alot of work. Recently I believe he developed dimentia as he will get lost outside and just walks in circles. He also has developed myositis recently which is muscle inflammation in his head and looks like part of his head is collapsing. This usually leads to pain and won't allow dogs to open their mouth to eat etc. However, he doesn't seem to be in any pain. He still eats like normal. Anyways, I don't when there's a right time and I've never had to do it before. 

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Alaways hard to tell "the right time" when it comes to this decision.  You are understandably emotionally attached to your dog, as all dog/pet owners are.  Rely on your Vet to help you with this.  When the time comes, stay with him till the end.  He would do the same for you.

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I’m on my 6th Golden Retriever. They all seem to get a tumor at some point. Making it to 11 is a good life for a dog, and a long time for you to have a dear friend. The last dog was the first time I stayed with her until the end, and while it was gut wrenching, it made me wish I had been with the previous dogs until the end when it was possible. 

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I've had to put down two dogs. Both times they no longer had any quality and were in pain. Knowing it was the right thing to do didn't stop me from crying. Once the myositis starts causing him pain it's time to put him down. Don't think it will be long. You've already gone way above and beyond, caring for a blind dog for four years. Won't be easy but it's the right thing to do.

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34 minutes ago, Steptide said:

My 11 year old bull dog is in his last days. I've personally never had to take a pet to be put to sleep. The thing is, I don't believe he's currently suffering, but taking care of him is becoming a big chore. When he was 7, the glaucoma in his eyes got so bad, I had to have one of his eyes removed. Shortly after that, he lost his vision in his other eye. So for the last 4 years I've had a blind dog. That alone is alot of work. Recently I believe he developed dimentia as he will get lost outside and just walks in circles. He also has developed myositis recently which is muscle inflammation in his head and looks like part of his head is collapsing. This usually leads to pain and won't allow dogs to open their mouth to eat etc. However, he doesn't seem to be in any pain. He still eats like normal. Anyways, I don't when there's a right time and I've never had to do it before. 


Our beagle is 15 1/2. He's mostly blind and deaf. Still eats like a horse, though -- which has always been my measuring stick. When they reject even their favorite foods, it's time.

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Just now, Steve O said:

I've had to put down two dogs. Both times they no longer had any quality and were in pain. Knowing it was the right thing to do didn't stop me from crying. Once the myositis starts causing him pain it's time to put him down. Don't think it will be long. You've already gone way above and beyond, caring for a blind dog for four years. Won't be easy but it's the right thing to do.

I agree. If he shows any signs of suffering, I'd take him right away. Right now, it's just the amount of work to take care of him. He'll often bark to go out in the middle of the night and be out there for half an hr. That alone is super frustrating. 

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We had to put our dog down after 15 years.  The vet said it was liver failure, possibly liver cancer.  The last few weeks of her life were joyless for her.  The last few days of her life she didn’t eat, and I had to carry her outside so she could do her business.  

 

We scheduled for a vet to come to our house to put her to sleep, and several relatives came over to say goodbye. We also arranged for the cremation service to be there to take her.  

 

I was upset about going to bed knowing that tomorrow would be her last day. That was tough, but it was definitely the right thing to do at the time. 

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9 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said:

Alaways hard to tell "the right time" when it comes to this decision.  You are understandably emotionally attached to your dog, as all dog/pet owners are.  Rely on your Vet to help you with this.  When the time comes, stay with him till the end.  He would do the same for you.

Yes, I will stay with him until the end. Part of me feels like I'll be relieved once he's gone, as bad as it may sound. 

2 minutes ago, Gray Beard said:

We had to put our dog down after 15 years.  The vet said it was liver failure, possibly liver cancer.  The last few weeks of her life were joyless for her.  The last few days of her life she didn’t eat, and I had to carry her outside so she could do her business.  

 

We scheduled for a vet to come to our house to put her to sleep, and several relatives came over to say goodbye. We also arranged for the cremation service to be there to take her.  

 

I was upset about going to bed knowing that tomorrow would be her last day. That was tough, but it was definitely the right thing to do at the time. 

You can have them come to your house? To be put down I mean 

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7 minutes ago, Steptide said:

.You can have them come to your house? To be put down I mean 

My wife found out about a vet who would do it. I don’t want to ask her about it because she would get upset to think about it.  Some vets make house calls for sick animals, so i guess it’s not too much of a stretch for a vet to make house calls for terminal animals. It obviously costs more, but we didn’t worry about that. 

 

This is the the web site of the vet who came to our house.  He advertises house calls as a service. 

https://drdavidnickeldvm.com/services/

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He may not be in physical pain, but that doesn't mean he's not suffering. I can't imagine what blindness and dementia would be like as a person, let alone a dog, but it must be confusing and frustrating, no matter who.

 

We put our first dog down at 15 years old. In retrospect, I think we waited about a year too long. She was always nervous going to the vet and I couldn't let her last moments of life be at a place she hated, so we found a mobile vet service who came to our house to put her down. It was worth the extra cost. 

 

I'm sorry you're going through this, but take comfort in the fact that you gave him a good 11 years.

 

 

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21 minutes ago, Augie said:

I’m on my 6th Golden Retriever. They all seem to get a tumor at some point. Making it to 11 is a good life for a dog, and a long time for you to have a dear friend. The last dog was the first time I stayed with her until the end, and while it was gut wrenching, it made me wish I had been with the previous dogs until the end when it was possible. 

I'm on #6 too, going back to 1972.  Found this one, Lindy Ruff, at the Richmond SPCA 12/08.  I think he was a run away.  Fairly wild but he calmed down very quickly.  They told me he was "about 1?"  So he's getting up there now.  Some mobility issues on stairs but good appetite and no accidents, so he's a gift.  I dread the day when we have to take him in.  My wife says Lindy is "our last dog," but I say day at a time.  I've always had a dog, so don't want to think about that.  Come to think of it, I've had dogs a lot more years than I've been married.

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23 minutes ago, Steptide said:

I agree. If he shows any signs of suffering, I'd take him right away. Right now, it's just the amount of work to take care of him. He'll often bark to go out in the middle of the night and be out there for half an hr. That alone is super frustrating. 

Know it is frustrating, but there will come a time not too long from now when you will miss those middle of the night wake up calls. 

One other thing, vets usually have a back exit for crying pet owners who have just put their pet down to leave from.

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13 minutes ago, WhoTom said:

He may not be in physical pain, but that doesn't mean he's not suffering. I can't imagine what blindness and dementia would be like as a person, let alone a dog, but it must be confusing and frustrating, no matter who.

 

We put our first dog down at 15 years old. In retrospect, I think we waited about a year too long. She was always nervous going to the vet and I couldn't let her last moments of life be at a place she hated, so we found a mobile vet service who came to our house to put her down. It was worth the extra cost. 

 

I'm sorry you're going through this, but take comfort in the fact that you gave him a good 11 years.

 

 

The crazy thing is, his blindness has never seemed to bother him. I was a little worried after he lost his sight that he may get a little aggressive. That is common when dogs go blind, however he's always been the same. Even having the dimentia, he's still for the most part the same dog. However I do agree with you, at this point it's just finding the right day to do it. 

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4 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said:

I'm on #6 too, going back to 1972.  Found this one, Lindy Ruff, at the Richmond SPCA 12/08.  I think he was a run away.  Fairly wild but he calmed down very quickly.  They told me he was "about 1?"  So he's getting up there now.  Some mobility issues on stairs but good appetite and no accidents, so he's a gift.  I dread the day when we have to take him in.  My wife says Lindy is "our last dog," but I say day at a time.  I've always had a dog, so don't want to think about that.  Come to think of it, I've had dogs a lot more years than I've been married.

 

I’ve already spoken with the  breeder of our current dog Our girl loves being around other.......anything’s (people, dogs, squirrels, etc!) that we may get her a little friend if he comes thru with a litter in May. She’s a bubbly 10 year old! Our son’s puppy was my dog’s favorite thing since dinner was invented! She lights up and it’s fun for all of us. One more now, while she can enjoy it and hope I’m up for it. About 10 years from now we will be in a very different set of circumstances, so this is probably the last one, IF we do it. I’m WELL aware of how much WORK that first year is! 

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3 hours ago, Augie said:

 

I’ve already spoken with the  breeder of our current dog Our girl loves being around other.......anything’s (people, dogs, squirrels, etc!) that we may get her a little friend if he comes thru with a litter in May. She’s a bubbly 10 year old! Our son’s puppy was my dog’s favorite thing since dinner was invented! She lights up and it’s fun for all of us. One more now, while she can enjoy it and hope I’m up for it. About 10 years from now we will be in a very different set of circumstances, so this is probably the last one, IF we do it. I’m WELL aware of how much WORK that first year is! 

Last summer, my wife, Mrs "Lindy will be our last dog," and I, were walking around Niagara on the Lake.  It seems to be very dog friendly.  We saw a Bouvier des Flandres and a Berne-doodle Bernese/Poodle mix.  They were both beautiful but the Beauvier was especially memorable.  Never saw one before, except on TV at Westminster Dog show.  These were young dogs and their owners were walking them to "socialize" them.  Mrs. "our last dog" would have taken either, or maybe both home.   Would have made for an interesting border crossing, but this is why I say day at a time, and we'll see.  I expect she will weaken.  Only have to hope I don't regret it!

 

The Bernese mix was just black & white.  I asked his owner where his brown marks were on his face?  He said some of them just come out black & white.  I said, I'll bet you got a deal then?  He just smiled.

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I am sorry you are going through this. 😪

 

I have had two dogs, and putting them down was awful. The first I think I waited a week too long. Hubby was on a business trip and offered to go with me so my son (19 at the time, we got the dog when he was 5) did not have to. My son was extremely grateful to my husband.  (The dog was too large for me to help into my SUV. Someone had to go with me.)

 

Our last dog was ill for almost 5 years before he was put down. The money, time, various vets, etc. made keeping him as well as possible an exhausting labor of love. 
 

I told my husband “no more dogs.” It is horrible saying goodbye. 
 

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Three times I've had to put my dog down. I stayed to the end with each of them. Just had to put my dog down this past summer. I'm not going to lie, I cried like a baby each time. It still hurts to think of them sometimes. Good luck with your bull dog steptide.

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I literally buried one of our saint bernards on new years day.

 

It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, and I've been through some serious *****.

 

My condolences, brother.

 

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I brought my dog, Chloe, to the vet to be euthanized.  The doctor told me it wouldn't be wrong to put her down (she had cancer), but offered an alternative treatment to give us more time together.  I agreed to try it.  At the end of our discussion, the doctor told me she could tell that I was not ready and Chloe still had a little time.  I think I got another month to spend with my girl.  When the time had actually come, I knew it.

 

You can have 100 people respond to this thread, giving you advice based on their experiences ... and every single person will mean well.

 

Your dog will tell you when it's time.  Listen to your dog and listen to your heart.

 

I wish you both the best.

 

 

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Sounds like it’s time.      Buy a pack of smokes and let those tears flow as it’s the only option. 
 

I drove two hours to a vet that did an mri on one of mine and they put her under anesthesia and she wouldn’t wake up.  
 

Had no choice than to put her down and I couldn’t be in the room when they did it.   
 

The absolute worst day ever.     

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It’s tough Steptide. Done it four times. That dog is family and you love it. You’ll do what’s best when the time is right. And don’t worry about balling when you do it. My vet has seen me cry like a baby four times. Give that sloppy bulldog a kiss for me (my parents had bulldogs and they’re special). 

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13 hours ago, Steptide said:

My 11 year old bull dog is in his last days. I've personally never had to take a pet to be put to sleep. The thing is, I don't believe he's currently suffering, but taking care of him is becoming a big chore. When he was 7, the glaucoma in his eyes got so bad, I had to have one of his eyes removed. Shortly after that, he lost his vision in his other eye. So for the last 4 years I've had a blind dog. That alone is alot of work. Recently I believe he developed dimentia as he will get lost outside and just walks in circles. He also has developed myositis recently which is muscle inflammation in his head and looks like part of his head is collapsing. This usually leads to pain and won't allow dogs to open their mouth to eat etc. However, he doesn't seem to be in any pain. He still eats like normal. Anyways, I don't when there's a right time and I've never had to do it before. 

 

I'm sorry.

 

We're on our 4th dog, which means we've had to put 3 down.  And a rabbit.  And our neighbor's dog, who we'd helped raise from puppyhood.

 

We always felt as though it was the "right time" when we did it.  Our second dog developed cancer.  We kept her while we felt she was still enjoying life.  When it got to the point where she wouldn't eat, even enticing stuff from our fingers, it was time.  We brushed her and made her pretty.  Took her to a park, let her off leash, let her chase the squirrels and ducks, jump in the pond.  Then we dried her and brushed her out again and took her to the vet.  Took the first dog with us to see the body (that's important).

 

First dog, had gotten to the point where as the family said "I can't think of a single thing I could do with her that she'd enjoy doing".  She didn't seem to be in great pain, but she just didn't want to move.  Third dog, similar.  That vet had a really nice set up - exam room with a sofa they covered with a quilt.  We got to sit on the sofa and hold her.

 

Anyway, remember that dogs have an endorphin system that Football players would envy.  Dog with cancer, little 40 lb dog, jumped off a porch we were building (no rail yet), 6 feet off the ground, landed 8 feet out in the yard yelped once but didn't break stride running after a squirrel.  Came trotting back with her tail flagged high.  This was 3 days post major surgery for the cancer, we were supposed to "keep her quiet for 2 weeks".  How 6 point restraints?  Human being be lying in bed going "hnnng hnnng grooooooan" at that point and wincing when reaching for a coffee cup.

 

Anyway, I would say, trust yourself, you'll know. 

 

The stuff about crying is normal, True.  But each different.  You may cry, you may not cry.  You may start crying 3 weeks later while you're cleaning out a drawer full of dog stuff.  You may just need to split wood or sling some landscape blocks around.  But yeah that is a family member and chances are you'll grieve.  Someone wrote that " it might well be more difficult to get over the loss of a dog than of a family member. "One often has mixed feelings about relatives, but few people could identify serious problems in their relationships with dogs." "

 

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