at first i was going to rip you on this nonsense and your "hot" girlfriend. then i realized that the vast majority of dirtbags here have never even gone on a date, much less had a girl speak to them. so, in that way, you're a step ahead.
regardless, good story about that candle. the only problem is that our troubles didn't start in 2000.
also, throw out the candle. don't live in the past. don't pine over something you can never have again. she's gone baby, gone.