Chef Jim Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR Why do people keep quoting the original post? Its so annoying to have to scroll through it over and over. I don't get it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albany,n.y. Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Gossip and not enough rah rah siss boom ba. He aired this earlier. http://forums.twobillsdrive.com/index.php?...t&p=1382693 Gossip, being bored & roomate problems so he transfers to another college & is even more miserable with his roomates? Sorry, but HR sounds like a big baby. HR, next time transfer to a place where you can live at home & mommy & daddy can change your diaper. You're encountering your 1st look at the real world & you're having survival problems, deal with it. Do you know what happens in the office everyday-gossip & boring assignments. Also it sounds like you're the type of kid, that's right kid, who just doesn't know how to get along with people. The situation you describe reminds me a lot of my 1st semester in Fredonia. I had 3 other guys in the room with me. One was a guy from Amsterdam NY who was graduating at the end of the semester-he was the normal one. The next guy was an exchange student from Denmark who partied all the time & never went to class. The 3rd guy was from Ghana, listened to WBLK until 3 or 4 in the morning & kept everyone awake with his radio. He was also PO'd about the USA being a "white man's world". I got through the semester because I didn't become a paranoid crybaby like HR, who deep down just wants to go home to mommy. The next semester, the 1st guy graduated, the 2nd guy flunked out & was sent back to Denmark & the 3rd guy moved out to a place of his own where he could happily listen to WBLK as much as he wanted to. I ended up with one roomate in a huge room & we're still friends today, 37 years later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PushthePile Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I know a guy who took a dump in someone's coffee pot, and let it brew all day. That's a pretty solid move for alot of situations. Another idea is an "upper decker". You drop another dump in the top tank of Singapore's toilet and let him enjoy the aroma of your gift every time he flushes. He wouldn't figure it out forever. If these ideas don't seem like you, then I suggest you stand up for yourself. You need to be loud and aggressive. If this 6 year senior whips your ass, he whips your ass. An ass whipping is much better then accepting disrespectful behavior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebug Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Dude get a backbone, you actually transferred schools because of a roommate problem? Get a new roommate not a new school. Screw these !@#$s, what do you care what they think. You let them take advantage of you, that's why they did. Stand up for yourself. If that doesn't work you could call JP and ask him to clean up the mess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IDBillzFan Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Man, if you're having a hard time with this problem, I'm not looking forward to the day when you're married with kids and your toilet overflows. (Seriously, John. I'm just kidding.) Here's a tip from an old dude who took too long to learn it himself: the greatest gift you can give yourself is to learn how to not give a rat's ass what other people think of you. This is a great opportunity to start learning this lesson. They make faces and bust your nuts because they know it bugs you. The minute they genuinely know that it does NOT bug you, you can go and do as you please, regardless of what they do. Master this now and your life will get increasingly better so fast you won't have time to wipe your sweaty nuts on their plates (which is also a very good suggestion). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I agree. There's always two sides to the story. Do you crap in the toilet and never flush? Do you smell like a dead hooker? Are you not neat in common areas? Do you burst out in random song and dance? Do you vomit in the house then forget about it? These are all problems that I've had with roommates in the past and it was circumvented by being the alpha male and standing up for myself. It's one thing to help people when in need, like providing them rides, but don't let them take advantage of you. Overstand your ground. Exactly how many hookers have you killed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chef Jim Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Exactly how many hookers have you killed? My question is how many dead ones he's smelled and why. Scratch that, I don't want to know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 My question is how many dead ones he's smelled and why. Scratch that, I don't want to know. That Rochester serial killer guy used to go back and visit. Maybe this dude is a copycat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 QUOTE I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR QUOTE (theesir @ Oct 14 2009, 02:40 PM) Why do people keep quoting the original post? Its so annoying to have to scroll through it over and over. I don't get it. me neither. Pussification Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No QB - No Bueno Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 Move out. Problem solved. I roomed with 5 guys in an old thin walled house while attending a Big Ten university. One was a Japanese exchange student who was never home. One was a bud. One was an alcoholic engineering student who worked in a cowboy themed bar and would bring home a new skanky Reba McEntire nightly for our listening pleasure. Then there was Chuck, who's room shared a common wall with mine. Chuck delivered pizza til 1am, then would bone high school ass while smoking weed and getting gangsta with Doggystyle till 4am. Pretty tough when you have 8am labs. You couldn't help being immersed in everyone's business and it was impossible to find peace for study, relaxation between work and school, or entertaining tail. The overall vibe was reduced by the fact the Slum Lord we rented from failed to tell us that there was no heat in the place so that the average winter temp inside topped out at 43 degrees (average January high in the city was 0). I moved out. First, I called the city and found that all dwellings needed to have heating capable of raising the internal temperature to at least 68 in the winter. Failure to comply had major consequences for a landlord. I told the Slum Lord that I was going to report her (didnt but the threat shut down any attempts to keep me on the hook for the lease), and told my roommates see-ya. My bud and the Japanese guy followed me to a cheaper but nicer Brownstone apartment with heat. Japanese guy was never was around and still payed 1/3 of the rent. Morale increased. Better study conditions attained. Improved access to downtown venues and tail. Moral: Action, not words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted October 15, 2009 Author Share Posted October 15, 2009 Dude get a backbone, you actually transferred schools because of a roommate problem? Get a new roommate not a new school. Screw these !@#$s, what do you care what they think. You let them take advantage of you, that's why they did. Stand up for yourself. If that doesn't work you could call JP and ask him to clean up the mess. I should clarify this roommate situation last year. I was schedulued to be a house with a few guys and i hated the school as it was the only reason i was staying was bc i had that group of friends. The day before the housing lottery they kicked me out and didnt tell me until that morning. After that i didnt see any reason to stay at a school i didnt like anyway especially at the cost of le moyne in todays economy...hence the switch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 I should clarify this roommate situation last year. I was schedulued to be a house with a few guys and i hated the school as it was the only reason i was staying was bc i had that group of friends. The day before the housing lottery they kicked me out and didnt tell me until that morning. After that i didnt see any reason to stay at a school i didnt like anyway especially at the cost of le moyne in todays economy...hence the switch lol, no one likes you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 lol, no one likes you who is the common denominator in these situations? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted October 15, 2009 Author Share Posted October 15, 2009 who is the common denominator in these situations? Ok thats a possibility ill admit...how do i change? Seriously if this is on me, I dont wanna be like this. What can i do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spartacus Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 Gossip and not enough rah rah siss boom ba. He aired this earlier. http://forums.twobillsdrive.com/index.php?...t&p=1382693 with all of these roommate problems, you can pretty much write off a career in psychology you should switch majors the next time you switch schools due to roommate issues Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Hindsight Posted October 15, 2009 Author Share Posted October 15, 2009 Also it sounds like you're the type of kid, that's right kid, who just doesn't know how to get along with people. Ill admit this is possible, Tell me tho how can i change this I dont wanna be that guy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BLZFAN4LIFE Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 I transfered schools this year due in part to roomate issues at my old school and now i find myself in a possibly worse situation. Because im a transfer i got put with a bunch of randoms. 4 people total, Myself and transfer from OCC, an exchange student from singapore and a 5th year senior. For the first week or two everything was fine Myself and the kid from singapore got along pretty well and the guy from OCC is a big party guy but pretty true blue and a good guy and the 5th year senior he was never around so whatever. The real trouble started when i started to realize i was being taken advantage of by having the only car in the apartment. My roommates asked me to take them everywhere, Target, wegamns, AT&T, Walmart... Beer Runs have way thru parties. No gas money ever, just really being taken advantage of. Normally i wouldnt care i have to go shopping too sometimes but we once spent 45 mins at target looking at a trash can (i wish i was kidding) That made me late for meeting up some friends to watch a Bills game (preseason) and when i have to change my entire plans and am late for something because of someone else not respecting the fact i have to go when i say i have to go, I'm gonna be a little upset One Night we had an apartemnt meeting to discuss our grivences with each other (why, I dont know) and i brought this up. I said that i wasnt comfortable A) driving around a city that i dont know and putting my car in danger everytime i do that. B) Losing out on gas money C) My roomamtes asking to let them barrow my car when i cant drive for whatever reason. D) Changing MY schedule to accomadte their needs. They said well we dont have meal plans so the only way we eat is if we can get to wegmans and can cook (Why its my responsibility to make sure that happens is beyond me I got a meal plan so i wouldnt have to worry about that....or not to mention every weekend there is a bus that goes to wegmans) Because I didnt wanna fight about it anymore I said well if we set a day and time and i can make it a part of my schedule then im ok with it. The kid from singapore says he feels totally wronged here and !@#$ed over and if im going to be "bitter" about driving people around then he doesnt want to have anything to do with it.... Ok fine Whatever. I go to bed and he hasnt spoken to me since (besides this morning to accuse me of stealing orange juice) That was a month ago. I'm not going to tell him hey i was wrong let me drive you everywhere Because i get taken advantage of again. S ive just tried to be nice and say hi to him and such and he generally just ignores me. Then the 5th year senior. this kid never put down money for beer or gas ever and would hand out my beer to his friends at parties. Not Keystone or someother cheap ****, Miller High Lifes, Heiniken ect. beer that i have just to enjoy and relax. Beer isnt cheap i'm not made of money i bought it for me not for his friends. So i said something to him about it and he denied denied denied. (Ive seen him do it I lost an entire 30 one night to him giving them away) So he gave someone money to buy him beer one night and i took the liberty of buying a 6 pack to just sort of make it even. Now ill admit prolly not the best idea so he finds out gets pissed at me threatens to kick my ass ect ect so i go out and buy him a 6 pack and say look dude im sorry here no hard feelings. He takes it then two days later (today) tells me thats not enough pay up or else. Everytime i walk out into the living room/Kitchen aera i get dirty looks. I cant evn leave my room without feeling threatened and the only time i do leave is to go eat or go to class. How can i live like this? I cant leave my own room without feeling unsafe/unwanted/threatened ect I dont know anyone at this school becuase i just started here and frankly i dont even see any more options. I Dont want to live here but im stuck in a lease....how can i make this bearable or better? Thanks in advance HR You should have followed prison rules. On day 1 you confront the baddest mother!@#$er you can find. In this case probably the fifth year senior. You knock out his front grill and !@#$ his bloody mouth. Voila. All of this petty B.S. would have been avoided. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 My question is how many dead ones he's smelled and why. Scratch that, I don't want to know. And another thing. If he knows what a dead hooker smells like it must mean he knows what a dead non-hooker smells like. How else would he differentiate. How many people has this dude killed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justnzane Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 As a former RA, and as a former roommate that despised roommates. There are three fun solutions: 1. Masturbate all the time... seriously who would want to talk to a guy while he is jerking it? 2. Find and date a bitchy girl... this could backfire, but she'll not take their ****. Thus you won't either while around her. She could run you over though. 3. Play pranks on them... !@#$ with them until they respect you. Piss them off and you'll either gain their respect or a new rooming situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDawkinstein Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 Ok thats a possibility ill admit...how do i change? Seriously if this is on me, I dont wanna be like this. What can i do? Ill admit this is possible, Tell me tho how can i change this I dont wanna be that guy its not that easy dude. LIFE is not that easy. you arent going to get a "perfect reply" typed on a message board that changes who you are and how you act. you gotta take it one day at a time and one interaction at a time. the fact that youre here, seeking advice from a bunch of strangers, and not dealing with the reality of your life that is right outside your bedroom door is your first mistake. theres a starting point for you. but just like everyone else in this entire world, you gotta figure life out for yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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