Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw Edited November 15, 2011 by john wawrow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarkLessWagMore Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 bad form, indeed. Agree with your position, John. A private exchange should be kept private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it. 7. jw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloBill Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I agree with you. The difficulty though is that you can't control the actions and "groundrules" that others will follow. As for me, I assume everything I put in email, PM's and certainly on this board might be seen by the public. As a result, I am very conservative about what, if anything, I say or share. There is also an unknown element. Everything that is put out on the internet is "discoverable." This may be legitimately through tools like Google or it may be through malicious action. No matter how or where along this spectrum words are exposed they can be very damaging. Interesting topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebug Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it. Didn't see that anywhere in the terms of service. Maybe it should be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I just sent you a private message with my thoughts... :-) Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebug Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw I think it's kinda crappy, but you can't really trust some on here...... Also, what are you doing going to other discussion sites? I thought we had exclusive rights? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bills44 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 perhaps, i'm making too much of this. indeed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) I think it's kinda crappy, but you can't really trust some on here...... Also, what are you doing going to other discussion sites? I thought we had exclusive rights? i get around. i'll also not name the poster. the intention i had in starting this thread is not to call or rat someone out -- i've never put a poster on ignore or reported a questionable post (other than those in which copyrighted information was used in a post without credit). instead, i considered it a good time to open a discussion and perhaps have it serve as a reminder for everyone here who exchange private messages that, perhaps, it's good form to keep them private. jw Edited November 15, 2011 by john wawrow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloBillsForever Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages should always stay private, however there are a few common sense exceptions in which you might NOT want to keep something private anymore. Offensive Threatening Illegal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boyst Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages should always stay private, however there are a few common sense exceptions in which you might NOT want to keep something private anymore. Offensive Threatening Illegal Then whats the point of private messaging at all? Especially with Wawrow? In all seriousness, let a moderator know - we need to police ourselves people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) i get around. i'll also not name the poster. the intention i had in starting this thread is not to call or rat someone out -- i've never put a poster on ignore or reported a questionable post (other than those in which copyrighted information was used in a post without credit). instead, i considered it a good time to open a discussion and perhaps have it serve as a reminder for everyone here who exchange private messages that, perhaps, it's good form to keep them private. jw First of all we all understand why you thought Beerboy would be able to help you with remedy advice for your "itching". Truth be told, he doesn't know much about anything. The reason you went back and forth with him so much is that he obviously And I could have told you he can't keep a secret. P.S. The bald look really doesn't work for him any better than the "with hair" look does. Edited November 15, 2011 by ieatcrayonz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 :lol: KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Satan Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Not respecting the "private" part of a "private message" is bad, m'kay? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FluffHead Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Not respecting the "private" part of a "private message" is bad, m'kay? One must always respect the private parts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. What happens if it is a mod? Does that go for names and identity? I found the some mods themselves have broken this protocal and released information without consent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 What happens if it is a mod? Does that go for names and identity? I found the some mods themselves have broken this protocal and released information without consent. Settle down, Eric. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) Settle down, Eric. Part of the reason I took Exiled in Illinois... It always gave me the option of changing it to 'Eric in Illinois." I really don't care that people know my name... I would have agreed if they would have asked permission. Yet, it was a mod that leaked it from a PM and now you and I are on a first name basis. I think this is great. But please, feel to use it in positive exchanges, not just in contentious ones. I never understood why they leaked it? I must have really bothered them or something and that is the only way they thought they could "best me." I have nothing to hide. You would think mods would know the etiquette?? Many people I get PM's from sign their name... Edited November 16, 2011 by ExiledInIllinois Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeviF Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 If someone released my first name after seeing it in a PM, I'd be mad as hell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 If someone released my first name after seeing it in a PM, I'd be mad as hell. I usually sign my name as a friend... And too boot a, a mod released it! Like I said, really don't care... I am basically telling everybody a bunch of other personal things. It is the PPP crowd, they know they can't win an argument so they resort to intimidation... They have done it with others too. Again, you would think the mods get the etiquette more than common posters. I am sure that they will spin this their own way hearing what I have said. The other lemmings just pile on. I mean, you see how JiA piled on... If JW has a beef... The they (mods) should be listening. Not just giving lip service. Now if the board establishement comes out and says, they really can't control that etiquette... Then fine, I am fine with that. Oh, BTW... I think what gets them even more about me is that I am one of the few that sign in as anonymous... They can see who it is... Usually, there are only few that sign in this way. Right now, there is 2 or 3 I think?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I usually sign my name as a friend... And too boot a, a mod released it! Like I said, really don't care... I am basically telling everybody a bunch of other personal things. It is the PPP crowd, they know they can't win an argument so they resort to intimidation... They have done it with others too. Again, you would think the mods get the etiquette more than common posters. I am sure that they will spin this their own way hearing what I have said. The other lemmings just pile on. I mean, you see how JiA piled on... If JW has a beef... The they (mods) should be listening. Not just giving lip service. Now if the board establishement comes out and says, they really can't control that etiquette... Then fine, I am fine with that. I piled on? With who? One man is not a pile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delete This Account Posted November 16, 2011 Author Share Posted November 16, 2011 KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss... damn, i got nothing. ... that's funny. jw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeviF Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) I usually sign my name as a friend... And too boot a, a mod released it! Like I said, really don't care... I am basically telling everybody a bunch of other personal things. It is the PPP crowd, they know they can't win an argument so they resort to intimidation... They have done it with others too. Again, you would think the mods get the etiquette more than common posters. I am sure that they will spin this their own way hearing what I have said. The other lemmings just pile on. I mean, you see how JiA piled on... If JW has a beef... The they (mods) should be listening. Not just giving lip service. Now if the board establishement comes out and says, they really can't control that etiquette... Then fine, I am fine with that. Oh, BTW... I think what gets them even more about me is that I am one of the few that sign in as anonymous... They can see who it is... Usually, there are only few that sign in this way. Right now, there is 2 or 3 I think?? Leave it to the carp man to reply to my post, which was clearly a joke, with a four-paragraph lecture Edited November 16, 2011 by LeviF91 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I piled on? With who? One man is not a pile. Other than me reaffriming my name... How did you know? If it was just by me reaffirming others, then fine... If not, then from where? By what other people said? Isn't that piling on? I am not on a first name business with you, never have been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) Other than me reaffriming my name... How did you know? If it was just by me reaffirming others, then fine... If not, then from where? By what other people said? Isn't that piling on? I am not on a first name business with you, never have been. Maybe you shouldn't PM your name if it means that much to you? Did AD sweet talk you or twist your arm? Hell I got my real photo on my profile. Who cares? Should I expect wiretaps or stalkers? Edited November 16, 2011 by Jim in Anchorage Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chef Jim Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 If someone released my first name after seeing it in a PM, I'd be mad as hell. Me too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I'd be pissed if y'all found out my first name too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beerball Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Hell I got my real photo on my profile. Who cares? Should I expect wiretaps or stalkers? With a rack like that I'd guess stalkers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRC Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss... Thanks for cleaning that up for me before posting it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plenzmd1 Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Me too. Thx for the laugh in the AM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloBill Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 Hell I got my real photo on my profile. Who cares? Should I expect wiretaps or stalkers? I had to look ... impressive rack and scenery ... I doubt I could live in Alaska but it is beautiful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 So, who is **** head? Is Jack, Jack? Is Jay, Jay? And who the hell is mead? Tim, or jw as you like to to use, I think you have a right to be who ever you want to be and not have things repeated in a PM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerry Christ Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I hate people who sign their name at the end of their post.......sheesh. I don't expect anything I say to be kept private anywhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DC Tom Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I hate people who sign their name at the end of their post.......sheesh. I don't expect anything I say to be kept private anywhere. Or just their initials. In lower case. Pretentious ee cummings wanna-bes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 I hate people who sign their name at the end of their post.......sheesh. I don't expect anything I say to be kept private anywhere. Dude when you use your name as your screen name you are basically doing the same thing in every post. :wallbash: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 whats wrong with initials? sincerely, PJ Or just their initials. In lower case. Pretentious ee cummings wanna-bes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 whats wrong with initials? sincerely, PJ Yea, what he said. JW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CowgirlsFan Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 whats wrong with initials? sincerely, PJ All the guys call me CGF in the ''Shout Box''. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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