Good thing you're paying attention. I (and others) have never made that strawman argument and instead have repeatedly said that what happened that day was an embarrassment and those who committed actual crimes deserved to be punished.
The discussion was who was at fault for not providing adequate security, which we both believe could have prevented it. You think it was a conspiracy by Trump so that people would break into the Capitol even though he never once said for them to do it. I think it was at best a foolish concern over optics by Pelosi and Bowser and at worst that they wanted something to happen, but outside the Capitol. Hence the reason Pelosi took the blame for it in her daughter's video.
And I will continue to say that "he made me do it/he lit the fuse" isn't a valid excuse for anyone to use or to blame a specific person. They were adults and their actions were their own.
Finally, contact doesn't equal collusion. And there was zero evidence of any coordinated effort. You guys just couldn't accept that Hillary lost, to the likes of Trump no less, and accepted any excuse.