I'm not clinging to hate, it's just that when the topic comes up my opinion is that the act is wrong. I feel an obligation to stand up for what I believe the almighty believes. Obviously our interpretation of his beliefs on this matter differ. I don't pretend to have all the answers and obviously I can't change your mind on a message board either. I think there is room in this discussion to respectfully disagree with homosexuality and not be a hateful person.
I agree with you that our beliefs can change. If we're strong enough to look beyond personal involvement, God can reveal.
I do sympathize with you on the situation with your late Aunt. I never want to see any person hurting.