The Poojer Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 we had already had an entire company party(@3,000 people locally)where spouses and sig others were invited...this was for our little agency part of the company and budget constraints forced them to exclude anyone but employees....we are talking a few hundred employees...not 30-40 people..... You have a strange office. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 anyone remember this topic???? anyone remember the opening scene in Old School? Played out almost exactly on thursday morning....my friend still suspected things were going on, she unlocked one of the side doors that was seldom used, went out of town for 2 days on business...changed her original flight to a red eye... got home, both 'husband' and au pair were in showers, seperately...she went into the bedroom sat on the bed and noticed both sides of the bed were warm.... au pair walks into the bedroom, something she never does without knocking first, sees Allison...mumbles something and scurries out. 'husband' walks out of the shower, sees allison and nearly has a heart attack... begins denying things and allison starts to believe them(even so far as to say that the ky bottle must have been the baby grabbed it..., til she realizes, its not the bottle of KY she normally has...TMI) She moves the pillow and there are the au pairs earrings and hair clip....the 'husband' is busted and confesses to an on going relationship.... Allison kicks the au pair out with her belongings and calls the au pair company to come and get her...she is back in panama this morning... Sadly, I am the only one Allison has told the story to so I cannot talk about it to anyone she and I know....I want so badly for my ex director, 'the husband's' boss to find out because even though he and the 'husband' are best 'friends', he is super protective of allison and has often threatened to cut his junk off if he ever does something like this to her.... I am soooooo glad to be out of that work environment, but I would love to see him squirm because he is such a terrible person, and this is fate shining down...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 So the hubby got 6 more months of banging the hot nanny. Not bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 based on the reaction i am getting from my friend allison...he may get a lifetime free pass of banging whomever he wants...much like everyone here pointed out originally...she is in complete denial, hasn't even kicked him out for the past couple days...worse yet...they went to the beach because she felt that would help her clear her head and continue to ask questions...right now the outcome is this diminutive 22 year old panamanian chick was completely controlling, manipulative and even able to 'take care' of the wife if need be....the poor husband has been helpless during all this....makes me sick, but she needs an ally right now, so I listen and offer gentle advice....sometimes being a friend sucks.... looking back on it...i could have/should have banged the au pair, but now knowing for sure that that piece of **** was touching her, I am glad i refrained..... So the hubby got 6 more months of banging the hot nanny. Not bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 based on the reaction i am getting from my friend allison...he may get a lifetime free pass of banging whomever he wants...much like everyone here pointed out originally...she is in complete denial, hasn't even kicked him out for the past couple days...worse yet...they went to the beach because she felt that would help her clear her head and continue to ask questions...right now the outcome is this diminutive 22 year old panamanian chick was completely controlling, manipulative and even able to 'take care' of the wife if need be....the poor husband has been helpless during all this....makes me sick, but she needs an ally right now, so I listen and offer gentle advice....sometimes being a friend sucks.... looking back on it...i could have/should have banged the au pair, but now knowing for sure that that piece of **** was touching her, I am glad i refrained..... Some guys marry women they can control rather than ones they respect. Sometimes I'm jealous of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) that is his M.O. to a 'T'...he tries to control everyone, and respects no one. Working for him was the most miserable time of my life...i almost would have preferred staying unemployed for that year looking back on it(of course that is a bit of an exaggeration....) and I am not jealous of that type of person because that is not a trait I would want to possess...(and I know you were also exaggerating with that statement) Some guys marry women they can control rather than ones they respect. Sometimes I'm jealous of them. Edited July 2, 2011 by The Poojer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
/dev/null Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 How would I handle the situation? First, the au pair sounds slutty so I'd try to get a piece for myself (assuming she's attractive) Second, I'd post pics for my TSW buds Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Booster4324 Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 that is his M.O. to a 'T'...he tries to control everyone, and respects no one. Working for him was the most miserable time of my life...i almost would have preferred staying unemployed for that year looking back on it(of course that is a bit of an exaggeration....) and I am not jealous of that type of person because that is not a trait I would want to possess...(and I know you were also exaggerating with that statement) So when are you going to nail the wife? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UConn James Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 If the dude didn't get straight after the initial close call, then tried to flit away whatever excuses he could when he got caught in the act until it was game-set-match, he doesn't show the signs of ever stopping. If she doesn't realize he's a !@#$ing liar, if she believes he will now get straight, if she's so confident that the maid's the only one he's schtooping, if she's so damn confident that he won't be giving her an STD, if she doesn't realize that this pattern only escalates, if she doesn't realize that maybe she's got a self-punishment neurosis herself (did her father/mother cheat?)... then it looks like she's going to be stuck in this pattern. And maybe she wants to be stuck in this pattern. She may now feel like she "has hand" in the relationship, but telling by the guy's behavior, he'll do anything to get that hand back, or just cut off that hand. Make no mistake, there's a lot of risk in that relationship right now. You can only hope that it doesn't turn into one of those stories where the lover or husband kills the wife to get her out of the way and avoid a costly divorce/alimony agreement that might cramp the cheaters' style. It happens every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CosmicBills Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 So when are you going to nail the wife? Fair question. No disrespect intended, Pooj, but it seems like you have a pretty big thing for this gal. More than just a friend. But I echo what others have said on here -- stay as far removed from this situation as you can ... ESPECIALLY if you have feelings for this broad. It will end very, very badly for you. I know that sounds heartless, but it's true. There are some sinking ships you can't save and getting romantic feelings mixed into someone else's marriage when the other spouse is cheating is a recipe for disaster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoSaint Posted July 2, 2011 Share Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) Fair question. No disrespect intended, Pooj, but it seems like you have a pretty big thing for this gal. More than just a friend. But I echo what others have said on here -- stay as far removed from this situation as you can ... ESPECIALLY if you have feelings for this broad. It will end very, very badly for you. I know that sounds heartless, but it's true. There are some sinking ships you can't save and getting romantic feelings mixed into someone else's marriage when the other spouse is cheating is a recipe for disaster. agreed. on all fronts. though you might admire her, or enjoy her company, or whatever it may be.... it seems like its no more healthy for you to be her friend right now than it is her to be with her husband. there is literally nothing good that can come from being close with her right now. it seems she is, like it or not, ok with the situation. regardless of what she is saying to you, she is clearly giving him something very different. staying around this couple likely ends with them still together and something bad coming your way. Edited July 2, 2011 by NoSaint Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 2, 2011 Author Share Posted July 2, 2011 Understand your concerns, and 100% honesty, we are just good friends. We were cube neighbors at circuit city and became very good friends. Cant say as a romantic involvement ever really was any real thought...just friends. Fair question. No disrespect intended, Pooj, but it seems like you have a pretty big thing for this gal. More than just a friend. But I echo what others have said on here -- stay as far removed from this situation as you can ... ESPECIALLY if you have feelings for this broad. It will end very, very badly for you. I know that sounds heartless, but it's true. There are some sinking ships you can't save and getting romantic feelings mixed into someone else's marriage when the other spouse is cheating is a recipe for disaster. Because of the fact that I worked for the husband and saw what kind of person he was, I distanced myself big time from social interaction. The only interaction I had was a couple evenings out with the au pair because we both had a lot of disdain( or so I thought) with the husband figure. I always suspected he was bouncing her, but still, she seemed to need to vent...as did I agreed. on all fronts. though you might admire her, or enjoy her company, or whatever it may be.... it seems like its no more healthy for you to be her friend right now than it is her to be with her husband. there is literally nothing good that can come from being close with her right now. it seems she is, like it or not, ok with the situation. regardless of what she is saying to you, she is clearly giving him something very different. staying around this couple likely ends with them still together and something bad coming your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boyst Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) i'll revert to an old joke... go make it with a disease ridden prostitute, sleep with au pair, who will then give it to the husband who is the guy who ran over your bike cheated on his wife who now will have aids. problem fixed. Edited July 3, 2011 by jboyst62 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MattyT Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 anyone remember this topic???? anyone remember the opening scene in Old School? Played out almost exactly on thursday morning....my friend still suspected things were going on, she unlocked one of the side doors that was seldom used, went out of town for 2 days on business...changed her original flight to a red eye... got home, both 'husband' and au pair were in showers, seperately...she went into the bedroom sat on the bed and noticed both sides of the bed were warm.... au pair walks into the bedroom, something she never does without knocking first, sees Allison...mumbles something and scurries out. 'husband' walks out of the shower, sees allison and nearly has a heart attack... begins denying things and allison starts to believe them(even so far as to say that the ky bottle must have been the baby grabbed it..., til she realizes, its not the bottle of KY she normally has...TMI) She moves the pillow and there are the au pairs earrings and hair clip....the 'husband' is busted and confesses to an on going relationship.... Allison kicks the au pair out with her belongings and calls the au pair company to come and get her...she is back in panama this morning... Sadly, I am the only one Allison has told the story to so I cannot talk about it to anyone she and I know....I want so badly for my ex director, 'the husband's' boss to find out because even though he and the 'husband' are best 'friends', he is super protective of allison and has often threatened to cut his junk off if he ever does something like this to her.... I am soooooo glad to be out of that work environment, but I would love to see him squirm because he is such a terrible person, and this is fate shining down...... Reads like a scene from Mr. Mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 Get some and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerry Christ Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 Dude you are strung on this girl its bad......seriously.....bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 If I am, it is completely sub-consciously....I swear, we are very very very good friends...I have never thought of her in a romantic way...never...part of what may lead people to think I have something for her is my perceived disdain for her 'husband'....I promise you, I am not alone in this feeling towards him..he may be the most disliked person in my former company. He is a bad person, he has no respect for others. I promise you, my dislike for him stems more from him mis-treating my friend...but I cannot state more emphatically that I do NOT have romantic feelings for her. I know I am not gonna convince anyone, but I stand by what I am saying... Dude you are strung on this girl its bad......seriously.....bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim in Anchorage Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 If I am, it is completely sub-consciously....I swear, we are very very very good friends...I have never thought of her in a romantic way...never...part of what may lead people to think I have something for her is my perceived disdain for her 'husband'....I promise you, I am not alone in this feeling towards him..he may be the most disliked person in my former company. He is a bad person, he has no respect for others. I promise you, my dislike for him stems more from him mis-treating my friend...but I cannot state more emphatically that I do NOT have romantic feelings for her. I know I am not gonna convince anyone, but I stand by what I am saying... Like you'd be this concerned about a dude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 actually i did have a male friend go through his own situation of his wife(another dear friend of mine) cheating on him, and I absolutely did show a lot of concern for him...probably not to this extent....the level of dislike I have for this dude is pretty high...since day 1 at my old job, it was miserable just being around him, and there are others that were left in his wake that feel the same way...in fact, i work with one such at my new job... Like you'd be this concerned about a dude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead107 Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 What happened to the red head? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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