If tax dollars were actually bringing us the utopia you seek, no one would have a problem paying them.
If we all had the best
Roads
Sanitation
Defense
Education
College
Health care/insurance
Housing
Police/fire
Retirements
Employment
Etc...
From taxes, and there wasn't tons of waste on inefficiencies, you wouldn't have a hard convincing people to pay more for additional utopia services.
But we don't, and we're not even close to achieving it. In fact all the income in this country can't provide the utopia you seek. So at the point that a tax rate of 100% won't get us there, where is the logic in asking for more?
It's not logic. It's emotion. You feel like if we all chipped in a little more on the problems you feel are important, we'd all be better off. But there's no data or research or test cases or anything that give an ounce of credibility to your emotional argument. You just want to feel better.
Yet, far be it from you to lead by example and start donating to the federal government. You just want to sit in the back and shame the rest of the country for not feeling the way you feel.