68, outside of a few years in college and a year in Austin I've spent my entire life in the suburb of Irondequoit. Front yard is the Northern border of the United States. As Teef says, outside of sporting or cultural events it's best to avoid the city... I drive 20 miles around it rather than 4 miles through it. A friend was talking to a cop parked outside a Walmart last week. Cop said Walmart pays him to be there. If a thief is 17 or under he can't detain them, can just relieve him of the stolen merchandise and release him. This Walmart is at the southern end or Irondequoit near the city border. If I need to go to Walmart I go to Webster. They say life is worth living there.
As OB says, Rochester is a great minor league sports town. Red Wings, Amerks, and Nighthawks are all mainstays. Soccer is sporadic, every few years a team appears for a while.
No shortage of neighborhood bars if that's your thing.
As BP12 says, we're also a great golf town. $475 will get you a season pass to all 3 county run courses. Also a good mix of semi-private and private clubs.
Fairport has the best utility rates as the municipality runs their own electric. They claim Fairport Electric uses no tax money, not sure if that's true or advanced bookkeeping.
Where in Ma do you currently live? My brother runs the O family farm in South Hadley (outside Holyoke, a little South of Hadley.)
Anyways sorry about the breakup, good luck wherever you end up.