BLZFAN4LIFE Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 C'mon Poojer. Let's have an update... Inquiring minds want to know... Did you bust a move? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 i actually did send her a note via myspace....much to the chagrin of many here...but really just did a "friend request" and in the subject line put "...Hey, I know you...", she quickly accepted the request then replied that it was nice to hear from me...and some more small talk....so step one was successful, so far....stay tuned C'mon Poojer. Let's have an update...Inquiring minds want to know... Did you bust a move? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevestojan Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 i actually did send her a note via myspace....much to the chagrin of many here...but really just did a "friend request" and in the subject line put "...Hey, I know you...", she quickly accepted the request then replied that it was nice to hear from me...and some more small talk....so step one was successful, so far....stay tuned Well, I still highly recommend growing a set, but let's go baby steps here. I absolutely disagree with your actions to this point. I mean, if you didn't want our advice and knew you were going to send her a myspace msg either way, why did you ask us???? Ok, lecture over. The worst outcome out of that would have been that "friend request" sitting there forever. Luckily, that didn't happen. Now that she accepted you as an "eFriend" lets move on past the 1s and 0s and ask this chick on a date. She knows what you're doing here... women always do. She doesn't think that you just want to be her friend. You're too far gone for that. You obviously looked up her name and searched her out on the internet. That's either creepy, desperate, or potentially (and this one's a stretch) "sweet" as she might think you're too shy too talk to her and find that refreshing. But now that you've done what you've done, and gone against all reason and rationale, you've actually opened a door. You, just because you're shy, don't lack the sense of knowing when a woman isn't interested. You will know. I would take the opportunity to break out of this eFriendship and ask her out for COFFEE. I absolutely think going to a cofee shop to drink coffee is the worst event ever for me PERSONALLY. But its a great place for a first date. The worst? Movies: You can't talk to the person. A Concert: You can't talk freely to the person and what are the chances you both love the artist(s) Putt-Putt, bowling, or any competition: Don't do it. "Letting her win" is bad. Really losing is worse. Bar: You will question if her advances are true or are alcohol soaked. Going out for coffee is good because you can talk, and its EASY escape for either party, AND if things are going well you can THEN go to a bar, movie, etc, etc, etc. But if she (or you) doesn't want to continue the date to another locale, you can always "have to get up early". So, send her an email asking if she'd like to get get a cup of (horrible, overpriced) Starbucks. Tell her years later that you hate Starbucks and only went there for a good first date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 In my defense, there were a couple people in this thread that gave me the "thumbs up" so its not like i had my mind made up and was just flapping my gums. Coupled with a couple of people here that said they didnt see a problem with that either...and they are of the female persuasion... And now that I have done this little ice breaker....Myspace is history...now its gonna be in person or over the phone...i just needed that vehicle to get to the face to face Well, I still highly recommend growing a set, but let's go baby steps here. I absolutely disagree with your actions to this point. I mean, if you didn't want our advice and knew you were going to send her a myspace msg either way, why did you ask us???? Ok, lecture over. The worst outcome out of that would have been that "friend request" sitting there forever. Luckily, that didn't happen. Now that she accepted you as an "eFriend" lets move on past the 1s and 0s and ask this chick on a date. She knows what you're doing here... women always do. She doesn't think that you just want to be her friend. You're too far gone for that. You obviously looked up her name and searched her out on the internet. That's either creepy, desperate, or potentially (and this one's a stretch) "sweet" as she might think you're too shy too talk to her and find that refreshing. But now that you've done what you've done, and gone against all reason and rationale, you've actually opened a door. You, just because you're shy, don't lack the sense of knowing when a woman isn't interested. You will know. I would take the opportunity to break out of this eFriendship and ask her out for COFFEE. I absolutely think going to a cofee shop to drink coffee is the worst event ever for me PERSONALLY. But its a great place for a first date. The worst? Movies: You can't talk to the person. A Concert: You can't talk freely to the person and what are the chances you both love the artist(s) Putt-Putt, bowling, or any competition: Don't do it. "Letting her win" is bad. Really losing is worse. Bar: You will question if her advances are true or are alcohol soaked. Going out for coffee is good because you can talk, and its EASY escape for either party, AND if things are going well you can THEN go to a bar, movie, etc, etc, etc. But if she (or you) doesn't want to continue the date to another locale, you can always "have to get up early". So, send her an email asking if she'd like to get get a cup of (horrible, overpriced) Starbucks. Tell her years later that you hate Starbucks and only went there for a good first date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stuckincincy Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 In my defense, there were a couple people in this thread that gave me the "thumbs up" so its not like i had my mind made up and was just flapping my gums. Coupled with a couple of people here that said they didnt see a problem with that either...and they are of the female persuasion... And now that I have done this little ice breaker....Myspace is history...now its gonna be in person or over the phone...i just needed that vehicle to get to the face to face You should have contacted my blog... "Dear Crabby - Advice for the Love-worn". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevestojan Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 In my defense, there were a couple people in this thread that gave me the "thumbs up" so its not like i had my mind made up and was just flapping my gums. Coupled with a couple of people here that said they didnt see a problem with that either...and they are of the female persuasion... And now that I have done this little ice breaker....Myspace is history...now its gonna be in person or over the phone...i just needed that vehicle to get to the face to face I'm glad you broke the ice. Now, take her out for a cup of coffee. Keep us posted. and when you finally start dating, for all this typing we've done, we deserve a pic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeFerguson Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Status update.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 nothing to report at this time.....i won't leave y'all hangin...dont worry Status update.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricojes Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Well, I still highly recommend growing a set, but let's go baby steps here. Exactly...Pooj, I remember you posting when you were hot for someone in your office, but too scared to say anything. Sometime's you really just have to say "what the !@#$" and go for it. While you're methodically circling around and taking your time, there may be another seagull swooping in for that french fry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous Guy Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I can't believe I missed this thread! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stuckincincy Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I can't believe I missed this thread! Didn't you nix the Chantix? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous Guy Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 what i need is a really good wing man...my options right now are a guy who is my dearest friend in the world, but he has never really had a date in his life...and yes he is straight...the other option is a cadre of really hot girls...emphasis on really hot....who are really good friends....but i fear that girls would be intimidated by them....they really are hot....even to some of the bastards on this boards standards.... Damn Pooj just buy a Windows smartphone...and read these instructions! http://blogs.computerworld.com/windows_sma...t_sized_wingman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gavin in Va Beach Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I can't believe I missed this thread! Good motivation to make the wife happy and stay married, eh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayFinkle Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 UPDATE? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeFerguson Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 BUMP.....? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beerball Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 You should have contacted my blog... "Dear Crabby - Advice for the Love-worn". You blog? At your age? Dear Crabby is a great handle though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayFinkle Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 bumpy bumpy, we know you are here... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Poojer Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 no updates....been waaaay to busy at work to have any play time....then when i do have "time" i wind up collapsing.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John from Riverside Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Look Pooj.....just do it the JFH way.... Hit her over the head with your club and drag her back to your cave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodBye Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Look Pooj.....just do it the JFH way.... Hit her over the head with your club and drag her back to your cave Oh, I was wondering how I got this huge bump on my head... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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