IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I know, you're thinking Ed is more nuts than usual here...However... It's terrible. Everyone is gossiping, I hear everyone talking about one another behind everyone's backs. I work with about 9 women on a regular basis, and 1 guy comes in for one day twice a month...Grrrrr, it's frustrating. Any ideas on how to put up with this crap? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 any hot ones? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 any hot ones? 130082[/snapback] Haha, i was wondering who was going to ask that first. Yes...1 is married, and two just quit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thailog80 Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Men are worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I know, you're thinking Ed is more nuts than usual here...However... It's terrible. Everyone is gossiping, I hear everyone talking about one another behind everyone's backs. I work with about 9 women on a regular basis, and 1 guy comes in for one day twice a month...Grrrrr, it's frustrating. Any ideas on how to put up with this crap? 130081[/snapback] Ignore it, be pleasant but not personal, do not engage, do your work, and go home. If you show weakness you're dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 Ignore it, be pleasant but not personal, do not engage, do your work, and go home. If you show weakness you're dead. 130088[/snapback] We're big into "teams" at work. I just accepting the position of team leader because a. more pay, b. it gives me some power. Now I get to hear even more bitching. I just found out my co-worker is bitching about me behind my back to people. Why/ Because she's old school and doesn't like change, and I'm all about "if it's broke, fix it." Grrrr... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 We're big into "teams" at work. I just accepting the position of team leader because a. more pay, b. it gives me some power. Now I get to hear even more bitching. I just found out my co-worker is bitching about me behind my back to people. Why/ Because she's old school and doesn't like change, and I'm all about "if it's broke, fix it." Grrrr... 130090[/snapback] Welcome to reality. Like I said, be professional and don't get dragged down into the mud. You can be friendly, personable and at the same time give them nothing to hold you on. You start playing their game (and this holds true for men and women) and you end up where you can be compromised. You want to hear old school? Try working for the Pentagon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bear Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 We're big into "teams" at work. I just accepting the position of team leader because a. more pay, b. it gives me some power. Now I get to hear even more bitching. I just found out my co-worker is bitching about me behind my back to people. Why/ Because she's old school and doesn't like change, and I'm all about "if it's broke, fix it." Grrrr... 130090[/snapback] Next time they come to B word to you, ask them what they hell they are doing out of the kitchen. Seriously, if it were all men there would be the same problem, with a little more focus on the "behind the back" part of it. Women are just more blunt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 Welcome to reality. Like I said, be professional and don't get dragged down into the mud. You can be friendly, personable and at the same time give them nothing to hold you on. You start playing their game (and this holds true for men and women) and you end up where you can be compromised. You want to hear old school? Try working for the Pentagon. 130093[/snapback] Well, I'm afraid my boss will hear it and start to believe it. This girl has been at the company for quite some time. Should I preempt her and go to my boss saying I don't like all of the gossip going on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alaska Darin Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Well, I'm afraid my boss will hear it and start to believe it. This girl has been at the company for quite some time.Should I preempt her and go to my boss saying I don't like all of the gossip going on? 130098[/snapback] Nope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Well, I'm afraid my boss will hear it and start to believe it. This girl has been at the company for quite some time.Should I preempt her and go to my boss saying I don't like all of the gossip going on? 130098[/snapback] I don't know enough of your situation, but a guess would be that if this gal has been there a long time, your boss has her number. If your boss decides to side with her, knowing she's a cranky B word, your talking to her in pre-emption will probably do little good. Document your interactions. Seems as though you aren't talking about gossip as much as you're talking about backstabbing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 I don't know enough of your situation, but a guess would be that if this gal has been there a long time, your boss has her number. If your boss decides to side with her, knowing she's a cranky B word, your talking to her in pre-emption will probably do little good. Document your interactions. Seems as though you aren't talking about gossip as much as you're talking about backstabbing. 130106[/snapback] There's definately a healthy mix of both. She got another of our co-workers fired: the girl didn't do crap, but to go after someone's job... I just think that women are petty sometimes (with the exception of cable, 89, b4l, melissa, and aussie ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drnykterstein Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Grab their boobs, they'll shut up. I think its a womens on/off switch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TigerJ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Do your job. Make sure you communicate everything even more clearly than you think you need to. Document everything. If you've got someone sniping at you from the bushes, it's all about keeping your butt covered. Some more advice: Pick your battles. Make sure if you're going to have to fight for something (ie. a particular change) it's worth fighting for. Listen to people as much as possible. Even if you end up deciding to do what you intended all along, it may help the atmosphere if you at least listened to opposing points of view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Talonz Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I know, you're thinking Ed is more nuts than usual here...However... It's terrible. Everyone is gossiping, I hear everyone talking about one another behind everyone's backs. I work with about 9 women on a regular basis, and 1 guy comes in for one day twice a month...Grrrrr, it's frustrating. Any ideas on how to put up with this crap? 130081[/snapback] You think you have it bad ????? I work where the ratio is approximately 500 females to 15 males.. I feel your pain.. Men are NOT worse.. Women are cattie - Its a tough gig - Trust me, unless you been there you cant appreciate it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aussiew Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Women are cattie - Its a tough gig - Trust me, unless you been there you cant appreciate it Correction you guys...."unfullfilled" women are catty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dib Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 make sure you take your estrogen antidote every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick in* england Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Tell 'em you are gay. That way you'll get to hear the bitchiness - but you can be uber-bitchy and get away with it cos thats a camp thing to do. Tell em they look good in that brown all in one dress every now and again and they'll eat out the plam of your hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockpile Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I just found out my co-worker is bitching about me behind my back to people. Why/ Because she's old school and doesn't like change, and I'm all about "if it's broke, fix it." Grrrr... 130090[/snapback] Wasn't this just "gossip"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Correction you guys...."unfullfilled" women are catty. 130357[/snapback] Good point. The only woman I directly work with is a happily married Navy LT. Commander helicopter pilot. Nancy doesn't seem to have any "issues". Now, as to how Ed can address that...I'm not touching that one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmk-nj Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I also have women as supervisors... One is a Derector and the other is a manager. I think they are great, but think they are tougher... Oh, and I also work with CLEMENTS22. And he complains like a woman! Justr kidding. hehe tmk-nj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VABills Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 So you're becoming a boss. I guess more chances to embezzle money now, huh Ed? BTW, are you tapping any of that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 So you're becoming a boss. I guess more chances to embezzle money now, huh Ed? BTW, are you tapping any of that? 130492[/snapback] I guess we'll know when we get "Horrible Human Being" Redux. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillsNYC Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Dude...I know how you feel. Only man in an office with 20 women. HORRIBLE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gantrules Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I can relate. Where I work there are 12 guys in the entire place. There are 107 women. I'm the only guy in a department of 10. Here's what you do. Get to know them well seperately but avoid their groups. That can be the kiss of death. If you do this they will feel comfortable coming and talking to you because they know you but won't lose respect for you if you aren't in their click. Another thing, DO NOT go out to lunch with just a couple of them otherwise the other kitties will get mad and hold a grudge against you. Lastly, good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VABills Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Dude...I know how you feel. Only man in an office with 20 women. HORRIBLE 130503[/snapback] I hope they all have a different schedule for their cycle. Most guys get it a few days a month, you probably get it nonstop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Dude...I know how you feel. Only man in an office with 20 women. HORRIBLE 130503[/snapback] I have noticed that there aren't any complaints from the only guy working at Victoria's Secret. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark VI Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I have noticed that there aren't any complaints from the only guy working at Victoria's Secret. 130509[/snapback] That's because he burns the eternal flame and dates sophmores named Ken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 I have noticed that there aren't any complaints from the only guy working at Victoria's Secret. 130509[/snapback] Actually, my best friend Roman worked for Victoria's Secret for awhile. He liked it in th ebeginning, but he said all of the women he worked with were bitches. My theory? The hotter the girl, the bitchier/more mental problems she has. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erynthered Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I have noticed that there aren't any complaints from the only guy working at Victoria's Secret. 130509[/snapback] Only when he has to mdel a 3X T-back........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paco Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Any ideas on how to put up with this crap? 130081[/snapback] Get another job. I worked in a department where I was the only guy around twelve women. You can't have that many women comprising a department and still expect efficiency. I'm sorry. You just can't. I have hired a number of women in my life because they are outstanding workers individually. Especially in sales. But collectively? Complete opposite result. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paco Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Only when he has to mdel a 3X T-back........ 130517[/snapback] Leave T-Bone out of this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Actually, my best friend Roman worked for Victoria's Secret for awhile. He liked it in th ebeginning, but he said all of the women he worked with were bitches. My theory? The hotter the girl, the bitchier/more mental problems she has. 130516[/snapback] Shame you never met Darlene. Would blow that theory to hell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erynthered Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Leave T-Bone out of this. 130519[/snapback] You've now made me sick, thanks for that image........... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted November 23, 2004 Author Share Posted November 23, 2004 Shame you never met Darlene. Would blow that theory to hell. 130523[/snapback] Well, there are always exceptions. However, the exceptions are always snatched in a heartbeat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
R. Rich Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 I work in an office with a bunch of women. No hotties though. There are a couple who are fairly good looking, but none I would classify as being 'hot'. They do tend to yak quite a bit, too, especially in the morning before we open to the public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paco Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 You've now made me sick, thanks for that image........... 130528[/snapback] This should make you feel better. At least he's wearing Bills attire. This was back during his Bills phase he said was just a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gantrules Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 My theory? The hotter the girl, the bitchier/more mental problems she has. ---------------- Isn't that the truth..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BiB_ Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 Get another job. I worked in a department where I was the only guy around twelve women. You can't have that many women comprising a department and still expect efficiency. I'm sorry. You just can't. I have hired a number of women in my life because they are outstanding workers individually. Especially in sales. But collectively? Complete opposite result. 130518[/snapback] Hmmm, remind you of any professional football teams we know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erynthered Posted November 23, 2004 Share Posted November 23, 2004 This should make you feel better. At least he's wearing Bills attire. This was back during his Bills phase he said was just a joke. 130538[/snapback] I've been blinded by T-Bone Patsy Troll These could help, or a bra! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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