CTM,
Believe it or not, we are not that far apart on this one (despite the fact that you earlier described me as a "sanctimonious prick.") All I said is, it is much more complex than a simple cause-effect relationship. Many years ago, I was taught such simplicities as "Schizophrenia is caused by poor mothering" and other such sexist tripe that dismissed all behavioral problems as the fault of bad parenting. Of course, thanks to medical science, we now know that nothing is that simple, right? Many factors, including parenting, contribute to it. All I was attempting to do was to help Melissa to get off the "What did I do wrong" kick. Don't you know people who were great parents whose kids turned out to be real rotters and really bad parents who, somehow raised kids who became responsible, productive adults? It happens, and neither you or I have the equation at this time. Maybe someday....