IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guffalo Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] It's your choice, is he the best man? If he is, in your eyes, then so be it.... (Damn, I really wanted to bust chops and comment on how you pissed off every other guy you know) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 It's your choice, is he the best man? If he is, in your eyes, then so be it....(Damn, I really wanted to bust chops and comment on how you pissed off every other guy you know) 703619[/snapback] Haha, no. Part of the problem is, I don't know who to choose. I don't want to insult anybody. Second, my dad and I are close. I thought it would be a touching way to honor him. Paul made me think. We don't have forever on this earth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] I'm surprised he'd agree with it, given the gayness of his son's new car... (It's non-traditional, for sure...but I don't think it's strictly verboten. Traditionally, the parents have seats of honor in the front of the ceremony, which having dad as a best man kind of screws with - but it's just tradition, not an inviolable rule. If that's what you want, do it...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JÂy RÛßeÒ Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Just think of the Bachelor Party he'll throw for ya... Never Mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 Just think of the Bachelor Party he'll throw for ya... Never Mind. 703634[/snapback] I remember a Drew Carey episode, where his father wanted to watch porn with him or something... ::shudder:: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drnykterstein Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah go for it if you want. Its you're wedding. You have no one to please except your self. I've seen both fathers and mothers be bestmen/maid 'o honors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
apuszczalowski Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah go for it if you want. Its you're wedding. You have no one to please except your self. 703658[/snapback] No its not, its the future Mrs's wedding, he's just part of the ceramony, lol Unless its one of those "other" weddings, then it would be who ever gets to wear the dresses wedding (just joking with you) Honestly, I think its nice you would think of your father first for that role, and I think it is mostly tradition that say he should not be best man. Make the offer if thats what you want, the worst that can happen is he tells you hes touched but feels its not his place to be best man, or the worst thing is you have your dad to watch porn and hang out with at a strip club With the way modern weddings are going, nothing is tradition anymore so making a change like this isn't really going to be anything huge Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chef Jim Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] So who's giving away the bride, his mother? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 So who's giving away the bride, his mother? 703677[/snapback] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rastabillz Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beerball Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Would your father be honored? Would you be honored? If yes, do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Of course not. If he's the person you are closest with, it's entirely appropriate. I'm sure he'd be honored. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
X. Benedict Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Not tacky, and it does happen all the time. This is a hetero wedding, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plenzmd1 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Happening quite frequently now. Read an article that postulated that as a country we are getting older when we are first married, and as we tend to become closer to our parents in our mid thirties than our early twentys,we realize what our parents have meant to us, and so more men are choosing to have their ftahers as their bast man. I think its awesome BTW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VABills Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 What the hell, make it an all male wedding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stussy109 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KD in CA Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend. 703722[/snapback] What role does Father of the groom play? And why would his father have to plan the bachelor party?? Talk about a silly tradition that doesn't mean anything. His friends can arrange the night at Chippendales just fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MattyT Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend. 703722[/snapback] I don't recall Father of the Groom being a very big role. My Dad's role consisted of wearing a tux. Not too hard to eat, drink, and be merry on the poor Father of the Bride's dime. Other than monetary involvement, I'd be interested to hear what some other fathers have done to play a part in their son's wedding. Anyone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Where do I start? I'll need some time on this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockpile Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Check out Best Man and his Task List Traditionally the best man is an honor but also a lot of work. Personally, if my son (who is probably as old or older than you!) asked me to be his best man I would be extremely honored! He is one of my few best friends. But, I would politely decline so I could enjoy the wedding and bachelor party, not plan or work at them. Have you talked to your Dad yet to see what HIS thoughts are? Haha, no. Part of the problem is, I don't know who to choose. I don't want to insult anybody. Second, my dad and I are close. I thought it would be a touching way to honor him. Paul made me think. We don't have forever on this earth. 703628[/snapback] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockpile Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 I only "married off" one daughter so far. I walked her down the aisle and 'gave her away' to a very fine man. As father of the bride or groom you traditionally have a place in the wedding party, reception line, a special dance with the wife and the new bride, etc. It is rarely only on the "father of the bride's dime" anymore too. My wife and I paid for the reception (including an open bar) and wedding dress. We would have helped more, but at the time we were pissed at the new in-laws for trying to control everything, so we let them - and we let them pay for it too! My son-in-law is a great husband, father and second son. How he came from such POS parents astounds me. (I bet they feel the same way about me!) I don't recall Father of the Groom being a very big role. My Dad's role consisted of wearing a tux. Not too hard to eat, drink, and be merry on the poor Father of the Bride's dime. Other than monetary involvement, I'd be interested to hear what some other fathers have done to play a part in their son's wedding. Anyone? 703727[/snapback] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Many times the best man sleeps with the bride to be prior to the wedding. There are some pros and cons here. PRO: Your father is older than you so he may tire easily leaving you some opportunity. CON: Any resulting pregnancy may lead you to believe you are the real father due to DNA similarities. PRO: You may be able to trust your father to keep his hands off out of loyalty to you. CON: Another best man may live far away and only have a few opportunities to sleep with your fiance. After the wedding they would be back home and too far away for anything but phone/webcam sex. Your father would always have a chance at holidays/etc. There are many more pros and cons but these are the big ones with long term implications. think about them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Go for it. That's exactly what I did when I got married many moons ago. If some traditionalist doesn't approve, too damned bad. It's your wedding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OGTEleven Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] It's definitely not tacky. I agree with some others here that think your father may want to enjoy his role as father of the groom. I'd ask him but also let him know that you won't be offended if he declines because he wants to sit back and enjoy. Good Luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taterhill Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 let your old man enjoy the wedding...ask Scott Stevens..he does not have much going on now... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kegtapr Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man..... 703703[/snapback] Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taterhill Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that. 703794[/snapback] to save time..often Weddings and family reunions are on the same day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
X. Benedict Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Many times the best man sleeps with the bride to be prior to the wedding. There are some pros and cons here. PRO: Your father is older than you so he may tire easily leaving you some opportunity. CON: Any resulting pregnancy may lead you to believe you are the real father due to DNA similarities. PRO: You may be able to trust your father to keep his hands off out of loyalty to you. CON: Another best man may live far away and only have a few opportunities to sleep with your fiance. After the wedding they would be back home and too far away for anything but phone/webcam sex. Your father would always have a chance at holidays/etc. There are many more pros and cons but these are the big ones with long term implications. think about them. 703765[/snapback] That settles it. I am not going to be best man if my Dad remarries. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ramius Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then! 703703[/snapback] Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that. 703794[/snapback] i was just trying to figure out the logistics of how the same person can be best man and walk his daugter up the aisle at the same wedding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beerball Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then! i was just trying to figure out the logistics of how the same person can be best man and walk his daugter up the aisle at the same wedding. 703852[/snapback] You forgot the logistical problems that arise when he's also the groom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 You forgot the logistical problems that arise when he's also the groom. 703857[/snapback] And you forgot the logistics of Ed's dad. He also has something that will be arising. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 And you forgot the logistics of Ed's dad. He also has something that will be arising. 703895[/snapback] You're stooping down to VABills' level (which is all of 3 feet) when it comes to jokes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 You're stooping down to VABills' level (which is all of 3 feet) when it comes to jokes. 703975[/snapback] Probably because VA is too busy filming the next Expedia commercial to make them himself... P.S. Gay. Car. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 Probably because VA is too busy filming the next Expedia commercial to make them himself... P.S. Gay. Car. 703996[/snapback] Fit>Prius Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BUFFALOTONE Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] I am actually going to 2 weddings in July and both guys have there dads as best man. So i believe it its a nice gesture. On the other hand why the hell do you want to get married?Run man run like the wind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stuckincincy Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Go for it. That's exactly what I did when I got married many moons ago. If some traditionalist doesn't approve, too damned bad. It's your wedding. 703768[/snapback] It's your wedding, but only to a degree, Simon. I've certainly no objection to having Dad as Best Man. But a wedding is not "yours". Guests are invited from all walks of life. It is poor indeed, when the couple inflicts their will upon others...the people who wiped their as*ses when they were young, saw to their education, saw to their nutrition, and so forth. Just because you invite someone doesn't mean same were wating for decades for the wonderful opportunity to kiss the nuptials' butts. I recall a former poster here adamanently avering that it was HIS da*n wedding, and that he would have HIS loud, FY music. He got a round of criticism - hope he learned something. The wedding couple are first and formost, hosts of a celebration, and must be thankful that others cared to show, and should set things up with that in mind and act accordingly. Those who insist otherwise make a lasting impression... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Fit>Prius 703998[/snapback] Yeah. Shut up, Brokeback Honda boy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kegtapr Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Fit>Prius 703998[/snapback] You two can settle this on the Keebler racing circuit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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