Jim, I am with you, my ex and i did a JoP wedding then later in the summer we had a big cook-out party at my parents house...we asked for no gifts, we just wanted to have a party...granted not the same as a formal wedding situation, but we made the decision not to go that route because we wanted a 'non-pressure' celebration of us and those around us. And who ever said you got an invitation, not an admission ticket...very well put