you're 100% correct. single in the suburbs is not the most happening thing. i don't know many single guys my age, but some i know have lived in the apartments by village gate, east ave and the sibleys building.
the going out scene has changed a ton. i'm 47, so we did the monroe ave, east and a, and mostly park ave. as far as i know, the park ave bars we went to, (they were called preps and park bench) have closed. people just stopped coming. i love the village gate, but i'm mostly a restaurant scene now. fairport is the new down town. the number of new bars and restaurants is amazing. live music all summer. the parking has become the issue. if you haven't been back in a while, it's worth checking out the village.