I'm a HS counselor by day... So I kind of see this stuff on a regular basis. The trick to getting through to him is acknowledging his feelings for this girl as legitimate, and that the love is real etc etc, however, you want to keep as many options open as possible! You dont want to close any doors available for yourself to walk through right now. WHile your love for your girl is priority #1, you also have to look out for yourself, because unfortunately statistics show that most relationships don't work. Give 100% towards your girl, however, keep moving forward with your own life as well as to not risk falling behind. Without a college degree, go over his options for jobs, and be like, do you want to raise a family while working at walmart, or being a secretary, or have to pick up a trade. Now not everyone without a college degree isn't necessarily "broke", however your chances for success, and your chances to get a a job where you can "prove yourself" are slim. Feel free to email me at Stussy109@aol.com, or your nephew could email me as well if he chooses.