If you're in the Hudson Valley you'll save a ton on taxes by moving south. The down side is McLean is where Ethel Kennedy etc. etc. live(d) soooo while 60K is very respectable, it's not going to get you into McLean absent a BIG down payment.
Having said that, get used to the Commute from somewhere. RT 7 W of McLean is a Beeatch. I-66 towards Manassas is not too much better. The big question is what hours will you be working? If you can somehow tele-communte or work "off" hours Loudon or Clarke Counties are doable. There are some that go out as far as Winchester VA. & Gettysburg PA. I know that sounds obsurd, but that's where they can find a place that fits their needs and is affordable.
The sales tax in VA is 4.5%, the state income tax is not too bad, and you're not supporting the Hildabeast in NY. state.
Good luck! It's a big decision, but the farther S of NY/CONN, you go, the more you will have left in your pocket. N VA has 2 Wegman's and with Direct TV, it's better than "home."