Security wanted to search my bag heading into a music festival (this was long before they started doing this to everyone) and they weren't checking anyone else's, so I said no. Well there was a cop standing close by and then he came over and he wanted to check and I also said no. The security says no check, no entry, so I said fine I'm not coming in. The cop proceeded to follow me and continue to ask to look in the bag. I kept saying no, none of your business what's in the bag. He was pissed, but too bad for him. His partner came over and basically said forget it.
I have also been pulled over for a broken headlight and asked if it was ok to have a look in my car......um NO, it's not ok.
Spoke to the cops through the locked screen door while hosting a party and they were there on a noise complaint (many years ago). They said they were going to come in and have a look around, I said not unless you have a warrant. I can come out for you to give me the ticket....
I'm not saying to never listen to the police, but you don't have to do something just because they tell you to. You have rights.
At that point she was not drunk behind the wheel of a car and from the looks of it, not under arrest either, therefore under no obligation to follow this !@#$s order to get into her car. Why would he want her to get into her car? If she was so shitfaced, why not his car?