i had those too. " You're not good enough, you'll never make it, yada yada" and it wasn't some reverse psychology they really meant it. My dad used to laugh when ever i lost a wrestling match which was a lot my first year. I said to myself if he laughs again we are going to have a fight !!! But i won my next match which i believe was God keeping our relationship intact. after that i got pretty good so he quit laughing, being bigger stronger and a better wrestler didn't hurt either.