I can respect that. Any time you 'organize' there's going to be politics. I have seen this firsthand and would be lying if I said otherwise. For me though, I know what I believe but I also know how good it is for children to learn and then be able to make their own decisions. My boys happily go to a weekly youth group that I feel has benefitted them greatly by keeping them centered and helping to instill character beyond what my wife and I teach them. They also have their peers to discuss the challenges they face in life- such things as sex, masterbation and you get the drift...things that they can discuss in a comfortable setting with others who share their values.
I don't try to scare my boys that they'll go to hell if they don't repent, but more so to provide them a foundation from which they can make sound decisions in their life, fully understanding that they're going to make mistakes. I guess this is off-topic and some smart guy will jump in with a real 'zinger' but you seem to be mature enough to discuss this with.