Don't go if it bothers you that much, simple as that. I am by no means wealthy, but have had the pleasure of sitting both in the VIP area (thanks to friends) and more frequently with the "common folks". Both were very enjoyable experiences. Obviously I enjoyed the food in the VIP area, but the viewing (from the endzone) was not as good as some of the bleachers seating. I far and above preferred the views from the top of the bleachers with the "common folks".
If you hate the bus rides, I wonder how much you would enjoy the traffic jam that would follow if they didn't do remote parking. They don't have much of a choice on this. It was nicer when they used air conditioned RTA buses, I'll give you that.
BTW the reason they "cater" to those rich folks is because those are the people who have donated thousands-hundreds of thousands of dollars to St. John Fisher College, Bishop Carney High, Strong Hospital etc... They aren't being fed on a silver spoon. They are being given tickets and MAYBE a $40 plate/drinks for thousands of dollars of donations. Seems pretty reasonable to me...