Thanks to all for the condolences.The real point was weather you care or haven't thought about it,you should. Then make your decisions and communicate them to all who need to know. It makes an impossible time at least doable.
Wills,living wills,health care proxy, DNR,etc all good to have and know. Remember just because you know wishes ,you are likely in shock and others in family need to know to carry on.
Joan was a hardcore bills fan and I hope she smiles on them as I know she is to me.
Thank you
Rob