ExiledInIllinois Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Which is why I asked about his parents. My mother died when the six of us kids were pretty young (ranging in age from 5 to 18). To this day, the oldest -- a sister -- is a diabolical control freak who thinks she should dictate every portion of every one else's life. Personally, I keep my son away. Despite being family, she brings nothing to the table of any value. That was my thinking too LA... I was waiting for a reply from him on your question... Even if the parents are still around, the oldest first born sister usually acts that way... Not as much I suppose. Interesting thread and good luck HN! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Sorry to hear that man...I think you did everything right. Depressing thing is, I think I may be married to your sister... You get your sorry arse to the supermarket and make it quick! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 HelloNewman - They are a pair of self-centered jerks. You will never change that. Forget the psychobabble previously posted. Your sister and BIL violated any and all gracious actions that one affords to a guest - the general idea being that one invites company into one's house because you like them and like to hear what's new, what their thoughts are about friends and family are these days, and to show some amity and generosity of spirit. You tried to be accommodating, but it's proven to be a lost cause. Sorry that that has happened... but you and your wife don't deserve to be stuffing yourselves with antacids over their actions. Perhaps some day they will come around. It's not your job to wait for that. Yes - all have different personalities. Yes - we all shoulder certain things from our family that we would not support for others, because we care and have a history together. So understanding and tolerance is the rule. But rudeness, imperiousness cuts cruel and hard when a special relationship is exploited. By all means, keep up caring about the little niece, in the small ways you can. Sadly, your tale seems to say she will need it - these two seem to be far more in love with themselves than with their little one. Move on - hug your dear wife and child...that's your miracle worked. You can't work one for your sister. Very well said! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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