[Charges dropped in Reuben Foster DV case]

13 minutes ago, Hapless Bills Fan said:

 

I think you've got the chicken and the egg all scrambled here.

If the known patterns of DV apply here (and they probably do), the reason she recanted and said it was false, is probably BECAUSE he is continuing to date her.

 

Here, it could be a friend or family member of any of us involved in this cycle someday:

Researchers listened to conversations between 17 accused male abusers in a Washington state detention facility and their female victims, all of whom decided to withdraw accusations of abuse. The couples knew they were being recorded,

In the initial conversations there would often be a heated argument over events leading to the abuse charge, Bonomi said. The victim would be strong and resist the accused perpetrator’s account of what happened.

Then the perpetrator would minimize the abuse until he persuaded the victim he didn’t deserve a felony charge. He would appeal to her sympathy, saying he was depressed and missed her and their children, Bonomi said.

In one case, the accused perpetrator threatened suicide before the victim promised to help him get out of jail.

In the third stage, the couples bond over their love for each other and the perpetrator gets the victim to recant.

 

I'm not saying the charges are true.  Maybe they're false.   But the victim recanting doesn't prove it.  The experience of prosecutors all across the country suggests that DV victims recanting abuse that actually happened is a common theme - the study above got it all on tape.

 

The interesting thing here is that in this particular case, the DA didn’t believe the charges were worth pursuing. Added to that her previous retractions, and you have a clear reason for dismissal. 

 

So many people are far to quick assume guilt and innocence. Both of the people need to learn the value of a healthy relationship. Maybe that’s the cycle that needs to be broken? I’m going to sound like a broken record, but this is where a young man needs a mentor. Whether it’s a father, or an uncle, or a coach or a teammate; this young man needs to be shown a better way. That THIS is not what good relationships look like. 

[Charges dropped in Reuben Foster DV case]

30 minutes ago, SoTier said:

 

That's a naive statement.  There can be "issues like this" on any team because teams can't control whom their players form relationships with.   Moreover, it takes two people to have a relationship, and sometimes people who are attracted to one another may not necessarily be good partners for one another outside of the bedroom.  Plus, there's always a possibility that people can develop psychological issues over time or start to abuse drugs or alcohol.  Some people, male and female, are really good at figuring out what pushes their significant others' buttons  -- and get their jollies doing so.   I'm not making excuses for any guy who hits a woman, but volatile domestic situations are not always the guy's fault, so you can't sanctimoniously blame a lack of "good moral leadership" on the part of the team when they erupt.

 

Thank you for the dissertation on relationships. I think you didn’t exactly get the point of what i was saying.

 

When you are a young man with an ego and money and don’t have the right people in the locker room or the professional environment, you can often go the wrong way. 

 

You can call it naivety, but as an adult, I’ve found that mentorship and leadership are two of the most important qualities to have in life, especially in the professional world. 

 

There are fewer incidents of Personal Conduct Policy Violations on teams with strong leadership from top to bottom. That means Front Office, Coaching staff, and teammates.

[Charges dropped in Reuben Foster DV case]

11 minutes ago, Augie said:

 

This clown needs a reverse restraining order, or a little self control. I wouldn’t want to be in the same county with her after all this stuff! But I guess being smart is not really his thing..... 

 

Or...maybe there’s a certain amount of genius here. He knows this one can be bought. 

 

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I think it’s safe to assume they both need to stay away from each other. At some point SOMEONE in his life needs to say “my friend, you two are going to bring each other down. Stay away from her.”

 

something to be said for the process in all this. There aren’t issues like this on your team when you have good moral leadership from top down. 

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That Clay pass is inexcusable 

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2 minutes ago, RaoulDuke79 said:

I like the rushing TDs, but I'd also like to see those decrease and the passing TD's increase as they add some more offense weapons. 

 

I like the rushing TD’s. I’d like to see more passing ones as well, but anytime he can run 30 yards and score, I’ll take it. 

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Always looking downfield is going to payoff in the end. He’s got fire and a passion for the game and for winning. The numbers aren’t important at this point. How he plays is the differenc between him and ANY QB we’ve seen since Kelly.