I like to take in the opinions of how people got to their particular point of view in order to learn something. Perhaps I'll learn something about the topic, something about the person I am speaking to, or connect the discussion to something I have learned in the past. Because of inherent biases (in all of us), I have little interest in persuading anyone to take my exact viewpoint on something. as my viewpoint, no matter how persuasive, is never going to be seen the same way between us. I have little interest in winning or losing an argument/discussion because it does not matter. What matters is learning something and using that learned something to better my own or someone elses life, no matter how infinitely small that betterment is.