Recommendations for in-home care?

[DrDawkinstein]

Very sorry, @NewEra

 

I had good results finding help for my mom on Care.com. You'll have to pay for the full membership, but they give a lot of options. You post a job description of what you need and then get a bunch of applicants to weed through. May or may not be what you are looking for but just another option to have.

 

Good luck.

On 7/19/2022 at 8:18 PM, NewEra said:

The doctor said that she needs to be in a nursing home or 24 hour in home care.  Could there be legal ramifications if I pull my mother out of the facility, bring her to her home and stay with her while also hiring part time assistance?  I’m ok paying 6-8k a month for her care, but hoping to avoid the 13-20k I’m told it costs for 24hr care.  
 

after I access her health, if I feel that she doesn’t have long to live and she continues to go downhill can I get in trouble for taking her out of a stable situation and bringing her to her home to pass?  Sad to say, but that could be the situation.  

 

To answer your questions, no, I've never heard of anyone getting in trouble for bringing someone home. Maybe only if there was obvious neglect after, but I doubt that would be the case here. People can choose where they want to go.

[NewEra]

59 minutes ago, DrDawkinstein said:

Very sorry, @NewEra

 

I had good results finding help for my mom on Care.com. You'll have to pay for the full membership, but they give a lot of options. You post a job description of what you need and then get a bunch of applicants to weed through. May or may not be what you are looking for but just another option to have.

 

Good luck.

 

To answer your questions, no, I've never heard of anyone getting in trouble for bringing someone home. Maybe only if there was obvious neglect after, but I doubt that would be the case here. People can choose where they want to go.

Thanks for the info.  
 

Fast forward 3 years:  we took her in with us a month or so after making the OP and she’s still living with us.  Shes now able to walk and use the bathroom on her own.  Her dementia hasn’t gotten much worse (if at all).  We contemplated moving her back into her home in Dunkirk and getting some outside help but she didn’t want to go.  

[DrDawkinstein]

11 minutes ago, NewEra said:

Thanks for the info.  
 

Fast forward 3 years:  we took her in with us a month or so after making the OP and she’s still living with us.  Shes now able to walk and use the bathroom on her own.  Her dementia hasn’t gotten much worse (if at all).  We contemplated moving her back into her home in Dunkirk and getting some outside help but she didn’t want to go.  

 

Oh wow, didnt even catch the date on this. Glad to hear it's going well.

 

In similar fashion, last month we moved my 75yr old mother down to Atlanta and into the house right next door to us, because I couldn't do much to help her 900 miles away in Buffalo and she had been deteriorating rapidly. Very similar issues, couldnt walk on her own, her mind fading fast... It's only been a few weeks, but with the new engagement and purpose she's making leaps and bounds. Already like a completely new person.

 

I had pitched it as a "snow bird" trial run for a few months because she was hesitant to leave the only house she's known for 50 years. But now she's already talking about what needs to get done to sell the old house and stay here permanently.

 

Sounds like we need to grab a beer and start the "Good Sons Club"