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billsdiva007

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  1. I'm a boy, early 20's, and have a friend who I really like that just wants to be friends. From the view of a guy I have some female friends who are just friends because I'm not attracted to. Some female friends I am attracted to, but I don't like their personalities enough to ever seriously consider anything beyond fantasy, then there are the rest. I asked out my friend who I liked and she turned me down.

    So, you need to be very careful because being in his situation potentially, when she shows affection or interest in me it makes me think maybe she is reconsidering. Then I see her interested in someone else, mentally call myself an idiot and act moody around her because I blame her for something that isn't her fault. And I'm more thoughtful than the average guy.

    Basically it would appear that your friend likes you enough that he doesn't want to upset you even over his own desire to be with you. That is really dangerous, because that means that this guy might not only really like you, but really care about you too, but not in the ONLY way you want him to.

    One good way you could try to lessen some of the tension is...well talk to him about other girls, he must be at least interested in others. If not, he's crazy. If you truly have no attraction to him, then what do you care if he starts seeing other girls. If the thought of him spending most of/all of his time with other girls bugs you, then you're not being entirely honest with yourself and you're holding yourself back.

    The girl I like goes out of her way sometimes to put me down. Not so much to be mean, but more so because I think deep down she wants to make sure she doesn't like me and make sure she isn't making she won't regret not being with me later down the line. She's very good at sending mixed messages and does just enough to make me think she might be interested. This boy was brave enough to put himself on the line and tell you how he feels. Make sure you are consistent and only act as a friend to him. Don't be flirty, don't run to him when you have a bad day, because my guess is he still really likes you and has just accepted the feelings aren't mutual.

     

     

    Wow, you are really wise beyond your years young man & I appreciate your input! Don't put up with the girl you like putting you down either, dude where were you when I was my 20's?

  2. I gotta chime in and agree with the other ladies on this thread. Never. Ever.

     

    Do you know WHY this chick and your friend broke up in the first place? Was it because of her behavior?

     

    You think she's nutty now, I can't imagine what she'd be like if you bang her and toss her over. :ph34r:

     

     

    Exactly! Hey Stl Bills, have you ever heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? It's true you know & if bang her and kick her 2 da curb afterwards she will make your life a living hell, if you think she's crazy now she'll REALLY be a nutcase then!!

  3. OK everyone, what do you all think about this one? 1 of my best friends is a guy & we have been friends since high school back in the day. He's a great guy, but a few years ago he suggested that we become more than friends & I declined because I wasn't feeling dude like that plus he's like a brother 2 me. Needless to say, he didn't agree & we ended up having a big argument about it & not speaking for years. Fast forward to the present, we talked & got everything out in the open & now we are cool, but our friendship is different & kinda distant now. What should I do? I value our friendship, but I don't want him getting the wrong idea.

     

     

    Well, if anyone cares, me & dude are still friends & he seems to understand that is all we'll ever be. so I guess it all worked out for the best.

  4. When we drafted JP there was alot of talk about him having similiar type qualities of Brett Farve. Well, Holmgren was the one who spearheaded that trade with Atlanta and he also took Farve's back up with him to Seattle.

     

    Matt Hasselbeck is getting up there in years and his back up, Seneca Wallace, is really being looked at as a potential WR. That makes sense when you really think about it. Since 1999 the 'Hawks have gone thru more than their share of WRs. Starting with Joey Galloway, Koren Robinson, Darryl Jackson, Deion Branch, Nate Burleson, Bobby Ingram, and DJ Hackett. Most of them are gone and the ones left are either ancient, hurt or disappointing. I'm sure that they regret trading that 1st rder for Branch, the guy has been hurt more times than not. They do have Jordan Kent on their practice squad and it wouldn't surprise if they incorporate him into their offense this year.

     

    I guess that they could always fall back on Charlie Frye but the last time that I remember Frye was watching when Braylon Edwards was verbally undressing him on national TV. Charlie Frye as the future franchise QB? I don't think so.

     

    It's a natural transition looking back on Holmgren's QBs to expect the Seahawks to think that Farve to Hasselbeck to Losman are QBs that have similiar type of physical and athletic attributes.

     

     

    I am too, I think JP would do well in Seattle, Holgrem's just to man to get him back on track & give him what he never had here: GOOD COACHING!! I hope he stays though, what happens if Trent gets hurt?

  5. Not a fan of either team, but I will say that the Red Sox have damn near become the Yankees. For years they cried about the Yankees buying championships & players & now the Red Sox have turned around and done the same ish! I will say that while I'm not a fan of either, I do like like Jeter <_< & Big Papi, classy guys.

  6. OK, from a female perspective, DON'T DO IT!!!!!! Not worth losing a friend over, I make it a rule to NEVER, EVER, & yes I mean EVA, EVA mess w/ any of my girls exes, I don't care if he's smoking hot & ripped to shreads, he's still damaged goods, besides there's a reason why he's someone's

    ex. Crazy too huh? RUN 4 YOUR LIFE DUDE!!!!!!

  7. unfortunately, we're only getting your side of the story. i'm sure that there's a lot of things left out as to why he feels this way. for all we know, you could have been leading him on. kind of like the jackass chasing the carrot, while you're the one dangling it front of him, and he's pulling the cart with you in it.

     

    Nah, I didn't even know that he was feeling me like that, it kinda weirded me out when he did tell me. Trust me, when I'm flirting w/ a guy he will DEFINATELY know it!

  8. WOW guys, thanx 4 all the feedback! I guess I'll find out how it all plays out eventually, my guess is that we'll just be friends because 4 me it's ALL ABOUT THE CHEMISTRY & I don't feel any sparks w/dude. Man, relationships take alot of work, maybe I'll stay single for awhile! :wallbash: I think I'm a lil gun shy 2, had my heartbroken a few times, ahhhhhhhhh................. what is this thing called love REALLY about???

  9. Don't kid yourself, you can't have it both ways. Ever watch "When Harry met Sally"? Billy Crystal's character outlines this issue at one point in the movie: The sexual attraction will always get in the way of a friendship. Especially in your case. Your friend was pretty overt about his interest in you! I do believe that men and women can have relationships WITH an attraction towards each other and NOT act on it, given their maturity level, and having partners of their own that they love (among other things). But these relationships are almost always casual or professional (as in coworker). The intimacy that I think you are looking for usually leads to the "more" your friend wanted, or distance.

     

     

    Thanx 4 the feedback, but there's no attraction on my part.

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